Post # 32
I love the stories ladies!
Mine’s not romantic either… but it’s so us.
Us: Dating a few months, just had sex, sprawled out on his bed.
Him: “I love you.”
Me: “Did you say that cause we just had great sex?” (oof… I mean, you can imagine that’d go over like a pallet of bricks)… I will add I’m one of those obnoxiously technical literal types and I could easily see how great sex could cause someone to say “I love you”… cause it happens.
However we’re both older and been through a lot (from childhood on… just in different ways) and from day one accepted each other as who they were, so much simpler and less wasted time! So while I do think he was a little hurt by my response (I could see it in his eyes and expression), he hugged me and told me it was because he knew me that my response didn’t bother him, and he really did mean it and no not just cause we just had great sex. lol. I told him I loved him too, and not just cause of sex lol.
Post # 33
Mine’s not romantic either, although I’ve found sweetness and joy in everyone’s story, fairytale romance or not.
I had to wait 11 months for the real “I love you” to come out of his mouth. I told him I loved him after a month (horrible, I know but hey, I told my mom he was the man I was going to marry before we were even dating). I would say it from time to time because it was true and I just couldn’t help it, but I always made sure to tell him that I understood he couldn’t say it back. Then, after about 10 months, it was the middle of the night and I had to go to the bathroom. When I got back in bed, he woke up half way and before he drifted back to sleep, he said “I love you”. I doubt he knows he said it, but I was giddy 🙂 A month later, on New Year’s Day, he sat me down and said he had something very serious to talk about. He told me he had thought a lot about it and he that he loved me and if I said it back, it meant it I was 100% committed, no turning back. It took me all of a half second to get back to him 😉 Now, like KoiKove’s guy, mine can’t stop either. Love it, love him!
Post # 34
We had been friends for a long time, dated early in our junior year of high school, broken up and recently gotten back together (right after school let out for summer after junior year). We were hanging out at our friends’ house swimming in the back yard. He had had a couple of beers (though probably not drunk). I was sitting on his lap and I don’t remember exactly but someone had cracked a joke at my expense (it was funny..I was laughing too), but in typical dramatic adolescent style I said “oh…no one loves me!!” haha. Then he said, “I do…” quietly in my ear. My response?
“awww….thanks!” hahaha. I panicked. I didn’t want to say it back and then come to find out that he was just responding to it the same way many of my friends would respond to that statement and mean it completely platonically. Or maybe he was slightly intoxicated? And if I said it, would he be freaked out?? We had only been dating again for about a month! (but I did love him, still do).
So…with that awkward exchange out of the way, I felt horrible. What if he did mean it? And I just shut him down? Now he is never going to want to tell me again!! Again, dramatic thoughts of a 17 year old.
Well, after a few more months of dating, and after one particularly good date, we lingered in front of my parents’ house. There was this weird, but great romantic tension. I waited a minute, but then just gave him a kiss and walked inside. By the time I made it into my room, I received a text message. “MissSooner, this has been about to come out for the last couple of months. I have tried to keep it in, but I want to just say it before it slips out in some awkward way. I just want it out there. I love you. ” Then I responded with more gushy text messages… and here we are almost 6 years later about to get married : )
I talked to him about the first incident later–he DID mean it. And he felt like an idiot after my response haha I felt bad about that, but obviously it all worked out well.
Post # 35
Oh that sounds like ours, but reverse! Fiance didn’t want me to say it either because whenever a girl said it to him first, he felt like it jinxed the relationship and it never worked out. And such an adorable way to say it too!
Post # 36
After a few months, we were fooling around in bed and he kept saying – i love your laugh, i love the way you look in this light, i love that you make me smile – and so i just go so are you saying you love me and he said “I LOVE YOU” – haha took some coaxing but got him to say it.
Post # 37
Fiance and I have moved fairly quickly, I think, although this site makes me realize there really isn’t much of a norm. Everyone is different. But we were exclusive after knowing each other two weeks, I moved in another 3 weeks after that, he proposed within the same calendar year, and I honestly can’t remember the first time it was said, but when I read the question it just made me think of the beginning of our relationship and how I feel like half the things we said to each other back then were really us trying to say “I love you” without using those words. Like everything we said and did for each other was us trying to tell the other that we wanted to be together indefinitely. We talked about marriage and the future in the first 2 weeks, and I’m pretty sure the “I love you’s” happened in that time frame too. Man, we are some lucky ladies, bees! 🙂
Post # 38
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
All these are so sweet! (even the ones that claim not to be :3)
Mine came the first time BF stayed at my house and met my parents (we’d been together about 2 months). He bought flowers with him which my mum helped me to put in a vase. The two of us were alone in the lounge I think he hugged me and I said thank you for the flowers and asked why he’d bought them, he then picked me up and said it was beacuse he loved me ^^
I love the memory but at the time all I could said was “oh”. Hurr. He said it was alright and I did confess a month or two later <3 (his response to that was “I know”… lol)
Post # 39
We were half naked in the back of his truck. I’d been bursting to say it all night and sort of blurted it when things were happening. He said it back immediately. Ever since we don’t let a day go by without telling each other “I love you”.
