Your ring vs. your mother's ring (and other female relatives)

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

 Top is my grandmothers, middle is my mothers with her wedding band and 5 year anniversary bands. And the oval is mine 😃. I always knew I wanted a ring like theirs. Simple and classic!  

Post # 17
7814 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Nice thread! My mom got married in 1982. Her original engagement ring was a modest solitare in white gold…no idea the cut (I know nothing about diamonds) or exact carat, maybe half? On my parents’ 30th anniversary or so, my dad insisted on upgrading her to a blingy platinum 3-stone…the center stone looks huge to me (2 carats?) but I have no idea. It’s I think a cushion cut. My mom was kinda not into the idea of upgrading, but for some reason it was important to my dad to get her this fancier ring…probaby because his dad was always buying my grandmother fancier and fancier jewelry. My grandma went through several engagement rings, but the final one was a 3 carat beauty that cost like $50k. 

My ring is a vintage 5 stone in white gold, very modest but beautiful. The center stone is in an “illusion setting” – maybe .3 or .4 carat, though I have no real idea – and it’s flanked by two small diamonds on each side. It is so dainty and special, I love it. Darling Husband picked it out on his own with zero input from me, which I also love.

Post # 18
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

The top pic shows my Nanny’s 3 stone platinum illusion set ring with gold band from 1941, my aunt’s two stone yellow gold twist from the 1980s and my Mum’s sapphire with 2 diamonds from 1972. The broad yellow wedding ring is also Mum’s. The bottom pic is my rose gold moissy with white gold basket. We all picked pretty different things I guess! 

Post # 19
135 posts
Blushing bee

My mom had 2 solitares, one white gold, one yellow gold. Not sure if the stats but the yellow gold is smaller and is from my dad. He had saved up all his money he could for over a year to buy it. Despite their divorce, my mom still loves it and keeps it in a special spot ahe can look at every day. 

The other one is from my stepdad, and since their split, it lives in her jewelry box. It’s pretty, has a pave band. I never paid much attention to it. 

My grandmother’s ring I’m not sure what it looked like, it was stolen when I was a kid. My mom said it was 3 stones white gold, and she had a wrap to go around it after my grandparents 20 year anniversary.

My greatgrandmothers is a beautiful fine silver square ring with smaller diamonds but very cool details. This is the one I have been in love with since I was a child. 

Post # 20
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My mom has a beautiful pear shaped soliatire in a very thin yellow gold setting. 

My sister has a three stone white gold ring with small diamonds going around the band (channel set I believe).

I have an asscher cut solitaire with baguettes on either side in a white gold setting, which is very similar to what my grandmother had. 

Post # 21
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

My mom and her mom both had solitaires. My grandma’s was platinum, and my mom’s is yellow gold. A few years ago and after YEARS of asking for a larger diamond, my dad upgraded my mom’s e-ring (he worked with a jeweler to keep the original stone, add a new stone, and melt down the original gold into a new ring that would accommodate both diamonds–very sweet!).


My ring is palladium (similar to platinum) with a pave band, so it’s closer to my grandma’s but with more bling.


Post # 22
3294 posts
Sugar bee

My paternal grandmothers wedding/engagement ring from the ’50s  (my sister currently has it) is similar to this:

My maternal grandmother has a yellow gold set,  cant remember if it is a solitaire or 3 stone. Married in the ’50s

My mother had a yellow gold cathedral solitaite engagement ring but she lost it when I was a kid. They were married in ’83.

My aunties both also have yellow gold sets, one was married in the ’80s, the other was married in 2004.

My set is platinum. I have a 3 stone emerald cut moissanite e-ring and a plain platinum band.

Post # 23
6445 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

My mum wore a 1/3 ct emerald cut diamond in a platinum setting with baguettes on either side. My original ring was a .26 ct diamond with rubies on either side. At an anniversary, Darling Husband upgraded my ring to a 1.71 ct diamond in YG. After my dad died, my mum reset her diamond into a wide yellow gold band (typical of the ’80’s). When she passes (I will inherit the ring), I will rest the diamond back to its original setting (she kept the original setting) and wear it as a RHR.

Post # 24
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

misslucy :  My mom’s original ring is the plain yellow gold band, she and my dad just celebrated 40 years! At some point she got the yellow gold two stone ring, that was her first upgrade, probably 30 or so years ago. Then just recently she upgraded to the kite setting ring and went with a white metal. 

Mine is the very bottom ring and the pave band. 

Post # 25
2341 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My paternal grandmother’s ring and my mother’s are one and the same, as like Prince William, my dad’s mum died young and he proposed to my mum with her ring. My mum gave it to me a few years ago as her arthritis made her reluctant to wear it.

It is an unheated cushion cut sapphire of around 1.6 carats, flanked by 2 old cut diamonds of around 0.7 carats each. The shank and setting are platinum.  My other grandma’s ring was an all-metal marquise shaped ring. Grandpa was a groom and whipper-in of the local hunt so couldn’t afford gemstones. Unfortunately I don’t have a photo of that ring but this thread has prompted me to take one next time I’m at my mum’s. 

I have a 2.02 carat diamond solitaire set in platinum. 

Both rings below.  

Post # 26
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

My parents got married in the 80s. My mum never actually got an engagement ring, just a gold wedding band that can be seen in her photo. But a decade ago, on her 50s, she asked my dad if it was possible to get her a diamond ring for her birthday and he agreed.

She can’t remember what carat is it, but it looks to me about 0.15-0.2ct cos it’s really small lol.

Mine is a 0.7ct diamond. Apologies on the blurness, focus went off and then I got lazy to retake the photo hahaha. 

Post # 27
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I kind of always pictured having a solitaire, but my mum, my gran, my grandma, and my gran’s sister in law all had the same – trilogy of diamonds on a thin yellow gold band. My mum owns hers and her aunt’s rings, and I can only tell the difference due to the improvement in cutting techniques, my mum’s is more sparkly.

As it’s a bit more traditional for my family, I went with a trilogy but have a thicker band and channel set Princess cut stones down the shoulders. I like that it’s similar to my family rings, but that it’s also more modern. I have slightly bigger centre stones too.

My gran has said she wants me to have her ring, and I’ll wear it as a RHR the same as my mum wears her aunt’s.

Post # 28
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My ring is a solitare emerald (i honestly don’t know the cut and don’t really care) in white gold.  My mom got married in the late 80s has a yellow gold diamond solitaire.  My moms mother got married in the late 50’s has a large opal surrounded by diamonds. I’m not exactly sure what my dads mom has.

Post # 29
256 posts
Helper bee

My mother has a 3-4 mm (I guess) wide yellow gold band that has my parents’ engagement and wedding dates engraved on the inside. (The wedding date only fairly recently after over 25 years of nagging, it seems.)

I wear a 1,5 mm platinum band with a pinched middle (like the Tiffany Harmony) and a white gold 0.15 carat excellent cut diamond. (Or I used to until my fingers got fatter and the engagement ring stopped fitting. sigh)

I’ll have to ask my grandmother. I think her arthritis is keeping her from wearing rings, plus she does a lot of garden work even though she’s 95. I know that my grandfather’s ring was melted into a nugget after he passed, so they must have had rings. My grandmother also used to love super gaudy big jewelry. 😀

Post # 30
1053 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My grandmother never wore her engagement ring, just a plain yellow gold band. I have never seen the engagement ring, although I think my mom has it.

My mom had a .25ct yellow gold round solitare.

I have a .5ct white gold princess cut solitare.

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