(Closed) Your guy checking out other girls?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I think it’s disrespectful for your guy to be looking at another girl especially with you right there. My boyfriend does not do this, and I would be very hurt if he did. If it bothers you I think you should talk about it again, you deserve to be able to talk about anything that bothers you, just like he does. Good luck!

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

At least he doesn’t TALK about how hot other women are in front of you. I wouldn’t worry about the occasional glance. 

Men, in general, are kindof stupid is what I realized.

He may not have even realized he was doing it or see why it is offensive. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee

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sarbear21:  Do it to him and see how he reacts. Maybe it’ll make him think next time. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

This doesn’t really bother me and I rarely see my Fiance check womem out. If you tell him you feel disrespected though, he should be more understanding. I think this merits another discussion with him. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

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sarbear21:  I’d be embarrassed and would feel sorry for the waitress more than anything. She can’t do anything about getting leered at while she’s on the clock, and your boyfriend’s behavior is disrespectful to her not you In My Humble Opinion. Some men really can’t conceive that their behavior towards women in public is inappropriate, if he “freaked out” and got defensive I doubt there’s a productive conversation to be had…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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sarbear21:  In our 9 years together, I have noticed him do this maybe 2x, when we were first dating. I haven’t noticed it in at least 7 years (and I am the type to notice and get pissed). I don’t think you need to mince words or bring it up sensitively, I would just give a little kick under the table and be like…”Oh, you like? Want me to get her number?” a little sarcastically. Yes, it’s harmless, but really? He’s not civilized enough to not check out a woman? Dude needs to get it together. :-/

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I haven’t seen my SO check out another girl in my company however it probably would bother me. I get jealous when he comments about a celebrity being attractive so it probably definitely would bother me!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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sarbear21:  That’s disrespectful. Maybe I’m weird, but when I’m in a relationship (now engaged) I just don’t find other men attractive, and have no desire to look. My Fiance said the same thing about women. I think you should talk to him again. Why is he getting so defensive? Usually those who are defensive are the ones doing something they KNOW is wrong. I guess as long as he doesn’t take it to another level (gets a number, sends females drinks at the bar, etc) it’s innocent. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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sarbear21:  the first few years we dated i felt like my husband ogled a little too much but we were really young. He grew out of it and never did it again after i told him how i felt. It wasnt a deal breaker because i 100% trusted him, but i didnt want to see that shit, and i wanted his eyes on me not some other girl. If he gives a quick glance where its not embarrassingly obvious, i wouldnt think twice. Its the staring and head turning that makes my skin crawl.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MissJulianna.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Looking is fine. Mine points girls out to me haha. But anything blatant is very rude. It’s natural to look and appreciate but not so obviously that the girl notices and feels uncomfortable. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My SO has never made me jealoud. On occasion I’ve been the one guilty of this – watching TV saying ‘now he’s good looking’ or something and my SO gets hurt by that too. I think this is pretty disrespectful both ways. Try to nip it in the bud. It’s rude.

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