(Closed) your husband/boyfriend/fiance being your "best friend" or not

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you say that your fiance is your "best friend"?

    Yes

    No, I have a platonic best friend

  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee

    He definitely is. I’d rather hang out with him than any other person on the planet.

    Post # 33
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yes, he is.

    Post # 34
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No my Fiance is not my best friend, he is the greatest love of my life and he loves me for just being me as I do for him. But I have a best friend that I can vent to, hang out with, and just be a silly girl around. Sometime’s Fiance does not always understand my girl drama vent and I don’t get his police officer mentality.. We both like that way…..

    Post # 35
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Oh yeah my DH is my best friend! I wouldn’t want it any other way!!! Everyone else eventually comes and goes, my DH will always be there… BFF! hehehe I don’t think I would have married someone I didn’t consider my best friend. We do everything together we tell each other everything we depend on each other we are in every way best friends.

    Post # 37
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would be said no before we lived together. But in the year we’ve been living together, we’ve grown so much closer. Probably akin to the first year of marriage for most couples. Now although I have a girl BFF, who has a husband she probably feels the same way about, I have to say SO is my very best friend and favorite person. But my girl time is still a MAJOR priority unlike some women I know after the couple up. 

    Post # 38
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    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Yes he is absolutely 100% my best friend and I couldn’t marry him if he wasn’t. But all relationships really are different and so I think it’s ok if a couple doesn’t feel that way, although for me it seems a little sad (?) because I can’t imagine not feeling that way about us. We also have been through a lot together that would break most 24 year old couples, if not most couples in general. There’s nobody else in the world I would rather do anything with. 

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I have 2 best friends. One is my Fiance, the other is my dear girlfriend.

    My Fiance is the person I love, trust, am marrying, can be open with, silly with, laugh with.

    My girlfriend is someone I can laugh with, go dancing with, cry at girly movies, vent about life,  going shopping with, talk about babies and lifes nonsense topics that most men don’t care for.

    I don’t believe that someone’s husband or wife should be their ‘everything’. You still need other people that can offer you things your SO can’t.

    Post # 40
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Yes, but I have three best friends and they all fulfill my relationship needs in different ways.

    Post # 41
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    6261 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    He is absolutely my best friend. I have other best friends, but none of them come close to how much I share with him. Also, I’ve known him for almost a decade now, and I while I have friends that I’ve known longer, I don’t talk to them nearly as much as I have talked to him since we started dating. We were friends for about three years before we got together, so we established the friendship first, and then the romance

    Post # 42
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Yes, he is my best friend. He knows more about me than anyone, we have no secrets from each other, and we genuinely like each other as well as love each other!

    Post # 43
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I must add though that when I picture myself as a little old lady, I see me and my BFF since 2nd grade living out a Golden Girls kindof life. LOL

    Post # 44
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I absolutely consider DH to be my best friend.  I had two women I have considered best friends in my life.  One moved away and we have lost touch, and although we are still friends, and talk occasionally, we no longer have that close “best friends” relationship and each of us found someone else to consider our best friend.  Second “best friend” stopped talking to me for no apparent reason, despite repeated attempts by myself to maintain contact and to find out what I had done (or not done) to upset her.  We renewed contact, (though it was obviously not at the same level) around a mutual friend’s wedding, but a couple months after the wedding she suddenly cut contact again (including unfriending me on FB).

    Even if one or both of those relationships were still fully intact, I would still consider DH to be my best friend.  If something good happens to me, the very first person I want to tell is DH.  If something bad happens, the first person I want to vent to is DH.  If I am happy, he is happy with me.  If I am sad, I cry on his shoulder.  He is the person I want to spend most of my free time with.  I am content even when we are just sitting in the same room together, (like right now, I am hanging out on on the Bee and DH is watching old movies on his computer, but I’m happy just because he’s in the room with me).  We share a closeness that is above and beyond what I have experienced with any of my other friends.  Plus, we get to have sex!  LOL!  But even beyond that, if I could never have sex with DH again, I would be perfectly happy just spending the nights snuggled in his arms.  

    Post # 45
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Yep, he’s definitely my best friend. We’re constantly laughing together and have so many inside jokes and I can be honest with him and him with me. He’s my love and best friend!

    Post # 46
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    He’s definitely my best friend. No doubt about it. I’ve never been as close to anyone as I am to him. 

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