I love that this thread was resurrected! It’s been so fun to look through all the pages of beautiful ring changes and, especially, to read everyone’s stories. My journey has been a long and winding one, so I am about to write a novella. (be afraid! o.o)
This is my original engagement ring, in its original state. It’s a 5-stone with a round center stone and a combination of baguettes and rounds in the setting. Set in 18K yellow gold. I don’t remember all the specs of my center stone, but I think it’s somewhere in the .50ct range, like .50-.53. And I think it is G or H in color.
Honestly, I never LOVED my ring. Don’t get me wrong. I didn’t hate it or anything like that. I just never fell head over heels for it. My husband and I picked the center stone together, and we shopped for the setting together, too. But he is the one who chose the setting and stone shape. I went into the whole ring shopping experience wanting a heart-shaped solitaire set in a white metal. Hubs liked a setting with “more stuff” on it. And he wanted a round stone because he felt it was more durable. He was okay with a white metal, but we got engaged ages ago (1992). Yellow gold was King at that time, and no one carried white gold settings. This was before online shopping, so we were limited to brick and mortar stores. We purchased our stone and setting separately from a reputable diamond wholesaler in our state, although we ended up traveling about 3 hours to meet with them.
We were engaged for 6 years. And I wore my ring proudly all that time. In fact, I seldom took it off. I did all the things you’re not supposed to do in rings: washed dishes, slept with it on, rode horses … and so on. I was a bad ring mama — ha, ha! It held up remarkably well.
This is my original wedding band. It is 18K yellow and white gold: white on the inside and yellow on the outside edges. When we got married, I wanted to get the matching band for my engagement ring. But hubby and I were paying for our own wedding, and we decided we couldn’t afford the expense of a band with stones on it. It never occurred to me to get a plain yellow gold band to pair with my engagement ring. When we got married (1998), having a mismatched set was not common. In fact, I don’t think I had ever seen one in person at that point in time. So my husband chose this band for me, and I wore it for the first 4 or 5 years of our marriage, until I got pregnant and was nearly at the end of my pregnancy.
After pregnancy, my body went a little crazy with hormonal issues. I ended up unable to wear my original band for a long time. I also struggled with depression for many years, and really didn’t care about much of anything. It wasn’t the best time in my life. For around 10 or 12 years, I wore a variety of silver bands. Or I didn’t wear any ring at all.
This is the ring my husband gave me for our 16th (I think? Or maybe 15th) anniversary. It has a round center stone that is .90ct and either D or E color. And I think it’s an SI1. It is set in a platinum and diamond setting. Originally, my husband was going to get a sapphire and diamond band for me. We went through a local, family-owned jeweler to find the size and color sapphires he wanted. In the meantime, I fell in love with this setting in the jeweler’s case. I could not stop thinking about it, and I had to try it on every time we were in the store. My husband surprised me with it instead of the diamond and sapphire band.
Then, for the Christmas right after he gifted the anniversary ring to me, my husband picked out this band to go with it. It is also set in platinum, and it has diamonds flush-set around the band. I still like wearing these together. But, over the years since I received this ring, I have also added new bands, which I now mix and match and change up whenever the mood strikes.
Somewhere in the midst of all this, I started becoming more and more enamored with colored gemstones. So my husband gifted me with my London Blue Topaz solitaire. It’s a custom ring, so I worked out the design and picked the stone. But I still consider it a gift from my husband, because I would not have gotten it otherwise. It is around a 2 to 2.4 ct equivalent London Blue Topaz set in 14K rose gold. This was not for an anniversary or anything like that. It was a gift to celebrate meeting a certain personal life goal.
Even though this one is the band and not an “engagement ring” type of ring, I feel it has to go into my story because it is the only other sentimental band I have. My husband gave me this band for the first Valentine’s Day after his heart attack and quadruple bypass surgery. It is diamond and sapphire. I love it with my anniversary ring and with my engagement ring.
For our 18th (I think? I really should keep better track of this stuff — LOL) anniversary, I had the baguettes removed from my engagement ring. And I replaced them with blue sapphires. I never liked my baguettes. I always thought they looked dirty, no matter how much I cleaned them. I LOVE this reset! It is a slight change, but I feel like it makes my ring look like a completely different and new ring. And this has encouraged me to pull my original ring out to wear more and more. I particularly love wearing it in the warmer months, when I don’t like the feel of a heavier ring on my hand. It also looks pretty great with my sapphire and diamond band now!
And, finally, for our 20th anniversary, my husband gifted me with the chance to go completely crazy and design a custom ring. The center stone is a spinel, and the setting is 14K rose gold. It’s not a design that would appeal to most people, I know. It is a heavy ring with a lot of metal work. I have come to realize these are both things I love in a ring. And it incoporates several sentimental design elements: the stone echoes the purple of the amethyst in the promise ring my husband gave me when we were first dating … dragons were a big motif in our wedding … roses are my favorite flower and were what I carried in my bouquet, plus my husband gives me roses every year for our anniversary.