(Closed) Your actual thoughts on your Ering… Proud to show it of, or ashamed?

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Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I pretty much picked out my ring, so I obviously love it. However, the way that my Fiance acquired it is what makes me so proud of it. His friend is a jeweler in Florida, so he made up an elaborate story about going on a business trip to Baltimore so i wouldn’t know he was going to get the ring (if he had said FLA, I would know immediately). He went to pick the ring up in person to make sure everything was perfect and how I wanted it. I know that seems kind of silly, but it was really amazing to know how much he went through just to keep the ring a surprise.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I love my ring, so I’m proud to show it off, that said, it isn’t tiny (3/4 carat center stone with a halo, some people might consider that small… I don’t know).  But I was engaged previously and the center stone was the same size (if not a little bigger) than the one I have now,  and I was embarassed to show it off, but mostly because I just didn’t like the style…  That was also (obviously) the wrong guy, so no big deal there, it was just another red flag (of many) that I should have paid attention to.

Now, I don’t care if my Fiance never bought me a ring, it’s just about him wanting to marry me and spending our lives together.  Gods honest truth.  Although my ring is gorgeous, it wasn’t a necessity. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Unfortunately, this will happen. People that are clueless can be motion to “face palm” of course, but in the end we all know what WE’VE got! That should put the smile back on our faces. . . right?

 

 

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I totally agree!! I love my ring and I wouldnt trade it for the world. There are many girls that have bigger rings and I really dont care. I think your e ring symbolizes where you are when you first start your lives together. And should never be looked down on. Im glad you have such a good outlook on this tho, simply bc some girls do not. But Im sure there are plenty that do. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would never been ashamed of my ring! Its 1/5th carat, .20 or so on the carat chart. Its exactly what I wanted! My hubby had me a 1/2 carat princess cut diamond ring on layaway, that costed three times as much as the ring I have now. So one night I started thinking how he had to pay each month for this ring, another bill not needed, yah know? So, I told him the next morning I didn’t want that ring anymore. We went to the store took it out of layaway took the money he had put on the ring already and bought me the ring I have now. I love it, hubby would have kept putting money on that ring no matter how long it took. But I thought to myself, we can be using this money to save for things to do TOGETHER. Like vacations, weekend trips, hiking, ect. And that’s when I decided I wanted the smaller less expensive ring & I am very proud of it because my hubby got it for me!!!!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My ring is a 0.5 carat and I love it to death. It definitely wasn’t an over-the-top expensive ring, but our finances are going to be mixed in just two short weeks, so I’m GLAD he didn’t spend his entire life savings on an engagement ring.

I know some girls have always dreamed of a giant bauble that would rival a queen’s, but that’s just not me. I’m a simple person and therefore love my simplistically elegant ring. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I adore my ring.  It is perfect for me.  Its a one carat solitaire and gemstone band.  It is traditional you unconventional just like me.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Okay, I’ll be the one out of the group to say something a little different, but here goes..

The ring is very important to me. It’s not so much about it being big enough to make other people happy, & honestly the size of my ring will probably be a down side in other eyes.

But I am a HUGE jewelry fan. The ring is important to me because it’s my chance to get one peice of very expensive jewelry in which I adore, & it can be a little pricey. Plus, it’s beauty will represent what my relationship is like with my SO.

The ring is important to me, but I can honestly say that it is not for the wrong reasons. I know a lot of people might not love the style I choose, or the size I went with, but it’s about what SO & I LOVE! So we are going for the gusto :]

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I love my ring! It’s not a small ring, in my opinion, but it;s not huge either. I have a 1/2 carat center stone and for me that’s just the right size. I’m a nurse so I couldn’t really do a bigger ring, as I couldn’t wear it at work, which is important to me. Truthfully when Darling Husband and I went shopping for the ring, actually for both rings, I didn’t really know what I want. We just looked until we found one we liked. My ring’s a perfect, and Darling Husband and I love them and that’s what counts.

Post # 27
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64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t understand what is “wrong” with showing off ones ring on this forum. If there is a place to be proud of ones ring, you’d think it’d be here. It seems judgmental to insinuate that just because a girl is proud of her ring that the marriage is all about the ring. Being proud of a large ring doesn’t necessarily mean that they are looking down at smaller rings. To be honest, my husband spent 1500 on my ring because he wanted to choose a ring that would last the rest of our lives. I was touched by the gesture.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I absolutely adore my ring… We were able to find an AMAZING deal on it through knowing a diamond dealer so yea…

Had we not though and Darling Husband got me something smaller for the same amt I still would adore it

heres why…..

I always loved my ring but I came to adore when one night Darling Husband and I were talking about the difference between the e*ring & wedding band (this came after seeing a WB thread about guys freaking about having to buy a “band” as well as the e*ring) <– another story for another time.

Anyhoo.. here was his answer about it’s importance,

The e-ring with the stone.. any stone & any size represents the preciousness of who I am in his heart. Just like the stone is a precious stone, something to be cherished and well cared for, I am precious as well!!!!!

That’s when I came to completely adore my ring =D and when I fell in love again with my wonderful husband (then soon to be husband) tehe

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The ring is definitely not the relationship.  I hate that people place so much emphasis on the damn thing!  I talk to my Future Mother-In-Law every week and in the months leading up to the proposal, she kept saying that I needed at least a carat, it needed to be good quality, etc.  But I just wanted Fiance to use the money for other things.  We discussed moissy but he said there wasn’t a chance in hell that he was going to tell people what it really was, and that it was fake, so I shot that idea down because I wasn’t going to try and pass off something fake for the real thing.  I have my diamond now and I love it, but I hate how certain circumstances dictated what I got.  Pressure from family, he felt like he would be mocked, etc. 

I know several girls who think that the ring is everything.  I know one woman who didn’t even get an engagement ring because she told her future husband “If you can’t spend $60K at Tiffany’s to get me a ring then I don’t want one.”  Others think that you need to spend at least $10K to prove your commitment.  What a load of horse shit!  Chicks like that irk the hell out of me.  It’s like, isn’t marriage about love and commitment, not a freaking grossly overpriced gemstone??!?! 

 

ETA: I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people being proud of their e-rings, though.  If they have a super expensive ring they love then I’m not going to judge it – I would only judge someone who I knew made it clear that they would only accept a very specific, expensive ring. if that makes sense

Post # 30
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@jay0hwhy:  There is nothing wrong at all with loving your ring, what ever it is, it is what it means to you that is important.  Like I love mine because he made it and you love your because he bought it to last a lifetime, both are sweet.  Small or large WB has a place for us all and for all different approaches to seeing the rings.

Post # 31
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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