Post # 61
My dog is 100% my baby. But she is also an animal at the end of the day and her comfort is not necessarily the biggest priority in all cases. If I have guests over, I am not going to make my guests sit on the floor because my dog is on the sofa and if my guest is more comfortable with her on her bed or in her crate, then fine. I usually tell her bed but if she’s pushing boundaries, I’ll put her in her crate with a chew. A few hours in her crate is not going to massively affect her comfort in her home but it will reestablish boundaries. If we have someone over to work on the house, she also gets crated because it’s her safe space. My dog is the priority if you are coming to my house and are telling me to put my dog outside or to put her in another room. No, you come to my house and you accept that there will be a dog and she will be in the same room as we talk. Or that she might be playing on the floor in the vicinity of you, that’s ok by my book as long as she isn’t bothering you.
If my dog is pushing boundaries and you have to shove her away, I will apologise to you. I will also push other dogs off me, such as dogs that jump at me. This isn’t a hard shove and nobody has ever been upset for me having to shove their dog off. Most people have apologised that it got to that state. People are too precious that their dog (or kid) is incapable of being naughty and therefore any discomfort is the result of you, not the dog or kid.
Now, if you put your hands on my dog without good reason, I will lose it on you. I have told my friend’s kid off when he threw a toy at my dog when she was on her bed. Then again, I am also fine with people telling my dog off if she’s being naughty but most people in our circles are a lot more lax with boundaries than we are and so she can get away with a lot.
Post # 62
100% – so long as it’s because they are worried about safety and not just because they are upset. Either way, the child needs to know that hitting/being mean to an animal is not okay!
Post # 63
Sure, I’d be pretty pissed if someone hurt my dog, but if my dog is bothering someone, I am on it immediately and would remove her from the situation before that happened.
Post # 64
People should train their dogs better. It’s one thing having a 13 week old pup jumping up (it’s to be expected because they are young and not yet able to exhibit self control) but it’s another thing having an adult dog leaping all over you.
Surely an adult dog should understand and respond to “sit”, “stay”, “come here” and “lie down”.
Basic dog etiquette should mean the owner training the dog not to leap all over guests. A dog’s place is on the floor waiting for permission to greet guests.
Of course this training all takes time and patience and persistence. But a well trained and loved dog is a happy dog.
Post # 65
My judgement is that this is one of the best things ever! Wonderful and hilarious! Thanks for posting the photos of your sweet Dory’s Quincinera.
Give her a little belly skritch from me.
eta: Just saw the photo with the gift haul. THAT FACE!!!!! So cute! She is lucky to have you for a mom.
Post # 66
- Wedding: July 2020 - City, State
I don’t know you, but I think I love you! I definitely love Dori! So adorable!!! Congrats on her big day!! And her new purse is adorable!
Post # 67
- Wedding: January 2021 - Dracut, Massachusetts
I have had people push my cat off of them, but she’s a cat, and she’s stupid… soo I can’t really do much expect put her into another room and close the door. I’ve yelled at someone for doing so being rough with her, like you just have to pick her up and put her on the floor, or tell me that her sitting on you is bothering you.
Now my friends’ dogs are both huge and like to jump up. I wouldn’t ever push them hard but I will correct them and be firm. It might be different since these dogs are around me all the time so they do listen to me. Both are stubborn as hell (pit mix and german shepard) but they sure do know auntie doesn’t let them get away with crap!
Post # 68
- Wedding: July 2020 - City, State
I won’t gain any friends here, but I have shoved a dog away from me, though “shove” has a certain ring to it, and I would call what I did “pushing her head away.” Not enough to hurt her by any stretch, of course, but friends had a dog that they just did not train properly. She would immediately go to sniff the you-know-where place, and once she was pushed away enough, she’d go for under the shirt, as she had a belly button fetish of some kind. They would yell at her to stop, but she would not. She did this to everyone who entered the home and even knocked my then-young son into an endtable.
Before my dog passed away, he rarely cared for anyone outside of the family, but when he did, I’d make sure they were ok with him snuggling up next to them on the couch. There needs to be a balance of respecting the dog and respecting guests.
Post # 69
blondie603 : or tell me that her sitting on you is bothering you
It shouldn’t be on the guest to tell you to get your cat off them though – if your cat jumps on someone it is on YOU to say “oh so sorry let me grab her”. For me animal size doesn’t matter. If the behavior isn’t acceptable from a 100 pound dog it also isn’t ok for a 20 pounds dog/cat.
Post # 70
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
I don’t think it’d have let it get that far; I call my dog off pretty quickly and he listens well. If he was being annoying and wouldnt listen, I fully expect someone to enforce their own boundaires. I think it’s like people, we teach dogs how they can act around us.
My SIL has a very hyper active dog and she doesnt listen well (pretty sure there’s a mental deficiency there). SIL tries to call her off but shes an obsessive breed so she doesnt always listen. I have no choice but to push her away and sometimes I get frustrated with her. I’m fairly sure I have angrilty shoved her away after commanding her several times… there’s only so much I can handle before I’m done.
Post # 71
Ah, thanks so much!! She is spoiled rotten but I feel lucky to have her, she’s so cuddly and knows when I’m not feeling well and won’t leave my side!
Thank you! She has a Louis Vuitton and I don’t 😂