(Closed) Your FI's opinion on your wedding gown?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: how much did his opinion matter/influence your choice?

    I didn't ask for his opinion about it at all

    I asked about his thoughts in general ways (e.g., dress shapes, style elements)

    I showed him stock photos of gowns to get his opinion

    I showed him photos of me in gowns to get his opinion

    I took him dress shopping

    Other, I'll explain...

    Is it peanut butter jelly time yet?

  • Post # 3
    1047 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I just showed my Fiance some random pics to see what he likes – he just wants me in something that shows my arse off! Unfortunately for him I’ve already bought an aline dress.  On the plus side he hates anything overly poofy or froufrou and my dress is very simple, which I think he’ll like.


    He did just win some major brownie points by telling me that i’ll look beautiful in anything and to get the dress I love. Knew i was marrying him for a reason!

    Post # 4
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    My FH said very clearly he didn’t want to know anything about the dress AT ALL. But we’ve browsed through stuff on weddingbee and he’s said what he likes and what he doesn’t.


    Post # 5
    1972 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    My Fiance went dress shopping with me when I bought dress 3, when I bought THE dress (dress 4) he wasnt there but has seen photos of me in it

    Post # 6
    4650 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I showed him probably half a million photos. On top of that I incidentally ended up buying two dresses. (Not on purpose it just happened that way… they were both super inexpensive and I’m indecisive.) So he has no idea…. but among the stock photos he’s seen are both of them, which he liked. But he doesn’t know that and he doesn’t know which two I bought or which one I will wear! Hehehe!

    Post # 7
    1812 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    We sat at the computer as I flipped through a million dresses to get his opinion. I think he already knew I didn’t want a strapless gown, and I think he was digging the “sweetheart with some sort of straps” look I was aiming for. I learned that he really liked ruched satin, and so do I, but I ended up with a lace with small pearls and crystals in it. He loved some lace dresses and hated others, and I couldn’t really nail down what he did/didn’t like… So that was a gamble… But of course like a good little groom he said to pick whatever I feel pretty in!

    Post # 8
    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I showed him some dresses i liked, then had him point out things he preferred in dresses. After that i asked him to look up diffferent styles amd decide what he liked best. My budget didnt allow me to get what i reallllly wanted but i found one i loved and it fits with what he liked in dresses.

    It was important to me that the dress be something he would want to see his future wife wearing the day of the wedding and thanks to his suggestions i know he will love it. Although, truth be told i am sure he would like anything i would wear haha :)!

    Post # 9
    3422 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Fiance has no clue what I’m wearing on our day. I can’t wait to see his expression:) After almost nine years of dating..I’d like there to be some element of surprise. 

    Post # 10
    1478 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    you know thiis thread just made me feel guilty about not really asking my Fiance. So I just proceeded to ask him and got a load of “i dunnos” and then he fell asleep 

    Post # 11
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I showed him a few pulled out from a magazine…either ones I was serious about or ones I absolutely wouldn’t be getting anyway. I showed him a picture of me in one that I nixed and he did say he didn’t like it (mermaid style, very form fitting). My dress is a tad more traditional so I don’t think I will have any problems. At the same time, me in every day hair and makeup and a wedding dress is totally different from me in my dress on my wedding day. At that point I don’t think he will care at all.

    Post # 12
    8679 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    He didnt have much input but I know he sees me on here and will see a dress and say, “Please don’t wear that…”

    Post # 13
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013


    I didn’t bother showing him dresses I liked until I found mine. His opinion matters to me but, he said all along that all that matters is that I’m happy and if its the one I want its the one I shall get. 

    Although since I got it I have showed him stock photos whilst flicking through just to see what he thinks but, he won’t really say much about dresses in general lol.

    Post # 14
    6104 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My Fiance is pretty traditional when it comes to wedding things. He told me (well showed me since he doesn’t know the technical terms) he likes the traditional A-line silhouette (which is perfect because that’s what I liked best on my body) and he specifically stated he doesn’t like ruffles…they remind him of torn paper. Of course I purchased a dress with a textured skirt (has petal like texture) and I freaked for a minute remembering he hates ruffles but I showed him a dress with a similar texture and he said he liked it, so I’m good to go 🙂

    Post # 15
    12242 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    He LOVED drop waist tafetta ballgowns, but I was looking for an all-lace, natural waist ballgown or mermaid.

    Of course, MY dress I tried on as a joke (it was the heaviest dress in the store at 53lbs) is a drop waist tafetta ballgown. So I know he’ll love it!

    Post # 16
    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Before I went dress shopping I asked him if there was anything he wanted or did not want on my dress. He said he didn’t care and to get whatever I want, I would look great in whatever I wear. He knows nothing about the dress other than it’s white. I am even keeping it at his moms house so he’s not tempted to sneak a peek. 

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