(Closed) Your actual thoughts on your Ering… Proud to show it of, or ashamed?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Not engaged yet, but we’ve chosen the ring (went modern LOL). I just realized sitting here that the ring we fell in love with today costs less than my first engagement ring from a different relationship (I had a ring, but there was no real engagement)

For a minute I thought “ohhh…here I thought I’d have upgraded…” But I HAVE. Thing is, my ex weaseled his way out of paying for that ring and it was a horrible relationship. A few years back I got so sick of it being in my house that I sold it for $50. I am in an amazing relationship with an amazing man, and I could care less that it’s not a carat or even half a carat. It’s a great stone that sparkles like nothing else, and it’s “us”. Of course I’ll show it off! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 78
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Fiance and I picked my ring together. He proposed with his graduation ring, and let me wear it for a couple of weeks while we picked out my e-ring together. He gave me a budget, and we looked for rings within a budget. Even though my stone isn’t massive, it’s a good size for where I am (here I rarely see anyone wear a diamond ring larger than 1-1.5 ct) and age-appropriate. At the time I was 21 and finishing up my university degree, and he was a few years older but still in school. Needless to say, the 3 months’ salary “rule” didn’t apply as he definitely didn’t make as much as what my ring costs (he has recently told me the ring costs as much as working in construction for two summers in a row when he was in high school). 

Now that I’m done school, working full time and he has a much better education and works with an amazing company, I sometimes wonder what would have happened if we waited a couple of years to get the ring. We have been engaged for almost 2 years now, mainly because I didn’t want to be in school and married, or planning a wedding while I was in school. Maybe with the extra money we’re making now we could’ve bought me a ring that was 1 ct. Maybe I could’ve even gotten a 2 ct, if I pitched in some money. But the ring we picked was the original, it was perfect at the time (and still is today) and there are now more important (and expensive!) things in life.

Instead of even considering upgrading my ring, we have put the money that could’ve bought me a 2 ct diamond ring as a down payment for our new house instead. We recently got our wedding bands and altogether I’ll still have almost 1.90 ctw on my finger, so that alone is more than enough!

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

There was a time when I was a little embarrassed to admit that I helped Darling Husband pay for my engagement ring (because most people I know still believe it’s wrong for the man not to foot the entire bill). We bought it online as well, so it was a good deal less expensive than any other e-ring I’d ever seen. Still, I love it and am not ashamed in the least to show it off! I’m also glad we found a great bargain for a nice ring and that I don’t wear thousands of dollars on one finger (which makes me nervous).

Post # 80
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Ms. Grape, I don’t think the whole “who pays” thing really matters anymore. With my ex, I paid for it. I didn’t want to, but he was supposed to pay me back eventually. With my SO now, we share a bank account so by proxy I am also going to be paying for this ring, but it really doesn’t matter to me. Marriage is about partnership, why not start with the engagement? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I am not ashamed to show mine off.  When people ask, I show them.  I feel comfortable that it doesn’t catch a lot of attention.  I did ask my Fiance not to spend a lot of money, but he wanted to get me the stone that I have always wanted.  I didn’t get to pick anything really.  He asked me my favorite stones and I mentioned that I eventually want to get an alexandrite, so he got it for me.  It was really sweet and it meant a lot to me. 

Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love my ring! Fiance did a great job picking it out, and while it’s not what I had expected, I love it so much! It knocked my “ideas” of what I wanted clear out of the water. And it means a lot to me that he picked it out on his own.

Post # 83
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Newbee

I love this thread!!  Great attitude and my sentiments exactly. 

I’m not really a jewelry person and we got engaged and I DONT even have an engagement ring!!! I only want to wear one ring.  I know he has picked it out and I will be surprised in front of everyone at the wedding in September with what it looks like.  Let’s just hope it fits!!  I’m not picky and know that i will love anything he gives me.

The only requirement was inexpensive and even a {gasp} fake diamond or not one at all!  I lose everything and I’m sure my wedding ring will be no exception.

Post # 84
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

There will always be bigger rings (seriously, just look at Kim Kardashian!), but there will always only be one true original engagement ring. Also, just because it’s bigger doesnt necessarily mean better or best for you.

I’m very fortunate that my fiance has spoiled me with a ring I could only dream of owning before. I would never change it at all. Even if he were to offer to double/triple the size of it, I would never want to. It’s perfect for me and where we are right now in our lives which is what it’s supposed to represent. What makes me love it even more is knowing how much my fiance loves it. Every so often he will grab my hand to look at it proudly. It makes me so happy to see him do that regardless of how large or small or style the ring is because it reaffirms how much the ring is “ours”.

Post # 85
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@blingbling: So you actually only like looking at 2+ rings in photos & not in real life? huh.

You must know alot of people with huge rings who love to “shove them in your face” in order to be that passionate about it. Please- send those awful bitches my way!Laughing

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My promise ring is a tanzanite and I love it-.  On an early date I mentioned I loved that stone because it could be found in a blue close to my eye color. He hunted and hunted and found one that he felt matched my eyes (not easy for a color blind mountain man).  I would have loved to have a diamond ring wrap for it and called the entire process done.  But after eight years of “promise” he wanted to do more.

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@peaches13: I thought so;)– mine is a white aqaumarine and looks similar. Does it change with the color of the sky and or your clothes? I love that about gemstones

Post # 90
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@retreadbride: It does somewhat, but not extremely.  I find the lighting makes more of a difference–there’s a definite faint blue tint in the sunlight (not sure how much of that is the blue stones around it, though).  I love when the sun hits it JUST right and all the icy sparkles shoot everywhere.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 91
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Blushing bee

I love this post so much!  I absolutely adore the ring my Darling Husband got me (He picked it all out himself)…the engagement ring was a 1/3 carat Marquise Solitaire, and he got a band that wraps around it with real small diamonds…I think the total carat weight is .66.

Hehe it was funny because when we got engaged we met with an aquaintance I had known from high school (they had just gotten married and wanted to give us Wedding advice!).  Well she showed me her ring which was huge — two eternity bands with saphires and diamonds surrounding her 3-stone engagement ring — total weight over 3.5 carats!, and I showed her mine…you could totally tell that each of us was like “Thank goodness I have MY ring!”.

Everybody is different though.  I would have married my man if he had tied a string on my finger…a beautiful ring was just a bonus!

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