Post # 1
Hello fellow bees! =)
So my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been talking signifcantly about the next step in our relationship so naturally lately we’ve been discussing rings!!! YAY!! Exciting time for the both of us. So my question is out of curiosity, how did you discuss the choosing of the ring with your FI? Did you give him hints? Did he know what specific ring you liked? Or did he just choose one that he liked?
Post # 3
We went into Jewelry shops together and we both looked at a bunch of different things we liked. He knew I only liked white gold and I hated princess cut and didn’t like plain bands or diamonds that were set high up. He also knew I really liked three stone.
Other than that we agreed that HE would pick the ring and I would trust his judgement.
He did perfectly!
Post # 4
First of all, Welcome to WeddingBee! 🙂
Second, congrats on getting to this point in your relationship/life!
My then SO had been talking about what kind of engagement ring he wanted to get me. I’m a little picky, and so when he mentioned a solitare, I gently explained that it wasn’t really what I wanted. Now, don’t get me wrong! If he had surpised me with it out of the blue I would have graciously accepted and not said anything because solitares are beautiful! 🙂
SO was a little hurt that I didn’t like his choice. He did allow me to show him things that I did like. The ring that I absolutely fell in love with is simple, and similar to a solitare so he liked it along with the little additions that made me love it. I had seen it online with him right next to me. Apparently the look of sheer joy on my face made him certain that anything he would have picked wouldn’t have been the same as this one.
If he doesn’t bring it up, I think I would bring it up or drop big hints if you are a picky person. It will most likely save some regret/hurt feelings/etc if/when he proposes and you aren’t a big fan of what he picked.
ETA: Forgot to add my sparkly 🙂
Post # 5
Mine asked me to search for the setting I wanted and to show him pictures! At one point, he even gave me his opinions too haha.!
Congrats! So excited for you 🙂
Post # 6
@SweetartMD: First off your ring is beautiful! That’s kind of where we started, but now that he is in a different state as me we kinda have been looking online and discussing back and forth.
Post # 7
My now-DH knew that I was very picky about everything, so he had no desire to try to select my rings by himself. We visited some jewelry stores together to eventually choose the semi-mount, loose diamond, and wedding band before he ever proposed. (He kept telling me it was going to happen, but both of us wanted the actual proposal — the when, the where and the how — to be a surprise for me.) Once he knew what I liked, the timing was up to him, and he went back to the jewelry store on his own timetable, without me, to conduct the actual business transaction.
Post # 8
@miss.wiggums: Ok good, at first I felt kind of bad for dropping hints because he would show me ‘ideas’ that he liked and i would express to him how it wasn’t something I would have liked, and you could tell he was a little hurt. I do want him to feel special in the picking process but in the end we both agreed that this is a big investment and something I will have on for the rest of my life so it has to be something I like. P.S. LOVE your ring!
Post # 9
Thank you all for your responses! I definitely feel much better. I was feeling kind of bad for dropping hints and being so involved in the choosing of the ring because I do not want to take away his plans on surprising me in any way and I also don’t want to feel ‘NOT’ surprised when he does propose.
Post # 10
I told him and showed him the exact ring I wanted, I tried it on with him there so he could be sure that’s the one he wanted to buy me 🙂
Post # 11
He told me to look, I did and found the ring. There was no other ring that would do but I let him start things off that way.
Post # 12
I told him the three shapes i liked, the two shapes i hated, and the fact that i wanted a solitaire with some kind of diamond detail on the band. From there he picked it out on his own.
Post # 13
@romantical: Thank you =)
@Brielle: Phew, so relieved to know other couples did the same thing!
Post # 14
I dropped some hints, but we ended up searching for a setting together (family center stone). I chose what I wanted and we bought it together. I think it could be fun for the man to pick out the ring and it be a total surprise, but I didn’t want it that way. He knows me well, but I don’t want to leave something like that completely up to him. Especially when I barely ever wear jewelry (no way for him to know my style).
Post # 15
Honestly, what I thought I wanted is not want I think I really wanted.
I told him what kind of stone I wanted and showed him the kind of setting. He bought the stone and had it set temporarily in a solitaire setting when he proposed.
He had picked out the setting but wanted me to confirm. It was a halo setting around a square (princess) diamond. After the proposal I went to check it out.
I ended up picking a channel set band with the diamond, but learning how much of my diamon is “wasted” in the depth of it makes me a little sad. Its a big diamond that doesnt look big. I wish I knew more about it when I chose it.
However I love the shape and I love the setting.
Post # 16
We originally planned that I would make a list of all the rings I liked from a bunch of ring stores online, and then he would pick one. But it turns out I was so picky I only found one I loved, so we got that one!