(Closed) YOUR Fi's past sex life???

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll:

    Yes, it disgusts me!!

    No, I could careless it was before me

    Yes but it's the past & really doesn't matter

    No but MY past bothers HIM!!

  • Post # 122
    151 posts
    Blushing bee

    i just pretend it never happened and refuse to thinK about it. It’s the past and it should stay there!

    Post # 123
    707 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    Fiance and I are each others firsts. However, he’s received BJs from another girl long before we met (he said they were horrible lol). 

    Post # 124
    244 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MissSweetiepie:  We’re both blessed enough to have been each other’s first 🙂 We had a steep learning curve but it’s fantastic now!

    Post # 125
    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Can’t believe I’m admitting this… 

    Yes, it absolutely kills me. I currently live with his prior flavor of the week and ever time I pass her skinny, naked butt in the hall, I want to choke her. She knew I was into him and she was engaged to someone else. He and I were just at the distant friends/texting phase.  His mom died and a few weeks later she invited him over for drinks and that resulted in him being there for two weeks. I try so hard not to hate her. :'( she is my cousin and we were raised like twins (born same month). We were at a formal banquet where she was there with her fiance and went to the bathroom where she said, “you know the navy guy with the red hair? ” to myself I’m thinking duh, he is my best friend’s big bro, and she says, “Justin would kill me but I’m gonna score with that one.” Ugh. I shoulda smacked her then. 

    She is the only one that bothers me. She is so tiny and little with big sexy hair while I’m by no means big but have gained some weight bc seeing my ribs between my breast grossed him out. 

    Post # 126
    3415 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    No it was before me, he was obviously with other women because he is 9 years older than I am plus has a child from his first marriage.  And he’s HOT, women have hit on him in front of me before.

    He however gets upset when he thinks about my exes.  I don’t get it.  But whatev.

    Post # 127
    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I just console myself with the fact that there have been a lot of other “firsts” with me… gosh he had some pretty vanilla chicks (not knocking anyone who is but he has discovered he isn’t)

    Post # 128
    2319 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Fortunately for me I was FI’s first. But I was not his first. I THINK he is bothered to an extent that I had a sex life before him which makes me more experienced or just simply the fact that I have had another man inside of me. I can tell from his facial expressions when he was being diplomatic and telling me ‘i don’t want to know abt your past. It’s in the past and doesn’t matter’. 

    On the contrary, it bothers ME that he did not have a sex life before me. I was hoping that would help him value what I do for him. He does value it but really, he has nothing to compare it to other than hearing stories at work etc from ppl who give out Too Much Information. But experiencing it yourself is MUCH DIFFERENT. 

    Post # 129
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’ve slept with more people than he has so it’s not really an issue in our relationship.  Never really has been.  We both had fairly obsessive exes that called us both in the beginning of our relationship, but we’ve been together for so long that it’s not an issue.

    Post # 130
    4654 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MissSweetiepie:  If you can let go it will feel much better. 

    I personally think it’s silly to care what someone did before they were with you. It’s not like they cheated by being with someone before you. 

    Post # 131
    16 posts

    I honestly don’t have a problem with his sexual past.   Just as long as he has no STDS then I am happy.  

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