(Closed) Your actual thoughts on your Ering… Proud to show it of, or ashamed?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I love my ring and would throw it a parade if I could haha!

Post # 48
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

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@totheislnds:  I recently found out that my mom had CZ, too!  It’s confusing because I’m pretty sure my dad could have afforded a diamond.  I think they have since upgraded the stone, but I’m not positive.

Post # 49
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@GreenEyedMoon: my thoughts exactly – it is confusing! haha. i know he may have been strapped for cash back then but since then i know he has been able to afford it and i know he has bought her other pieces of jewlery that are actual diamonds. Nothing against CZ – it sure fooled me for most of my life and i still love her setting either way, its beautiful.

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It makes me so mad when people compare carat sizes. It doesn’t matter how many carats are in a ring–all that matter is if you like it! I love my ring. It’s not the biggest stone in the world, but it looks perfect in my setting and I have small fingers, so it is very proportional (plus I am a klutz, and if I had a huge stone I would probably knock it on everything!).

My stone isn’t huge but it’s not tiny–it’s just perfect. I was telling this to a girl recently and she said that her BF wants to spend no less than 25K on her e-ring, but he doesn’t seem close to proposing yet. And they are trying to buy a house (but don’t have the money). Well, I wonder why…? When did it become standard to have the Hope Diamond on your finger for it to be ok? Before we know it, anything under 5 carats will be considered too small…

Some relatives were recently comparing carat sizes and they didn’t even ask for mine–but I don’t care. My Fiance and I picked the setting and stone shape out together and everytime I look at it I love it more. Who cares if someone’s rock is bigger; there is always going to be someone with a bigger stone. I think Kim K. beat us all to that one!!

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper

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@KatyElle: Haha! That’s how I feel about mine, too. I love it!

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Immensely proud to show it. I picked it out myself and have never considered an upgrade.

Post # 53
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am SO with you on this one. Its so easy to get wrapped up in all the details of the engagement and wedding that I see many couples losing site of what is important – the marriage. The ring doesn’t make your marriage work.

I am not a jewelry person. Aside from some little fake pearl earrings I like to wear, I do not wear jewelry regularly. My fiance is a bit of a romantic though, and wanted me to have something to truly cherish. It helps that he was in the financial position to do so also. He is really soft spoken and I guess I always assumed if we got engaged that the ring would be simple or that we wouldnt do a ring at all.

He got me a 1.23 ideal cut diamond set on top of six smaller ones (.33 ct total) so that they look like a daisy flower. Daisies are my favorite flowers. He worked with the jeweler for weeks to create the ring and hand select the stone. I have seriously never seen a ring sparkle so much in my life. Obviously, I was pretty taken back.

I love the ring. I can’t imagine anything different on my hand. However, the fact that it is diamond and sparkly has nothing to do with its value to me… it feels special that he spent so much time selecting the ring and making it heirloom quality jewelry. Even though Im not a jewelry person, I will wear my ring with pride every day because it is so special to me. Of course, I would have been just as happy with a ring made of tin and glass if he put all that effort into it. 🙂

Edit: Reading other posts made me want to add this. I consider my ring to be too big sometimes. It is low set and doesnt get in the way or anything, but in comparison to others stones it makes me feel sort of uncomfortable sometimes. I get stopped all the time by people wanting to see it and stuff and although I absolutely adore it for the reasons mentioned above, I think something small and dainty would really be just as great! I am most excited about the wedding band!!! (for symbolic reasons, not the ring itself!)

Post # 54
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I do agree that the situation varies.  I’m on my 2nd ring because the first one I received I did not like.  It wasn’t me.  And it wasn’t about the ring it was about the fact that the man I’ve been with for 7 years didn’t know my style, so it was that that hurt a lot and not the actual ring.  We even browsed together a few months prior.  It was too big so I could’nt wear it anyway, he figured out (on his own) not long after how I felt and back it went and I designed the one I have.  This one is actually a carat smaller.  I did make it clear I would wear his first choice but he said no.  I’d never be ashamed of that one though.  I think anyone ashamed of their ring, may be in the relationship for the wrong reasons.

