Post # 1
I am Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding next summer. I’ve never had the job before and I want to take it really seriously and be the best Maid/Matron of Honor my friend could have imagined. She’s been with her guy 11 years, they have lots of ideas but a very small budget and I want to be as helpful as possible. She also is moving to another province (35 hour drive away) this Christmas so she will be doing a lot of the planning long distance.
As a bride, what would you hope for from your dream Maid/Matron of Honor in this situation? I know people are going to say “stand up for me and be a listening ear”… but I want specifics. Is there anything specifically I should do? What do you wish your Maid/Matron of Honor would have done? Did you have a girl who went above and beyond?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
If they’re going to DIY a lot of stuff I would offer your help when you can and keep an eye out for other ideas on Pinterest.
Post # 4
I had two MOHs and one was great – one not so much. For me, it was important that they be super helpful on the day of the wedding – my helpful Maid/Matron of Honor stuck with me the whole time and was really calming. They both made the dress-picking process easy, not being too picky but giving me a few wishes (such as not strapless) that I could use as a guideline.
I think that fact that you’re asking this means you’re going to be a fantastic friend/MOH!
Post # 5
The easiest way to find out is to ask the bride. Everyone has their own perception of the role and while you may want to do an awesome job, if you don’t know what her expectations are, how will you achieve that goal?
Post # 6
The best Maid/Matron of Honor is one that finds ways to reduce the bride’s stress. Be a problem-solver, not a problem-maker. (Seeing as you’re asking for advice on being the best Maid/Matron of Honor a girl can be, I’m not too worried that you’ll be a problem!)
If there are issues with the other girls in the wedding party, deal with them separately and don’t involve the bride.
Offer to run errands for her during those last few days before the wedding (if you guys are in the same place at that time). Those last few days before the wedding are the most stressful. Take some things off her to-do list and help her focus on the important items.
You’ll do fine!
Post # 7
Just be supportive of your friend and helpful once the demands are not unreasonable and you will be fine