(Closed) Your first baby…How old were you?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: How old were you when you had your first child?
    I was a teenager : (16 votes)
    8 %
    20 - 24 : (51 votes)
    26 %
    25 - 29 : (68 votes)
    35 %
    30 - 34 : (49 votes)
    25 %
    35 - 39 : (12 votes)
    6 %
    40 - 44 : (0 votes)
    45 or older : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I was 18 and turned 19 a month after I had her. I was too a head of schedule. My ideal age for having kids was 21-22 but I was raised in a family where you get married at 20-21 and start poppin’ out kids.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    When baby is due, I will be just a couple months shy of 25, and I am very happy with how things have worked out. I started trying earlier than I’d have liked initially, because I was told I would need fertility treatments – and I did. And it took multiple years to get pregnant. As tiring and expensive as it was, I couldn’t be happier with how things have ended up. I am happy with my current age/being pregnant. Now the only question in mind is if I really want to go through that experience of infertility ever again. In the mean time, I am just going to be psyched to have our little girl this August!! 🙂

    I don’t know that I really believe in being ahead of or behind the curve. Things just happen, and we can’t always decide how or when they do. We just have to keep on livin’ our lives. If anything, I commend you for your responsible outlook on life, and I would try and remind you that it sounds like you are in a wonderful position with a great partner to continue to grow your family! I am so incredibly sorry to hear you have suffered through a miscarriage, and I can’t even imagine the heaviness it weighs on your heart. But I would not worry about it being too late, or later than you hoped, because when things work out for you it will be worth it.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Ill be 31 at baby’s EDD

    Post # 6
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I will be 29 in June with our little one.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @BoxerLady:  I always thought I would have all of my kids before 30.  Well unless I am pregnant now (it would have to be a miracle because I am on birth control), I won’t be a mom until after 30 since my birthday is in December.

    Sometimes I feel a bit behind because so many of my friends already have at least one child (one just announced that her fourth is due!)  But in all honesty I know I was not ready to have a child in my 20s (I was selfish and in a bad relaitonship/marriage) and I am glad that I have waited (and got divorced.)  Current FH and I agreed to wait until our first wedding anniversary before seriously discussing TTC so I have a bit longer to wait.

    Post # 8
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    My son was born a few months after I turned 26.

    Post # 9
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    83 posts
    Worker bee

    I was 21 when I had my son, I’m 27 now. Try not to feel too sad. Actually, sometimes I wish I had done it in the order you’re doing. Different things and timelines work for different people and you’re doing great 🙂

    Post # 10
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    1572 posts
    Bumble bee

    24 when I’ll have my first in a couple months. It happened a little earlier than I would have assumed it would before meeting my husband, but even after we got married, we told people we were going to wait a few years (baby is due right around our 2nd anniversary) but we ended up trying earlier because we changed our minds haha. There is no perfect time, and I would definitely not worry about it getting “late” for you! I find that my and my husbands’ “timeline” has changed a lot in the past few years!

    Post # 11
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    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 1994

    I was 23 when I had my first, 24 when we got married, 25 when I had my second. 

    Post # 12
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    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We got married when I was 22 and now are expecting our first at 23. I’m glad to have kids younger because I always wanted to be a younger mom then my parents. However many of my friends are nowhere near having children

    Post # 13
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You’re only in you’re mid-20s. You haven’t even really lived yourself, and you’re already sad about not having created a new life?! Travel! Have an awesome career! SLeep in! Love life! You’re free!

    I’ll be 30 this year, and don’t have a single regret about still being child free. I LOVE my life right now. We probably won’t try for at least 2 more years.

    Post # 14
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    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    When we have our first baby (I’m PG right now), I will be 30. Amongst our circle of friends, it’s pretty common for first time moms to be 28-35 (ish). Darling Husband has a doctorate and I have a masters and most of our acquaintances do as well. As such, because of starting careers later and getting graduate degrees, a lot of the couples choose to wait.

    Post # 15
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    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m 31 and due this Friday!  I hadn’t decided whether or not I wanted to have kids, so I very thouroughly enjoyed my 20s and am glad I waited.  I was able to travel, buy a house, pay off my car, establish a loving, committed, strong relationship, get married, and have tons of fun before the baby. 

    ETA- In no way whatsoever am I insinuating that these things can’t be accomplished after having a baby, I’m just saying FOR ME I’m glad I did it in this order and on this timeline.

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