Post # 182
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
Just catching up now … this family’s behaviour is just so confusing…
And then the back and forth was hilarious.
I was disappointed when I read ‘sure, we could make an exception for family..” and then your fiance KILLED IT!
ten bucks says people this pushy are just going to show up with their baby anyway.
Post # 183
@Syzygy88: Wasn’t being bitchy – just saying
Post # 184
@March1stBride: I totally understand you pain! I am dealing with this now! At least this person was nice enough to send you a message. In my case, one person made a public announcement that she was taking her kid to our wedding whether we liked it or not. I think when you are told that an event is adult only, you have two choices, you either find a babysitter or send your regrets!
Post # 185
You all are amazing!!
We were trying to be nice inviting them and it just turned out to be a huge mistake. Oh well, hopefully they won’t come!! If they bring the baby anyway I have no issues having the security guard at the country club where we are having the wedding walk them out.
I wouldn’t put it past them though.
@_Adelaide_: OMG this perfect. So funny!!
I totally agree. If you are not comftorable leaving your kids with a babysitter (which I understand some people are not) you just say I’m sorry but we cannot make it to the wedding.
Are you kidding? That is so rude to say they are bringing their kids anyway! I would let them know if they do they will be asked to leave!
Post # 186
I just wanted to say massive YAYS to you and your Fiance – i know my Fiance would have wobbled if confronted over the phone!
My FIs Aunt wanted her kid’s partners invited and we said no due to costs and venue restrictions… She then started asking if so and so’s partners were invited as ‘thats not fair if my kid’s partners couldn’t come’ (they’re teenagers, not adults BTW).
After reading these pushy messages I nearly lost my shit and said to my Fiance that even if people cancelled nearer the time we wouldnt be inviting the partners despite having space.
Post # 187
@Laurengrapes: That is ridicuouls. I mean seriously do they really expect you to pay so they can bring their little teenage significant others? Unbeleivable. and I would do that too!! No means no with guests!
Post # 188
Agreed, not to mention another totally absurd wedding website that sticks to everyone in a relationship 18 and up gets a plus one. BS. I have read book after book that says spouses, finances and MAYBE long term or live in partners get invite. Then those clowns came back and said, well it is rude not to give plus ones, and people may stay home. Newsflash to brides, someone wont like what you do, no matter what. Smile and say, no children or whatever youwant.
Post # 189
Wow bravo to you and your FI! I can’t believe she tried to practically invite the nanny!!!
Post # 190
@March1stBride: Funny thing about planning a wedding, everyone supports the conept of it being “your day” and you doing what’s right for you, until it effects them in some way.
Every time we made a decision someone had an issue with it. It was so frustrating! You can’t please everyone, you just have to do what’s right for you and your fiance!
Post # 191
@ImaStarr: This is so true. We would have gone bankrupt (and skipped the honeymoon) if we’d had the wedding my extended family was demanding of us. I have 7 sets of aunts and uncles on one side alone, and they all have families of their own. One cousin was trying to demand her way into it, and it would be rude to just invite her and not any of my other cousins. Could I afford it? No. But as long as it wasn’t on their dime, they felt free to make all the demands they wanted (not that any of them came to fruition).
Post # 192
@March1stBride: HAHAHA MAJOR standing ovation for him. They were WAYYY out of line and someone had to shut them the F*CK DOWN
Post # 193
@ImaStarr: omg YES exactly this. Then all of a sudden it’s about the guests and how could the bride be so inconsiderate of the guests. So frustrating.
Post # 194
Obviously you already know this, OP… BUT MARRY THAT MAN!
Post # 195
@March1stBride: this thread rocks. I’ve noted email responses to save for later just in case I need them, as we’re having an adult only reception. You handled this like a pro, and your Fiance was KICKAZZ good for you both.
I have to say that I agree with Adelaide, I think that they are going to be pushy and bring the child anyway. I’d have your ceremony “bouncers” on alert. This could get interesting…I’m keeping it locked on this channel. LOL
Post # 196
Kudos to your Fiance for sticking to the mutual guns you’d decided on, even if it was a tad chilly! Obviously that kind of response was probably the only one that’d stand a chance of getting thru to them (hey there’s usually a reason the man is ex-step-father!).
Interesting that no one else had thought of this one… Since half-bro is in the wedding, SF’s new wifey-poo might’ve been thinking, “Professional photographer there, hubby’s older kid dressed nice without me trying to force him, hey, perfect chance to take some nice family photos & we’ll just ask the groom if he can get a copy for us…” A gal I knew had this exact situation arise at her wedding but thankfully caught wind of it beforehand and confronted the family member who was trying to waylay her photographer.
I hope the ex-SF gets a clue bout how rude his wife is being and that she is so angry she doesn’t show at all. Again, way to go, FI!