Post # 40
We had been together for almost 2 months… We were laying in my bed and I was like trying to use my mind powers to make him tell me like I had been doing for a couple days, lol. He was quiet for a long time and I thought he had fallen asleep then he just blurts out “How freaked out would you be if I told you I loved you?!” and I responded, “I don’t know… do you?” He then gave me all of the reasons why he fell in love with me and all the reasons why it was ok if I was freaked out and ran away… I kissed him to shut him up and told him I loved him to. 🙂
Post # 41
It was a Tuesday night after a long day at work, and SO and I met up with friends of ours in a parking lot of an ice cream shop in order to carpool to the nearby casino. Hours later, we arrive back to our cars. We were living separately at this time, and we weren’t ready for the night to end because we don’t get to spend much time together during the week (he coaches basketball and I do per diem in the evenings). So, we sit in the car listening to Lady A’s album and talk about the night for ~15 minutes.
I got the vibe that something was on SO’s mind; his demeanor changed a tad bit. He seemed like he wanted to tell me something. I didn’t press the issue. It was getting late and we had work the next morning. We exchanged our goodbyes and he exited my car. Before I know it, he is at my driver side window asking me to roll it down.
I can’t exactly remember what else he said in that moment , but at the end he said those three little words. Lets just say I drove home with a smile on my face, jammin out to Lady A!
Post # 42
A trend indeed lol – the Fiance and I first said “I love you” to each other post-sex, lying half-naked in bed and watching “The Exorcist”. Yes, “The Exorcist”. That’s our romantic movie. We’re not normal people, can you tell?
It was thus incredibly appropriate that he proposed in Eli Roth’s Goretorium and we were subsequently splatted in blood. Interestingly, it was the second time during our trip to Las Vegas that we got splattered in blood – the first was during the Evil Dead musical
Post # 43
Mine is very similar to that! Except I was a little drunk and I just straight out said, “I love you,” then started babbling a little like, “I know we’ve only been together a couple weeks but I really feel it.” And he replied, “It’s okay, I love you too and I’ve been wanting to say it but thought it was too fast.” I just don’t have time to wait around for someone to finally work up the courage to say it 🙂
Post # 44
Mine is kind of weird. We started dating when we were freshmen in high school, 14 and 15. He’s a natural romantic, and I tend to think a little more logically. 5 weeks after we started “dating” in the limited way that freshmen can date, he told me he loved me. My response? “No, you don’t. It’s only been 5 weeks.” Probably hurt him, but I thought he was crazy. Sweet, but crazy. We didn’t even have our first kiss until we’d been together for 3 weeks! I asked him to please not tell me that he loves me until I thought I could reciprocate.
It took me 6 months to decide I loved him. I was scared to say it, because I am not one to say it lightly. I tried to approach it logically, thinking it through, and asking my mom what she thought love was. I was 14, had no clue how romantic love felt. I told him I was ready to say it, and I wanted to say it first this time, but I completely choked when the moment came. He smiled and said it, then I kind of whispered it. Heck, I may have started crying. It was really emotional for me; it was the first time I’ve told a guy I loved him like that, and he’s the only one I’ve ever said it to 🙂
All of these conversations between us happened between classes in our high school hallway. Romantic, right? lol
Post # 45
I said it first, a whole year in! It’s not something that either of us takes lightly at all. Even then, I was really, really nervous to say it! When we first started dating, we talked about not getting too serious, since we both were still pretty banged up from our previous relationships (him much more than me). I think we both knew deep down that we didn’t really mean it.
Lo and behold, a year later, and things had clearly gotten a lot more serious than we had intended! I remember it SO well. We were laying in bed, and I said, “Can I ask you a question?” “Sure?” “Would you be completely freaked out if I said that I love you?” “No,” then he PAUSED! Lol I thought for a minute that he wasn’t going to say it back… ugh just had to leave me hanging. Haha, then finally, “…because I’ve been too scared to say that I love you.” And then the wave of relief.
I still give him crap to this day about how I said it first!
Post # 46
these are so fun.
My SO and I were laying in his bed cuddling as we were going to sleep. We had to be up early the next night because I was driving him to the cities to leave outta town to Ohio for what could be a month to many months. I had thought he had started to doze off and I was laying awake anxious because I didn’t want to leave him.
He has a tendancy to talk in his sleep and he wispered what sounded like i love you. I tried to ignore it and kind of tossed and turned until he started making small talk with me. I don’t remember those little details but i finally was like did you mean what you said a little bit ago. and he kept saying what did I say, and i keep trying to hint at it and he kept beating around the bush… finally on the verge of tears i was like did you mean it when you said i love you because.. and he cut me off and said i love you too really fast and kissed me. lol. i was tearing up. mostly sad to leave him the next day and extatic because i was crazy about him :]