(Closed) Your actual thoughts on your Ering… Proud to show it of, or ashamed?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I love that you posted this!

I think people who are on this site can get the idea that if the ering isn’t huge it isn’t good enough and they should be embarrassed.  There are a lot more pics/posts about large stones than there are about small stones or even no ering at all and that could give a girl a complex when she compares her ring to most of the posts/pics on this site.  I suppose we need to make an effort to post more about smaller erings and no erings at all.  

By The Way I got to pick my ering out and I loved/love it!  It’s average size.  Then shortly after I got engaged two ladies at work got engaged and their diamonds were 1)very big and 2) blinged out.  I was insecure for a short while because in comparison mine looks small until I smacked myself and realized mine really is prettier and suited my taste and that is what is important.  Had I seen their rings in the stores I wouldn’t have selected them.  Heck, I got to pick my ering out!  I guess it is just human nature to compare.  

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The ring is NOT the relationship…but I love that my ring shows how much Fiance loves me!  Not because it’s big or expensive, but the thought and effort to have it custom-designed.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I love my ring becuase of what it stands for. It’s not huge, but not small either. It’s a little over 1/2 a carat and at the time I was asst manager at a pet boarding facility so it was the perfect size. Fiance spent a lot of time finding the perfect stone and, knowing that he HATES talking to sales people of any kind, that means the world to me. He could have picked out the smallest, most flawed stone ever, but since he went and asked and talked about it, it really wouldn’t have mattered.

I love these threads where people talk honestly about their rings. It does seem like we have a lot of posts of huge rings, and while they are gorgeous, they aren’t for everyone.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve never been ashamed of it. It’s a sign that my fiance loves me and is willing to marry me, despite the fact that I’m a nag.

I’ve had moments though: especially when one of my friends received a 1 carat diamond solitaire and my 1/5 carat looked minute. My little diamond was certainly as sparkly though.

 

I love my teeny ring. It’s perfect for me. My fingers are small and thin and I think we’re made for each other. No matter what anybody else gets, in my eyes, my ring is the prettiest and most perfect in the world, because my fiance gave it me.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Forgot to include the picture with my post.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I LOVE my ring exactly as it is!  The funny thing is, we probably could have “afforded” a bigger and fancier ring–as in, we could have blown every cent we own on a ring to trump most of those I’ve seen on here.  But that wasn’t important to us, and I think we have a slightly different view of what we can “afford” than most people do.

I love that my ring is unique, I love that it is small and dainty and fits the size of my fingers, I love that Fiance picked it out all by himself, I love the color of it, I love that it is NOT a diamond, I love that it is excellent quality, I love that the sapphire is natural and untreated, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE that it only cost us $450!!!!  It is absolutely my favorite piece of jewelry, and certainly the most expensive haha!

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Ronneykay: I love how you stacked them. Beautiful!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

This is maybe going to sound crazy for someone that is on WB like, every day – but when I first got engaged I felt so weird about wearing my ring. I’m not a jewelry person, I wasn’t into weddings. We decided to get married because we wanted to start a family and we had been together 9 years at the time. I was the first of my close friends to be engaged and I felt weird about it. 

However, NOW – and funny enough, AFTER our wedding, I’m ALL ABOUT weddings and engagements and I love seeing dresses, details. lol It’s crazy. I guess I’m a late bloomer! I should’ve found WB like the year before our wedding instead of the month or two before. 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Great post!  I love your outlook on the whole situation!  I love my ring and am SUPER proud of it.  FI and I chose it together.  We picked the setting together and he chose the center stone so it would have some element of surprise.  It was so special to me that we chose it together because I wanted something I loved and he would be proud for me to wear.  There will always be bigger and smaller rings than mine but I love mine because we chose it together.  It’s not cheap or small but it’s not super expensive either, relative to some I have seen around here.

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Mine is tiny and doesn’t have a center stone or anything.  It’s really more of a right-hand ring than anything.

It wasn’t what I had asked for.  I wanted a gemstone ring with a big solitaire (which would have been well within the budget).  Instead, I got a right-hand ring with no center stone but lots of tiny diamonds.

That being said, I love it.  It’s unique and sparkly and beautiful.  I still see rings with big center stones, and I love those and sometimes really want one.  However, I would never give up my e-ring.  It’s what he gave me, and even though it’s not what I wanted, it’s gorgeous. 

When I think about what would happen if he were to give me a ring more like what I had wanted in the first place, I realize that I probably wouldn’t wear it.  It would mean either replacing my e-ring, which I don’t want to do, or wearing the new ring on my right hand.  I work with my hands too much to wear any extra rings.  A new ring might be beautiful, yes, but it would probably just sit in my jewelry box and rarely be worn.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2022 - City, State

I think it depends.  I was somewhat ashamed of my e-ring b/c it was less expensive than most people I knew and the people they knew, and my Fiance had the money to buy a more expensive ring (but choose not to because he didn’t see the value).  It bothered me that he chose to get something I woudl be less happy with because he wanted somethign else.  So when people made comments about the size of it, it bothered me even more (YES I’ve gotten MULTIPLE comments and unenthusiastic oh’s over my ring when people ask to see it). 

Now if my Fiance was poorer (i.e. had debt, was in school, etc), I wouldn’t have any issue with my ring AT ALL, because its what he could afford, and I would really appreciate that he saved and did his best, as it would really  make me feel loved. So as I said it depends…  

Post # 46
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

My mom has a beautiful set, engagement and wedding band – i’ve always loved it. It wasnt until just recently that i found out her diamond isnt a diamond at all. its CZ. I had no idea – it was what my dad could afford at the time, he was finishing his masters at Maryland when they got engaged – they will be celebrating their 38th wedding anniversary next week.

I guess i never really thought about it because my mom has tons of beautiful jewelry that my father has given her over the years. Tennis bracelets, beautiful diamond eternity right hand ring. But he never did upgrade her diamond in her ering and i dont think she cares. He was talking about doing so after i got engaged…so maybe this year will be the year!

soo good for you for loving the ring you have! its the meaning behind it that counts, not the size or the cost.

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