Post # 1
Would love to hear of favors you have really enjoyed as a guest! Can’t stand the idea of spending money on things that people are just going to throw away. Would love to put our money to good use and make our guests happy. I have some in mind, but would love to hear from everyone. 🙂
I have also seen alternatives of donating to charity and indicating this at each seating placement. This is my plan b if I can’t really find a favor that is worth the time or money. On both sides of our families we have lost family members to aggressive cancers. This would be a very meaningful donation to all of our family.
Post # 2
Honestly I can’t remember a single favour I have received at a wedding.
If you really want to put your money to good use then upgrade the champagne for toasts or have more snacks during the drinks receptions. Those will go down much better than a personalized glass/bottle opener/coaster/whatever.
Post # 3
I really like the charity idea! And I am considering doing it for our wedding however my FH wasn’t too keen on the idea when I first told him, ha! We have choosen not to do favors (besides potentially going the charity route) because I’ve either tossed favors I took home or didn’t take one at all.
Post # 4
something edible. The only favors I’ve really kept are beer glasses and that’s mainly because we have a bar. One of them has such a subtle logo you’d never realize it was a wedding favor and the other is a little more obvious, but it’s from my best friends’ wedding so I don’t care.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
I don’t remember any in particular that I loved.
I do NOT appreciate random plastic junk with people’s intiails or their wedding date.
So probably an edible like chocslates.
Post # 6
@zzar45–I couldn’t agree more! It is so true. With so many people and personalities, there is no way to purchase a favor that everyone can genuinley enjoy. We did attend a wedding where we were given small plants. I am the biggest plant lover/green thumb, so I enjoyed that, but I can’t say everyone did. Plus it would kill my heart to know that some of those plants went home to die
@frenchtoastvegan–that is so funny that you say that! Mine feels the same way :p As we have looked at some ideas and he has seen the cost/ideas of some of them, I may be swaying him haha. He had said he wanted to see the presentation of it at the tables, so I think when we are closer to that stage it will help make our decision 🙂 I’ve seen templates that are worded very nicely that I think would actually have some of our family members emotional/grateful.
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
A friend of mine had charity favours at her wedding. It was for a mental health charity after she’d lost her father earlier that year due to mental health issues. Everyone we were sitting with talked about how sweet it was because it had a link to the couple. If you want to do charity favours, let people know why it’s an important charity to you as a couple and I’m sure it will go down well.
Post # 8
@LilliV and @jayrock–you both make a good point, I really feel that the more subtle (or frankly none at all) a monogram is the better. I do like when it is a tag and not on the actual item. @jayrock–the cheap plastic favors are also what has turned us off–they just feel like a waste of money and that they will go straight in the trash.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains
I’m not a fan of favors because they tend to be chotchkies. Over the years the favors I’ve received were chocolates, frisbees, sunglasses, shot glasses, bottle openers… basically stuff I already have so I may use once but ulitmately were thrown out. I feel the same way about welcome bags, I generally don’t like/use stuff in them and either throw them out or leave them in the hotel room hoping the maid would like it… I’m not doing welcome bags, but we are doing favors. We’re getting a huge candy table so people can make their own bags. This way those who don’t want to don’t have to and if we’re left with any over we deliberately picked candy we like so it won’t go to waste.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
Following! Great question & advice
Post # 11
My favourites have always been edible gifts, usually chocolates, sweets or sugared almonds. Guaranteed to be liked!
Post # 12
So it wasn’t at a wedding, but the best favour I’ve ever got at anything was a little brown paper bag we were handed as we left my cousin’s Bat Mitzvah that contained a smoked salmon (lox) and cream cheese bagel, and a dill pickle!!!! Honestly, this was 13 years ago and I STILL remember it and smile whenever I think about it. It was hilarious and gratefully received as I remember getting home with my parents and us all sitting round the dining table at 1am eating our bagels.
Post # 13
@kittycatcat, that is so special. I’m sure that meant a lot to people there and was a special way to honor her father. We would do the same of actually acknowledging our family. I think it also is a special way to indicate how we wish they were there that day. We are doing a small table as well in their memory. My aunt, who is actually very close in age to me, passed away unexpectedly this summer (she was 33) so she will be very misseed that day especially. We both find it so important to acknowledge all the people that contributed to our lives and that is also why we are keeping the guest list fairly small (for our area). Thank you for sharing. I’ve never been to a wedding that has had a charity donation so I love hearing how guests felt.
Post # 14
This is the ultimate guide in my opinion to favors. Buffet/table style. I love that. Like you said, it allows people to take it if they want it and you can always use the leftovers! I’ve seen cookie bars too. My chocolate loving heart would probably eat them all, haha!
Post # 15
My favourite was home made slo gin in a cute little bottle. Lovely. I do not really want a wooden spoon with the happy couples names on – that was my least favourite…
Edible / drinkable seem the way to go! I like the charity ones too xx