Post # 1
Won’t say what but will say we’re going to be official soon. 🙂
That being said, I am really mulling this whole STD issue thing. I know personally I haven’t received many, and would almost rather send out an engagement announcement that combos as one asking them to reserve a certain weekend.
Then have that follow up with the invitation.
I’m not having lots of guests, but the invites I have decided I love are not cheap either. I do not wish to make the mistake imho of having too much paper goods..plus why waste a perfectly good tree either? 🙂
Your thoughts on the whole issue of paper goods please? Do you really need a separate engagement announcement and then a save the date which is then followed up by an invitation or are you just going to send your invites and be done?
Post # 3
I don’t think STDs are neccessary unless a lot of people are from out of town or you’re traveling. If there are only a few, I’d notify them personally to hold the date.
Post # 4
I think the only time STDs are necessary are when your guests need the extra time to prepare (long distance, costly, etc.) I know when we sent them out we had a couple people think that they were the actual invitation and wanted to know why it didn’t have all the information!
In your case, I think an engagement announcement and an official invitation would be perfect.
Post # 5
We’re doing a save-the-date and an invite. We have a lot of people coming from out of town, and also we’ve been engaged for a really long time, so a lot of people have forgotten what the date is.
Post # 6
What I’d really like to do is an announcement and kinda a STD all in one. Everybody else but us is going to be travelling to wherever we go so we’re in a unique situation!
Post # 7
Agreed that they aren’t necessary for a small wedding where word of mouth will work. They’re nice for weddings with a lot of out of town guests, or bigger weddings where it’ll be harder to track the guest list. They can also be a fun way to share an engagement photo or a link to your wedding website, but absolutely not a must for every situation.
Post # 8
By the way, I have seen a lot of the STDs that have wording along the lines of what (I thinK) you’re thinking. Like, “We’re tying the knot!” Or, “she said yes” or simply “i do.” as well as cute ones where the couple is holding a series of signs announcing it. You can easily do wording other than just “save the date” so that it can double as an e announcement.
Post # 9
I personally think STDs are somewhat blown out of proportion and are often just an added unneccessary expense. The only reason I am doing them is because we have a lot of out of town guests. Since they aren’t that important to me, I’m not going to get carried away and spend a lot of money on them.
Post # 10
I don’t think they are neccessary unless you are getting married on a holiday weekend. They are just a new trend that people like. I definitely won’t be doing them either. I like the idea of an engagement announcement, but I would think if you were using them for both they’d have to only be given to people invited to the wedding? I am more in favor of sending out a wedding announcement after the wedding if something had to be sent out..
Post # 11
Personally I don’t think they are necessary, and IMO more likely to get thrown away then the actual wedding invitation.
With the way everyone connects now days, announcements are spread through phone calls, emails, e-vites, etc. So its much easier to give everyone notice, including the out of towners, advanced notice.
BUT, I do think STDs are super cute & can help to set a tone for your wedding.
Post # 12
i think it depends on the situation, like others have said. if it’s a destination wedding, or on a holiday weekend where people will be busy, than i think it’s a good idea. i didn’t do anything but the invite because it’s not a busy weekend, i’m not expecting a lot of out of towners to come, and my mom and mil have been spreading the word for the date anyway so those who do need to fly already know and have their flights/hotels set.
Post # 13
I’m sending STDs and invitations because a big charity event is going on that weekend, so I wanted to give guests a heads up before they made plans. However, STDs are totally not necessary.
Post # 14
It’s in my experience that the STD acts as an engagement announcement if a formal one isn’t sent out. Usually on the magnet/card/etc. I’ve received it says “We’re getting married!” and then goes on to give info about the wedding. I’ve never been sent an engagement announcement, a STD, and an invite. That seems like overkill.
Hope this helps.
Post # 15
We sent out announcements by email then a paper invite.
Post # 16
We’re doing them. Almost all of our guests are from out of town and we’re asking them to travel to one of the most expensive cities in the country. The more advance notice possible, I think, the better.