(Closed) Your opinion of family style food.

posted 6 years ago in Food
  • poll: Family Style
    Never been to a wedding w/ family style, but like the idea. : (94 votes)
    53 %
    Never been to a wedding w/ family style, but DON'T like the idea. : (32 votes)
    18 %
    Have been to a wedding w/ family style and enjoyed it. : (42 votes)
    24 %
    Have been to a wedding w/ family style and DID NOT enjoy it. : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Can you explain a bit about how this would work? I’ve been to “family style” restaurants, but never a “family style” wedding reception, so I just want to make sure I’m understanding correctly. Thanks! 🙂

    Post # 4
    5787 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Depends on the feel you’re going for. I think it would work at a casual wedding. My friend had family style food at her wedding. Pros – It was hot and yummy and I didn’t have to wait at a buffet. Cons – Passing around food and trying not to spill it was an undertaking. Also, she had long tables and little centerpieces so it wasn’t that hard to pass everything around. Not sure how it would have worked with a large round tables.

    Post # 5
    9 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I like family style it it gets everyone at the table talking especialy if you’re sitting with people you don’t know.  Its a good way to break the ice


    Post # 6
    14 posts
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’ve been reading weddingbee for quite some time now, but decided to register and respond once i saw your thread. In our culture (russian-american) family-style is the only style! Since there’s so much drinking, you need plenty of food on the table, or debauchery starts. The way i’ve alway seen it done is when you get to your table, the appetizers and salads are already there, then waiters bring hot appetizers, then fish, then meat and in the end desert and cake. Usually, there are long rectangle tables, and you have a couple of plates of each meal, so people don’t have to pass their plae to the other end of the table to get something. I also think this is much more expencive then regular plated dinner, because you’re paying for enough of each appetizer, entree and deset for everyone, and not just for fish for so many people, and steak for that many people. 

    Post # 7
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    We did family style at our wedding!  We had it at two other weddings prior (both from the same caterer that we used) and loved it!  Was one of the reasons we specifically went with her.  The servers would fill up the serving bowls/plates as they depleted, so it wasn’t like whatever is on your plate is what you get, always 2nd’s!  I didn’t hear any complaints about it.  But, it does depend on your crowd and how casual your wedding is. 

    @LGenz:  We had large round tables at our wedding, with smaller centerpieces, and as far as I know, it worked out fine.  At one of the weddings we were at prior, they also had large round tables, and it was just like eating a big dinner at home.  No problems.  But, all of our guests were pretty laid back and just glad to eat and not have to worry about getting up, except for drinks.

    Post # 8
    533 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think at 90% of the weddings I have attended, the food has been served family style.  Most people I know like it because you are able to choose what food you want (to a certain degree), and it gets people talking to other people at the table, even if they don’t know them.

    ETA:  I forgot to mention that I have had family style and small, intimate weddings and also at huge, very expensive weddings. So I don’t think you can  associate it with just “casual weddings”.

    Post # 9
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was going to go with family style at my wedding because I loved the idea of nobody having to wait in line while still getting to eat as much as they want of whatever they want (which you sort of lose with a plated dinner). We only changed our minds to buffet when we realized that we’d have to majorly cut down on table decorations to make room for the bowls of food.

    It’s only bad when you have germaphobe types who don’t like the idea of anyone else even LOOKING at their food. Those people would have the same problem with a buffet, though!

    Post # 10
    588 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’ve been to a wedding with family style and hated it. It was mostly the servers fault though. She handed everything to me to start with and brought out a new dish every five minutes so we were constantly interrupted. Also, no one wanted to take too much and then there not be enough for the others. The waitress also didn’t tell us what anything was so we had to take a guess (and I hate eating something that I don’t know what’s in it!). We were at a large round table and if two people hadn’t switched tables we wouldn’t have had any place to put the dishes. Maybe it was just the way it was handled but I wouldn’t want to experience it again. 

    Post # 11
    1415 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It seems to me that wedding tables are always so crowded already, with the centerpieces, favors, menu cards, place cards, place settings, photos of the couple, etc. I can’t picture the logistics of family style! I think I’d rather just go to a buffet. 

    Post # 12
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    We had a family style meal! Our meal was all you can eat, so there was no way anyone would not get some.

    I’ve been going to our venue for years, since I was a child, and I always loved the family style served food, so I had to have it for my wedding too! I think my guests liked it! 🙂

    Post # 13
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    @luludallas:  Yup this is the same for Chinese culture, although not necessarily for weddings.  I would have no problem eating like that at a wedding, though!

    Post # 14
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @elysion:  I learned to love family style while studying abroad in China!

    The trick they’ve figured out is the big circular lazy susans, so the bowls are just set in the middle and then you spin the lazy susan until whatever you want is right in front of you. MUCH better way of serving food so that nobody has to pass things around and the bowls have their own dedicated home! Not sure how table decorations would go with that though. Haha maybe they’d just have to spin too!

    Post # 15
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’ve never been to a wedding with family-style service, but as long as there’s plenty of food to go around, it sounds like the best of both worlds.  No waiting to be called to the buffet, standing in line, etc. but you still have some control over portion size and which foods to put on your plate.

    Post # 16
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    LOVE family style. I wish it was an option for us. I really do not eat much and am picky with my food. With family style, I get to pick my portion and pass on the yucky veggies options! Smile

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