(Closed) Your child is not invited…what is so hard about that?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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8470 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ugh. 

I’d be like, um, yeah, this applies to you too!

I don’t like kids at weddings and feel an infant is even worse than a school-age kid. 

Post # 63
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Hired hall

Wow really? Asking once was pushy but could be dismissed as bad judgement, asking again after you already said no is downright out of order! I agree with what MrsBuesieBee said, especially emphasising that the guests you don’t want to offend are the ones that are respecting your wishes 😉 

 

Post # 64
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9589 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Zhabeego:  Love “sneauxflaque” lol

Post # 66
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2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

wow, some people are so rude.  just wow.

Post # 67
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6040 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@March1stBride:  Ok no, at this point another “NO” email is in order. Say …

“We cannot accomodate another guest at the wedding. We also really cannot make an exception for your child to attend. I understand that you would prefer to attend as a family, but we would prefer for our day to go as we planned it.  I still hope you will consider attending but we won’t be able to extend an invitation to your nanny and we will not be having any kids at the wedding.

Post # 68
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1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@March1stBride:  woah! People can be pushy!

Post # 69
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8686 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Easy fix: email back and say no, their child cannot come. We only made one exception and it was for a 2-week old. The rest we said a firm “no.” Some of the parents declined but we had already discussed that as a possibility and did not care. 

Post # 70
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10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Wow. I can’t believe this entitled bitch! Now she wants to bring two uninvited guests. I’m curious to see what her next response will be, she is pushing HARD. Good for you for being firm! 

Post # 71
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9589 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@March1stBride:  good for you for being firm! Im sure she’ll fire back with some snark (be sure to share it with us) but apparently she was raised in a barn so I wouldnt let it bother you too much!

Post # 72
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2255 posts
Buzzing bee

@AnaA:  +100

To the OP, I know it’s hard and you have been *incredibly* nice and tactful so far, but I was also let this crazy beoch know if she comes with the baby, they will be asked to leave. She sounds like she’ll do it. 

 

 

Post # 73
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1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@March1stBride:  You have GOT to be kidding me! What part of NO KIDS does this person NOT understand??? 

 

I would stick to your guns and say something like “Like I stated in my previous letterwe are having a totally child free ceremony and reception, I am sorry if this puts you in a bind but it is something we are sticking too. Once again, I understand if this mean that you and your husband will not be able to attend our wedding.” 

 

EDIT: Just saw what you wrote and that was GREAT! GOOD FOR YOU! How rude can they be? 


 

Post # 74
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2598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@March1stBride:  Well Done. You’ve been exceptionally gracious and polite. Can’t wait for the update with the snippy reply! 

Will our Sneauflaque:

1. Stamp her feet and DEMAND an exception?

2. Reply that they are bringing the baby anyway?

3. Decline the invitation with a snotty “I can tell you don’t have kids. When you do, you’ll understand!”

Post # 75
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876 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@March1stBride:  Wow. I can’t believe her response to you. The event doesn’t need to work for everyone. Its your wedding and it needs to work for you.

 

I had a child free wedding and everyone respected it. I am now a mother and attended a wedding when my daughter was 2 months old that was child free but they extended an exception to us and another nursing mother. I really appreciated it and I do think that nursing babies are generally the exception to the rule. My daughter was in a woven wrap the whole time and didn’t make a peep. If she had we would have removed ourselves from the ceremony. ALSO- I did not ask to bring her. These are close friends of ours and the bride called me and asked if I wanted to bring her. I appreciated it.

 

My daughter is still nursing but we are attending another wedding and I’m not bringing her. She is now 7 months old and I am welcoming the night out! The wedding is relatively local (45 min away) so my parents are babysitting and she’ll drink a bottle in my absence. A 9 month old does not need to be the exception. If she’s bringing her nanny can’t the nanny hang out w the baby in the hotel if they’re traveling or just stay home if they’re local? SO annoying!

 

Post # 76
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1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@March1stBride:  this is so incredibly bizarre! Why on earth are they so insistent on “attending as a family”?

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