(Closed) Your engagement ring – Did you help pick it out?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you help pick out your engagement ring?
    Yes - I wanted to be sure I loved my ring. : (97 votes)
    34 %
    No - I love that he picked it out by himself. : (38 votes)
    13 %
    No - but I wish I had a hand in picking it out. : (9 votes)
    3 %
    We picked out the ring together. : (88 votes)
    31 %
    Yes - I sent/showed him a few suggestions for a ring. : (50 votes)
    17 %
    A friend/family member of mine helped him pick it out : (6 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 4
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Total surprise.  He found a few rings he liked and went to a goldsmith and had my ring custom made.  I love it and couldn’t have picked it better myself.   I also loved the amount of effort he put into finding a ring he thought would be perfect for me and fit my tastes.

    Post # 5
    4875 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Yup! Originally, I was supposed to “help” pick it out, but I ended up falling in love with one in particular. 

    Post # 7
    1653 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I told him the cut I wanted, he did the rest. It’s lovely, but I wish we had gone looking together, sometimes. 

    Post # 8
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We choose a ring together. I showed him what I like (including specifics – band width, trellis, solitaire) but he chose the diamond on his own 🙂 Hopefully only a few more days until its in!

    Post # 10
    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I chose both of my engagement rings although I did ask him for his input as well because his opinion mattered Smile

    Post # 11
    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I had sent pictures to a few close friends of what I like so that when the time came, they could give Fiance advice.  He asked one friend for general suggestions (and ended up letting it slip during a fight that he wasn’t a fan of the ring I had as my number one choice *eyeroll*) and then went to pick it out on his own.  He did a fantastic job, and I absolutely love my ring!  Plus it made the proposal more of a surprise, even though we had been talking about getting engaged or a while.

    Post # 12
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Mr TTR & I picked out MY ERing together… actually we refer to it as OUR ERing… cause it means so much to both of us.  Took us 6 Weeks to find THE ONE.

    We also picked out MY Sparkly WBand together… I picked out OUR Plain one alone

    (If you’ve read my other posts about my WBands, you will know that I have 2 a Sparkly & a Plain, and I wear them both… the Plain one represents Mr TTR… as he won’t wear one.  We used it in our Wedding Ceremony for when I said MY Vows to him… THEN we used it again with the Sparkly when he said HIS Vows to me.  So only fitting that I purchase it, as it is technically HIS WBand)

    First time I was married (circa 1980) My then Hubby-2B and I also picked out my ERing (actually a Bridal Set) together as well.

    Doing so then was a lot less common than it is now… back then, typically men chose the Rings and women had nothing to say about it.

    In truth, I am very happy that I had say in both my Engagements… cause a Ring is a BIG Deal, it is something you wear 24/7 x 365 so you better like it.

    I wore my first ERing & WBand for over 20 years… I was truly heartbroken when I took them off.

    (Took the ERing off while we were seperated… told him that if he wanted me back, he had to woo / court / date me again… took off the WBand off when I knew it was finally over… Divorce)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 13
    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was adamant about having a say, but I didn’t get one. I had a list of specifics (cut, metal, styles etc) that my jeweler had and he knew about (because he was there when I came up with it!).. But nope, didn’t happen. Believe me when I say I got the complete opposite.. It was custom made so it was a final sale. I’ve been trying to love it, but two years later, I love that he picked it, I still yearn for something that is more “me”. I asked him why he got what he did, and he said he wanted it to be a complete SURPRISE… If he went with any of the parameters I had given him, it would have taken away that element of surprise.. (one of those moments where his heart was in the right place, but executed all wrong…)

    Post # 15
    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Heck yeah. When a man is spending that kind of money, it’s better that it be something you absolutely love (in my opinion).

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