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think I have ever voluntarily shown off my ring.Nor have I bragged about it.

I was actually pissed off that my partner spent so much on it (about 1800$–that could have been a new fridge geez!) and told him then and there that I did not want a band down the road. At that cost, one ring is more than enough. Its symbolism and sentimentality are no less than that of a wedding band just because it is-was an “engagement ring”, nor would the sentimentality of a wedding band be more.

It is just a piece of metal with a shiny rock on it. Its value will not make or break our relationship.

Is it pretty? Yes. Do I love it? Yes, because of who gave it to me & what it means, not its price point.If I lost it I would certainly feel bad, but only because I would feel badly if I lost any gift given with such care.

I would have loved a ring pop just as much, it is the gesture that has meaning, the thought put into embarking on life together with my partner that is meaningful, not the ring on my finger.

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The ring was somewhat a point of contention with us for a while and probably slightly delayed our engagement. I’m really not a jewelry-type of person, but sort of “expected” a solitaire.  Fiance hates hates hates the way the solitaires looked.  He’s from another country, and supposedly where he’s from, the couple each get a pretty simple plain band they use both for their engagement and wedding rings. 

For a small while, I guess deep down inside I was a little bummed that I wouldn’t get the type of wedding “everyone else” around me would be getting and that even though I would understand his reasonings, I didn’t like the idea that I’d “have to” explain them for everyone else.

Eventually, I conceded and told him to get me whatever ring he wanted–he could chose completely on his own.  In the end, the goal is to get married and if I put up such a barrier on the first step, we’d never get there.  The ring style was more important to him than it was for me.

I’ve been told by friends/co-workers that 1 carat is “standard” for engagement rings.  I did end up getting a 1/3 ct solitare with a tension setting–it sits flush with the band so it’s not sticking up which is what Fiance hated about solitaires. 

After he proposed, he get really insecure about it and was almost scared for me to show it off.  He didn’t want people to judge him by the ring he bought me.  I on the other hand was/am really proud of it and have no problem that it isn’t the typical Tiffany’s-style engagement ring. 

It’s a little “designery” (he’s a product/graphic designer) and really “him.”  What’s important in the end is that we’re both happy. 

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is my E ring and I could never be ashamed of it. It’s ‘large’ I guess you could say as it’s 1 carat and the diamonds are two .25 carats. However, I’m a frugal girl. I searched high and low for a ring that said Chu but wasn’t going to break the bank. The band is white gold. I had a chance to get a platinum band, but turned it down because the price would double. My ring only cost my husband $400 including shipping.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@tksjewelry: Can you post a pic? I love that he made your ring himself! I think that sooooo romantic, but at the same time so manly!

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My ring is a traditional 1 carat diamond with .33 side stones, Fiance is very traditional and got it all by himself & I love it. That being said, I would have taken anything he could have proposed with, as long as the proposal is genuine and he expresses his love I don’t think what the ring is should really matter. I think many guys like mine think they are expected to propose with 1 carat diamond, not realizing that many of us ladies are just happy to spend the rest of your life with someone. I hate when someone makes someone else feel bad about thier ring, I think the people who do that don’t really understand the true meaning behind it, its very sad.

Post # 60
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Buzzing Beekeeper

My ring that I recently received was a “milestone” ring. When my husband and I first got married it was a $130 cz ring. He wanted to get a small diamond and I said “You know what, I’ll wait.” We had a baby on the way and debt to pay off and the ring just wasn’t a priority.

I have been married for years, we have a beautiful daughter and we’ve been through a lot together. I feel like I EARNED a nice piece of jewelry. Some people don’t get it because it’s a colored stone and not a diamond, but I know in my heart how special and rare it is and how long it took to find—- kind of like him 🙂

I know I know *vomit*

Post # 61
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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