Your first plan vs. your real wedding

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 16
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Dream: City Hall ceremony followed by dinner with immediate family at a restaurant.

Reality: 300 person wedding at a gorgeous venue. Perfect weather (clear skies, sunny, room temperature), outdoor ceremony, catered sit-down dinner, late-night snack table, hopping dance floor, and attended by our large families and our close friends. My Mother-In-Law wanted this de facto family reunion, and since she never asks for anything, Darling Husband and I reluctantly agreed. 

Despite our grousing during the planning stages, and in the days leading up to the wedding, our wedding was the best day Darling Husband and I have ever had! I was a bit stressed on the wedding day, and we had snafus and hiccups (the mike cut out halfway through the speeches, I got eaten alive by mosquitos…) but our wedding planner and amazing bridal party kept everything flowing. We feel nothing but love and happiness when we look back on our day (just last Saturday!).

Post # 17
4411 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

My dream wedding was just the two of us somewhere neither of us has ever been.

Our actual wedding was exactly what I dreamed of in the historic district of Savannah. It was perfect! 

Post # 18
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Dream: We wanted to marry with less than 30 people present (immediate family only) OR go to the courthouse…

Reality: 100+ guests, DJ, the “right way of doing things”, and everything we didn’t actually want at the wedding. 

Parents: 1
Bride & Groom:0

Post # 19
783 posts
Busy bee

Dream: cabin in smoky mountains with a gazebo overlooking the mountains as a ceremony site. Only about 30 in attendance & us all making a weekend of it (I had this planned downed to the most minute detail) but…. then I listened to mom’s vision, and in law’s ideas & had to revamp


reality: still in smoky mountains, 65 guest, ceremony & typical reception (dinner, toasts, dancing, etc). 

All in all, my wedding was perfect & I loved every minute. I got the experience of planning & having the typical wedding. However, I’m not a typical girl & never grew up dreaming about or planning my wedding. 

Post # 20
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Love this question! Really interesting responses. 

Our original plan: Venue at a specific historic house/garden I’d loved ever since my friends got married there.Colors: mint and gray. Short or tea-length dress off the rack. About 60 guests. Self-DJ with an iPod playlist. Cupcakes from my favorite place in Georgetown (no, not the reality show place). 11 am start time, early to ease my nerves.  Budget: 10K.

Actual: Got the venue, kept the colors. Full-length, full-on wedding gown from a salon. 125 guests. Professional DJ. Cupcakes from a cheaper place in the suburbs. 1 pm start time because I realized I didn’t want to have to get up at dawn for hair/makeup. I ended up super calm beforehand (to my great surprise.) Budget: Literally 4x the original (because parents on both sides ending up covering it). 

Post # 21
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Dream: To have a formal NYC wedding outdoor during a summer evening on top of a hotel rooftop with a killer view of the NYC skyline. I was going to have all my family and friends because I’m a NYC resident.

Reality: Destination wedding in Cancun in a gazebo overlooking the beach and the water. Only close family and friends are invited.

I quickly realized that I have no interest in planning a wedding and all I really want to do is “show up” and I can do that with a destination wedding. 

Post # 22
30 posts

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suziq23 :  I love love love both of those spaces. The church is beautiful and they both look so elegant; timeless & classy. 

Post # 23
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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kristaalee :  Thank you!! 🙂 

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