Post # 1
Hey all, I have a quick flower girl question. My niece was born in July of this year. My FI and I hope to tie the knot in September of next year, making her about 14 months. I would love to have her as my flower girl, but I’m wondering if she may still be too young? It doesn’t have to be perfect, and I wouldn’t expect anything but just a bunch of cuteness walking down the aisle… but is this a play it by ear thing? Would it be helpful to have another, slightly older girl to help her? Sorry if this has been asked before!
Post # 2
she is young, but that doesn’t mean she can’t be the flower girl. my daughter was 17 months and was our flower girl. she did great at the rehersal, walked and ran down the aisle. wedding day=complete meltdown. she didn’t want to walk/stand or go with anyone. So I just carried her down the aisle with me when my dad walked me down the aisle. We knew there was a chance of this happening and we were ok with it. It looked adorable! As long as you are open to anything happening, they I’d say go for it. Just have a plan a, b, c & d!
Post # 3
BusyBee17: I’ve seen flower girls that young, but she would have to be accompanied by someone, either an older child, another member of the bridal party, or a parent. At that age it is really, really iffy – I don’t think I’ve seen it go smoothly at that age to be honest. But of course, it’s not the end of the world if it doesn’t go well. I have seen very young children (and even a little older ones) cry all the way down or flat out refuse to go though. But if you and your niece’s parents are OK playing it by ear, you can always try!
Post # 4
My niece was 12 months for my wedding, she looked goregous with her little white dress!!! 🙂
Post # 5
Our niece was just 18 months and was our flower girl. Instead of the traditional flower girl right before the bride, we had her walk down first with her brother, with her parents right afterwards. We tried during rehersal having her go right before me, and that didn’t really work. She was a bit too scared, and that was with only 8 people there, not the 200 people who were going to be in our wedding. Her five year old brother walked with her, so that helped. About halfway down the aisle she saw some other children who she really wanted to meet, and it ended up with her parents picking her up as they walked down the aisle, which was very sweet and worked out just fine. We gave her a teddy bear instead of flowers because she is still at the age of “If it can fit in my mouth, it can go into my mouth.”
Her grandparents (not parents of the groom, but BIL’s parents) were seated in the third row, and her and her brother went there when they were about to have a mid ceremony break down.
The only thing that I would have done different is I would have brought something to bribe her with during photos. We don’t have many photos with her or her brother, which I’m still a bit upset about. I would have also communicated better with BIL’s parents that I wanted both kids still in their wedding clothes post cremony because we barely have any pictures with them before the ceremony. Niece was very cranky at photo time, and I really didn’t want to have cranky children photos. I’m still glad not to have cranky children photos, but I’m sad at having so few photos of us with the kids.
Post # 6
my niece was just under two years at our wedding and she walked down the aisle with a basket!
Post # 7
BusyBee17: It also depends on the child. Some kids are great with people, some aren’t at any age. I was 4 years old when I was first a flower girl, and it was a 200-300 person wedding, where I knew very few of the people. I was absolutely terrified when everyone turned to look at me! So if the girl you want as your flower girl is pretty young or is just shy, it would probably work a lot better to have someone walk with her. I also agree with PP – have plans from a-z for what happens if she refuses to walk, refuses to take pictures, is scared, is distracted, etc.
Post # 8
My neice was just over a year and she ended up not being able to walk down the aisle (a whole other story as she was intended to walk with her mother). Anyway, i would say if they are being accompanied then it doesn’t matter. But generally 1.5 year should be the minimum.
Post # 10
My babes was 18 months when she was our flower girl. Cute as pecan pie but not the most dilligent of flower girls! She took a couple of steps holding a flower then dropped it and wandered off (small room, there was nowhere for her to go).
We weren’t expecting her to be ‘on-task’ so it was completely fine.
Post # 11
BusyBee17: I went to a cousin’s wedding where the flower girl was about that age. The girl’s mom brought a giant lollypop and sat in the front pew with it. When the flower girl was led to the back of the churh, the mom held out the candy so she could see it and the flower girl toddled down the aisle so she could get her hands on the sweets.
I’d just caution: have a back-up plan (either someone to escort her down the aisle or just be willing to forego having her actually do the walk day-of if she’s uncooperative)
Post # 12
BusyBee17: It really depends. We had a flower girl who was just shy of 3 years old.
I was totally prepared for her mom, my friend, to carry her down the aisle should she have a case of the shys. It ended up being great because she followed behind my nephews and herded them down the aisle, too! My nephews were 4 & 6, but it can be daunting on the day of.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
The youngest I’ve seen was barely 2. Let’s just say it didn’t go as planned. She had no concept of what was going on, so when they told her to walk down the aisle with 200 people staring at her in a giant church, she froze and just started screaming. Her mom had to carry her down the aisle while she bawled her eyes out and screamed at the top of her lungs.
Post # 14
My one year old neice was my flower girl, and she did great! She walked down holding moms hand, and from what Im told, was smiling at every row and just eating up all the attention. We had a backup plan (relative seated near the front) in case she started crying or something, but she sat nicely by her moms feet and played with the bouquet during our 15-20 min ceremony with no issues
Post # 15
BusyBee17: my nephew was that age when he was a page boy for my other brothers wedding. we just didnt make a big deal out of it and he didn’t freak out.
his mum who was a bridesmaid carried him up to the back of the isle, and my brother the groom crotched at the front with his arms out. His mum then said to him ‘go to uncle xxx’ and off tottled/ ran my nephew straight into my brothers arms.
ok it was probably the fastest anyone has ever gone down the isle but it was also pretty dam cute.
if he had freaked out his mum could have just carried him or taken him back outside – no big deal
hope that helps – she will be adorable