(Closed) Your ring is pretty… Are you really engaged?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s strange, maybe she knows women who wear ‘engagement’ rings but aren’t actually engaged? Or if your ring is non-traditional, she was wondering if it was just a pretty ring and not an engagement ring?

The only interesting comments I get are “Wow, how big is it??” which I find really rude.

Post # 4
433 posts
Helper bee

Ever since I got engaged I started noticing other women’s left ring fingers- And I’ve seen a lot of them who I know aren’t engaged but sometimes wear a ring. For some its an informal promise ring, for another thats the only finger her heirloom ring will fit on. And then theres some girls who wear a fake e-ring so guys won’t hit on them (never seems to be effective)

I guess she was just curious and didn’t want to assume and get all “OMG congrats!” if you weren’t engaged, I wouldn’t be offended- people are just weird.

Post # 5
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve had people say to me, “What a pretty ring, are you engaged?”  I always thought it was a “duh” but I suppose it’s better to be safe than sorry.  I’m sure some people wear engagement ring-looking jewelry on their left hands and then it’s awkward when they tell people they’re not engaged.

Post # 6
3600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I get it a lot. It’s frustrating, but I just grin and bear it since it comes with the territory or having a different stone.

Post # 7
6244 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Maybe she thought you looked super young!

Post # 9
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I actually notice alot of people who aren’t engaged wearing rings on their left hand…I don’t really get it??? So maybe that’s why she asked?

Post # 10
1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s true – I know many people who either wear promise rings, or some will even wear a ring just to kind of ward off unwanted approaches?

Post # 11
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know some teens who wear rings on their left finger so if I see someone who looks super young wearing a ring on their left finger I might wonder if they were really engaged or not but  I wouldnt ask.

Post # 12
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’d like to think that she thought you looked really young and hence the question but it’s still rude nonetheless. I wore rings on my left hand when I wasn’t married but that’s just because it fit on that finger.

Post # 15
5091 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I had my first run-in with a non-engagement ring on someone’s left ring finger yesterday.  I was at the mall and stopped in a jewelry store to see their gemstone ring collection (I’ve told BF that I do NOT want a diamond).  The lady working there seemed about my age, and she mentioned that she didn’t like diamonds very much, either.  She gestured at her left ring finger and said she had just gotten a birthstone ring.  I gave her a big, “Oh, congratulations!” but she blushed and said it was just a shiny thing she bought for herself.  I was a little embarassed.  I guess I can understand now why people would want to confirm your engagement.

Post # 16
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

i’ve known people that aren’t engaged that wear rings on their left hands anyway. one girl said “it’s a note to the guy – if he can’t do better than what I already have, he shouldn’t bother trying!”

she was kidding, but I thought it was a funny idea 😛

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