Post # 1
Hey all! Well it’s getting to be that time — baby showers are in the works. Supposed to be a joyous time, right?
I am just wondering how involved you were in your own baby shower. My mother was trying to plan a surprise, but for whatever reason was just not able to get anything done (I don’t really know why), so my husband told me because he just thought it was sort of turning into a disaster. Now I am in the awkward position of trying to help hook her up with some of my friends, who were envisioning something small. (Now I am worried she will hijack it and make them do the work.)
I just feel terrible and embarrassed about this because I don’t think people should be involved in planning their own showers. I kind of just want to tell them all to forget it. I know I am crazy and hormonal right now, but what role did you have in your shower? Am I being unreasonable?
Post # 3
I would give her a guest list of people you’d like invited, as well as a few friends or famly members that you are close to and who would like to help and be involved.
Post # 4
My friends threw me 1 shower and my mom+sisters threw me another one for family friends, neighbors, etc.
I gave both of them a list of names and addresses of people I’d like invited. Also, they asked if there was any food I’d really like to have, and of course the date.
Post # 5
I had a similar situation with my bridal shower. I hated to plan my own party but everyone was out of town and nothing was getting done even though people kept asking me about it! I had to say I didn’t know since I knew nothing had been planned!
In the end Maid/Matron of Honor appologized and something got threw together at the last minute. Since the planners didnt know my family or their travel/flights plans they somehow assumed I’d do it.. omg. It was fun and simple in the end. We combined it with the nails appointment, but all I can say is good luck! Get people motivated before people have commited to travel plans/life before its too late!
Post # 6
I had two baby showers.
I was very involved in planning the first one. I looked up decorations online. My SIL (brother’s wife) asked my opinion on food, games, and I of course supplied a guest list of my own. Also, on the day of the shower, I helped set up and prepare the food. I loved being able to help.
The second shower, all I did was send my SILs (husband’s sisters) a list of names and addresses. I also approved the date and time, but that was all. I had no say in the games or food. It was still an amazing party, but I wish I could have helped more. I am very particular on games I like (I get embarrassed easily), and I wasn’t sure what kind of food I could handle at the moment. That didn’t take away from how fun it was though. I wasn’t embarrassed at all.
Post # 7
I’m in the process of figuring this out now…still don’t know how it’s all going to work out, but it looks like I may have 3 showers…one for family, one for friends and a last one for sorority sisters…(I have to have a seperate one for sorority sisters because they can get out of control and embarrasing at times…and can you believe they are 30+…*sigh*)
Post # 8
My baby shower was handled by my husband and best male friend. Since we went to the hospital before it happened, I don’t know what they were planning, but they were talking pretty much everyday about it. My only request: a Cake Wrecks inspired cake. Good luck!