Post # 1
I was in checking out at the book store, and the girl who was checking me out saw my ring when I was signing the receipt and said “Your ring is pretty, are you really engaged?”
I just smiled and said “yeah” and she was like “It’s really pretty” and then I said thank you and went on my way.
However, I feel like the comment was strange. If someone had asked “Are you engaged” i don’t know if it would have caught me off guard, but “are you really engaged?”…
I thought about it as I was walking out- would someone be wearing an engagement ring who wasn’t engaged? Do I not look like I’m a person who would be engaged? Is she just bad with grammar?
Either way, I found the situation really funny. Has anyone else gotten any funny ring comments?
Post # 3
That’s strange, maybe she knows women who wear ‘engagement’ rings but aren’t actually engaged? Or if your ring is non-traditional, she was wondering if it was just a pretty ring and not an engagement ring?
The only interesting comments I get are “Wow, how big is it??” which I find really rude.
Post # 4
Ever since I got engaged I started noticing other women’s left ring fingers- And I’ve seen a lot of them who I know aren’t engaged but sometimes wear a ring. For some its an informal promise ring, for another thats the only finger her heirloom ring will fit on. And then theres some girls who wear a fake e-ring so guys won’t hit on them (never seems to be effective)
I guess she was just curious and didn’t want to assume and get all “OMG congrats!” if you weren’t engaged, I wouldn’t be offended- people are just weird.
Post # 5
I’ve had people say to me, “What a pretty ring, are you engaged?” I always thought it was a “duh” but I suppose it’s better to be safe than sorry. I’m sure some people wear engagement ring-looking jewelry on their left hands and then it’s awkward when they tell people they’re not engaged.
Post # 6
I get it a lot. It’s frustrating, but I just grin and bear it since it comes with the territory or having a different stone.
Post # 7
Maybe she thought you looked super young!
Post # 8
I could tell she wasn’t being rude… it was just funny because I’ve never gotten a question like that.
My ring is pretty traditional (princess cut stone, 2 smaller, kite set princess stones on the side, and 10 stones set into the band) so it’s pretty obvious that it’s an engagement ring, to me, but I guess someone could mistake it as just a pretty piece of jewelry.
As for me looking young, it is a college bookstore on campus, so I’m fairly sure she’s younger than me, but I do look really young for being 23 (being 5’1″ doesn’t help my cause). I did have that thought myself after I left, but whenever I have that thought I always get the urge to convince people that I am, in fact, 23, and then I get self conscious about how people perceive me…. So i try not to dwell on it much. 🙂
Post # 9
I actually notice alot of people who aren’t engaged wearing rings on their left hand…I don’t really get it??? So maybe that’s why she asked?
Post # 10
It’s true – I know many people who either wear promise rings, or some will even wear a ring just to kind of ward off unwanted approaches?
Post # 11
I know some teens who wear rings on their left finger so if I see someone who looks super young wearing a ring on their left finger I might wonder if they were really engaged or not but I wouldnt ask.
Post # 12
I’d like to think that she thought you looked really young and hence the question but it’s still rude nonetheless. I wore rings on my left hand when I wasn’t married but that’s just because it fit on that finger.
Post # 13
I know! I’ve noticed that too…. I think if it were me, though, I would have worn a promise ring on my right hand (just personal choice i guess?)
I will admit that I used to wear rings on my “ring finger” but they were clearly not engagement rings… The main one was a ring my grandma got me when I graduated, which was really pretty, but it just had pink tourmaline in it. It didn’t scream “getting married” to me.
Idk. I know it isn’t a big deal, but I still think it’s really funny.
Post # 14
@bells: Dang it! Now I’m worried that I look like a teenager….
Post # 15
I had my first run-in with a non-engagement ring on someone’s left ring finger yesterday. I was at the mall and stopped in a jewelry store to see their gemstone ring collection (I’ve told BF that I do NOT want a diamond). The lady working there seemed about my age, and she mentioned that she didn’t like diamonds very much, either. She gestured at her left ring finger and said she had just gotten a birthstone ring. I gave her a big, “Oh, congratulations!” but she blushed and said it was just a shiny thing she bought for herself. I was a little embarassed. I guess I can understand now why people would want to confirm your engagement.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
i’ve known people that aren’t engaged that wear rings on their left hands anyway. one girl said “it’s a note to the guy – if he can’t do better than what I already have, he shouldn’t bother trying!”
she was kidding, but I thought it was a funny idea 😛