(Closed) your opinion on nontraditional invite wording

posted 5 years ago in Paper
  • poll: based on the text of our non-formal invite (below), who do you think is paying for the wedding?
    only Bride & Groom : (9 votes)
    32 %
    only one set of parents : (0 votes)
    both sets of parents (but not Bride & Groom) : (0 votes)
    Bride & Groom and one set of parents : (0 votes)
    Bride & Groom and both sets of parents : (13 votes)
    46 %
    other (please specify in comments) : (1 votes)
    4 %
    I never think about who is paying when I read a wedding invite : (5 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    7593 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @kjthomps:  I said other because when I receive an invitation, I don’t scrutinize it to figure out who is paying. It doesn’t matter to me who’s paying. When I hear or see specific references to “hosting” I do equate that to paying, but I don’t consider that my business. I’m happy to be invited and will express my gratitude to whoever sends the invitation.

    Editing to add: If it is obviously being hosted/paid for by someone other then the person sending the invite, then of course I’ll thank the hosts. But if it’s not obvious, I’m not nosy enough to try and figure it out or assume. 

    Post # 4
    3195 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @kjthomps:  we didn’t word invites based on who was or was not paying, we went very traditional with ours

    mr _______ and ms _________

    request your presence at the marriage of their daughter

    jessica ____________


    seth __________

    son of ms. ___________ and mr. _____________

    this date, this time, this location

    reception to follow

    we listed his mom first because he and his father dont have a good relationship, but we didnt want to stir up trouble by not listing him at all.

    Post # 5
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Based on how that is written, it sounds like the Bride & Group and both sets of parents are hosting. 


    Post # 6
    3195 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @kjthomps:  also, i think your wording is fine, regardless of who is paying. i cant ever tell who is paying by an invite anyway

    Post # 8
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    IMO when you write and with their parents it makes me think bride, groom and parents are all helping.

    At least thats how i worded mine. And my parents are helping. It may not be finacally, but my mom is helping by making stuff for the wedding. And if she wouldnt of made the items, i would of had to buy the item( so finacally assisting…. lol)

    ANyhow, why does it matter who pays? as a guest you go to have fun and support the bride and groom.

    Unless your parents are paying, and they dislike how its worded. IN that case, you may want to reconsider how the wording.

    Post # 9
    2685 posts
    Sugar bee

    The invite doesn’t need to indicate who is paying, however I generally assume that whoever is the host is also paying for most of it.  From your wording, I’d assume that you and your Fiance are primarily hosting, but that your parents are involved too.  My Fiance and I are paying/planning the entire thing, and we are only listing ourselves as the hosts.  I’m not very traditional either, and I thought it would be odd to list my parents on the invite when they’re not really involved with the planning.

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