Post # 17
I’m not a fan but I know they’re common in certain areas/circles. I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking my guests to pay money to dance with me for like 30 seconds, especially now-a-days when people hardly ever carry cash. My aunt and uncle had one at their wedding 17 years ago and people didn’t seem to mind it. They made quite a bit of money too.
ETA: Funny story about my aunt and uncles dollar dance… I was like 8 years old at their wedding so I asked my grandmother for money for the dollar dance. She gave me a $100 bill with the intention of me paying $50 to dance with my aunt and $50 to dance with my uncle. F*ck that! I gave my uncle the $100 and made him make change! He didn’t have enough for the full $99 so I settled for what he had. I ended up making like $75!
Post # 18
They arent common here and until the Bee, I had never even heard of them.
Post # 19
I think it depends on what your guests may be thinking about it/expecting it/excited for it. I know my family’s side doesn’t do them too often, but in Mr.NDs (enormous) extended family, it’s a must. Some people think it’s *tacky* (I don’t), but some circles and cultures expect it and some are excited for it, and I do know some of the older folks love it as a nice way to get a little personal time with the couple.
I’d say that if you’re comfortable with it, then just gauge where you think your guests stand on the idea.
Post # 20
My cousin just did this at her wedding and once the dance was over, the dj made an annoucement that the money was being donated to a charity – same one where they made a donation instead of favors.
Post # 21
The dollar dance has been a part of every wedding that I’ve ever been to, and I think they’re great fun! My family does a polka instead of a slow dance, and everyone who dances with the bride gets a shot at the end (whiskey for the guys, peach schnapps for the girls). I think my extended family would disown me if we didn’t do a dollar dance.
I can see how it would be awkward and uncomfortable if your families aren’t familiar with it, though.
Post # 22
I think it’s a cultural thing, and it’s not normal in my culture. While I wouldn’t do it, I don’t look down on people who do b/c I know different things are normal for different people.
Post # 23
my personal opinion is that they are tacky and awkward. however i have only ever watched them happen, i did not have one myself.
Post # 25
Its very common where I’m from and almost expected. My dad is always sure to have some extra cash on hand when we go to weddings. My Future Mother-In-Law actually already purchased me a Money Dance Bag. (Kind of funny, she got it with my ‘new’ initials on it. EEEK 🙂
Post # 26
People came up to us, asking if we were going to have one. I was against it during planning, but at the wedding, thought it would be a fun way to dance with guests. I wanted to do one spur of the moment, but DH thought I was crazy and veto’d it.
I figure – if you want to do it and people don’t want to participate it in, they don’t have to!
Post # 27
If it’s commonplace then go ahead and do it. Out of a dozen or so weddings I have only seen it done once. At the time I had no idea what it was. When I heard it was part of their heritage (I was told Polish) it all made sense.
Post # 28
Just about every wedding I have been to, has one. I do think it is cultural. With that said I refuse to have people pin money to me (especially my dress). I believe it has nothing to do with an open bar but it is to help the couple with money to start their new life together. If you dont mind all the pinning and dancing then you should have it.
Post # 29
I realize that some threads and topics need new threads because new people will have new opinions and new suggestions, but I honestly wish people would at least TRY to use the search feature on some topics before posting a new thread. This is definitely one that has been done to death, and both sides always say the same things.
Just throwing it out there in the hope that people will actually try it in the future.
Post # 30
I’ve never been to a wedding where they had a dollar dance, so I’m in the “I don’t get it” camp. I know I wouldn’t be comfortable with it, but if your family and friends are ok, then go for it. Honestly, my discomfort with it is because it feels like panhandling to me, I’m sorry to say.
Post # 31
I don’t get why so many see it as “begging for money” which I’ve seen people say in so many other threads about this….It’S called A DOLLAR DANCE….As far as my understanding and what my family has told me is that it cost A DOLLAR to dance with the bride or groom….no? One Dollar? Is that really “begging” for money? I think it probably originated as a fund for the new husband and wife so they could “make some cash” to start their new lives….(I don’t know the history) but I think it’s evolved into just a fun little way of dancing with your guests. I would hardly call it tacky or begging. Just my opinion. I say if you want it then do it, if someone thinks it’s tacky then they don’t have to give you a damn dollar to dance with you. : )