(Closed) Your child is not invited…what is so hard about that?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 182
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

Just catching up now … this family’s behaviour is just so confusing… 

And then the back and forth was hilarious. 

I was disappointed when I read ‘sure, we could make an exception for family..” and then your fiance KILLED IT!

ten bucks says people this pushy are just going to show up with their baby anyway.

Post # 183
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Syzygy88:  Wasn’t being bitchy – just saying

Post # 184
7 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

@March1stBride:  I totally understand you pain! I am dealing with this now! At least this person was nice enough to send you a message. In my case, one person made a public announcement that she was taking her kid to our wedding whether we liked it or not. I think when you are told that an event is adult only, you have two choices, you either find a babysitter or send your regrets!

Post # 186
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I just wanted to say massive YAYS to you and your Fiance – i know my Fiance would have wobbled if confronted over the phone! 

My FIs Aunt wanted her kid’s partners invited and we said no due to costs and venue restrictions… She then started asking if so and so’s partners were invited as ‘thats not fair if my kid’s partners couldn’t come’ (they’re teenagers, not adults BTW). 

After reading these pushy messages I nearly lost my shit and said to my Fiance that even if people cancelled nearer the time we wouldnt be inviting the partners despite having space. 

Post # 188
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Agreed, not to mention another totally absurd wedding website that sticks to everyone in a relationship 18 and up gets a plus one.  BS.  I have read book after book that says spouses, finances and MAYBE long term or live in partners get invite.  Then those clowns came back and said, well it is rude not to give plus ones, and people may stay home.  Newsflash to brides, someone wont like what you do, no matter what.  Smile and say, no children or whatever youwant.

Post # 189
1960 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Wow bravo to you and your FI! I can’t believe she tried to practically invite the nanny!!!

Post # 190
782 posts
Busy bee

@March1stBride:  Funny thing about planning a wedding, everyone supports the conept of it being “your day” and you doing what’s right for you, until it effects them in some way.

Every time we made a decision someone had an issue with it.  It was so frustrating!  You can’t please everyone, you just have to do what’s right for you and your fiance!

Post # 191
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ImaStarr:  This is so true. We would have gone bankrupt (and skipped the honeymoon) if we’d had the wedding my extended family was demanding of us. I have 7 sets of aunts and uncles on one side alone, and they all have families of their own. One cousin was trying to demand her way into it, and it would be rude to just invite her and not any of my other cousins. Could I afford it? No. But as long as it wasn’t on their dime, they felt free to make all the demands they wanted (not that any of them came to fruition).

Post # 192
4145 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@March1stBride:  HAHAHA MAJOR standing ovation for him. They were WAYYY out of line and someone had to shut them the F*CK DOWN

Post # 193
1790 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ImaStarr:  omg YES exactly this. Then all of a sudden it’s about the guests and how could the bride be so inconsiderate of the guests. So frustrating.

Post # 194
2056 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Obviously you already know this, OP… BUT MARRY THAT MAN!

Post # 195
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

@March1stBride:  this thread rocks. I’ve noted email responses to save for later just in case I need them, as we’re having an adult only reception. You handled this like a pro, and your Fiance was KICKAZZ good for you both. 

I have to say that I agree with Adelaide, I think that they are going to be pushy and bring the child anyway. I’d have your ceremony “bouncers” on alert. This could get interesting…I’m keeping it locked on this channel. LOL


Post # 196
15 posts
  • Wedding: March 2015

Kudos to your Fiance for sticking to the mutual guns you’d decided on, even if it was a tad chilly! Obviously that kind of response was probably the only one that’d stand a chance of getting thru to them (hey there’s usually a reason the man is ex-step-father!). 


Interesting that no one else had thought of this one… Since half-bro is in the wedding, SF’s new wifey-poo might’ve been thinking, “Professional photographer there, hubby’s older kid dressed nice without me trying to force him, hey, perfect chance to take some nice family photos & we’ll just ask the groom if he can get a copy for us…” A gal I knew had this exact situation arise at her wedding but thankfully caught wind of it beforehand and confronted the family member who was trying to waylay her photographer. 


I hope the ex-SF gets a clue bout how rude his wife is being and that she is so angry she doesn’t show at all. Again, way to go, FI!

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