Post # 1
Is it ok to want to help plan n pay for stuff for my own baby shower? Not that i dont like surprises…i just love planning parties n doing crafty diy projects that i think it would b fun to help plan it. Plus, my mom n Mother-In-Law dont wrk, my one bf is a single mom, n my other bf is still awaiting a few job offers. I also have a LOT of family n friends who I know will come so I feel like its gonna end up being a lot of ppl. I feel like i could help financially too so it can be less of a burden financially for everyone….i just know i’ll get a hard time from the four of them if i suggest it….am i crazy? Did anyone out there help plan or throw their own baby shower??
Post # 3
@MamaHusky3: Hmm… I don’t know. I guess I’m traditional in that I feel like showers are thrown for you… it does seem a little strange to me when the honoree is very involved in the planning, though I know there are many people who do this. I think it would be fine to offer your assistance (in terms of help with projects and/or the financial aspect), but if they say no, I’d step back and enjoy being surprised.
Post # 4
I’m helping in a limited capactiy. I’m picking out the decorations and buying them (because I wanted a specific theme that I fell in love with), but that’s about it. My two closest friends who are hosting are doing the rest. Menu, setting up, invites, etc. I think if you want to help, go for it!
Post # 5
I’m helping my mom picking out the menu and finding some things needed for the favors. She worked with me on setting the date also b/c there was just no way I could be surprised. I know it’s happening and I need to physically get myself there. 🙂
Post # 6
@MamaHusky3: I’m helping plan my shower. I look at it like this: This party is for my BABY, not me exactly. They are the one getting gifts, not me hahaha.
I am picking the location, the menu, the invites, the cake, and the guests.
Though part of the reason I am taking over so much is because my bridal shower was a big disappointment for me (I would never tell my friends though) and I want my first, and by etiquette standards, only baby shower to be a great one.
Post # 7
I know but am not doing anything to help. I will just be showing up that day. The only thing I picked was the cake flavor. My mother has told me everything she is doing and has run ideas by me, but it’s pretty much in her hands. This is how I was for my wedding shower too.
Post # 8
I helped plan & excute my baby shower with my Mom & sister. My sister threw my bridal shower and was stressed/anxious during the whole thing, so I didn’t want a repeat of that. I asked them to just keep me in the loop when they were planning & threw out ideas of things I’d like (i.e. no “games”, but I liked the idea of a Make-a-Onesie stationg). My mom asked me what kind of food I wanted & I did a lot of the shopping (decorations, etc) since I wasn’t working. It worked out great for all of us!
@LuvMySailor: I felt the same way! I’m actually not really doing much to deserve a party in my honor – the baby & biology are doing all the work! Plus, all the presents are for the baby, so I didn’t feel weird hosting “my” party. It seemed like the same things I’d be doing for his 1st Birthday party.
Post # 9
you could offer to help, but if they say no thanks, i would respect that.