Your ring vs. your mother's ring (and other female relatives)

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

My mother wore a three stone ring on 14k yellow gold band. She married my dad in the 1980s. I have noticed a few of my relatives and Mother-In-Law who also have three stone rings so maybe this was popular at the time?

Mine is a pear shaped 0.75 carat diamond solitaire on a thin yellow gold band. I knew I would only want the yellow gold as it has been the case with my family for generations. 

Post # 47
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Fun thread! My dad proposed in the early 1970’s with an elaborate cluster ring, very similar to the Tiffany flower ring:

They both were antique dealers for awhile and so since then my mom has worn a few diamond rings with her wedding band – for the last ten years or so she’s worn a 3 stone yellow gold ring. Her “bling ring” is an old mine cut diamond with a halo from the 1920’s, she wears it on her right hand as it doesn’t sit flush with her wedding band. 

I’ve always loved my moms rings/appreciated beautiful diamonds but I have a more classic taste, so my fiancé chose a 6 prong diamond

solitaire in platinum. My mom looooves it πŸ™‚ My grandmothers both wore very small diamonds set in yellow gold. 

Post # 48
479 posts
Helper bee

Interesting thread

My mom had a 0.5carat yellow gold ring as her wedding ring. For her 30year anniversary dad got her a 1carat Round Brilliant white gold ring with knife edge pave diamonds. While dad could afford to give her a 3carat ring even, he sees no point and hates big diamonds on women. He believes 1carat is perfect and the absolutely maximum lol… 

My grandma (father’s side) has no ring because she was widowed at the age of 26. She never remarried. 

My other grandma (mother’s side) does not have a ring either. I dont think its a tradition in our culture. 

My sister isnt married yet. My ring is a simple cathedral setting solitaire white gold with a rb 1carat diamond. 

My sister in law (husband’s sil) has a huge cushiom cut ring with an eternity band. Dont know the carat weight but it’s definitely around 2carat. 

I heard that my cousin gave his wife a 2carat rb engagement ring. But ive never seen it in person as they live in a different country. 

My family doesnt put a lot of attention to diamonds or jewellery in general.. they have some classic pieces like a ring and a rolex watch and they wear them for life. they live very humble lives but are very asset rich. My in laws are working class but love their blings… 

Post # 49
2510 posts
Sugar bee

I have an heirloom ring that belonged to my great grandmother. πŸ™‚ She got married in the 1930s during the depression with a very thin platinum band, but this ring was an upgrade at some point later (probably 40s or 50s?). It’s platinum with a mine cut center diamond. I’ve always loved vintage/antique things and so the classic but vintage style of this was perfect for me, and I love the symbolism of wearing something that she wore, not only because I’m sentimental about family but also since she was happily married for 60 years. 

My grandmother and grandfather had matching custom bands made – they each had a very wide (about 1/2 an inch), beautifully hammered yellow gold band (very mod and 60s), and she had no engagement ring (they eloped). My mom… I’m honestly not sure what her first ring was like in the 80s, but if anything it was probably a plain gold or silver band. 

Post # 50
3292 posts
Sugar bee

My Mom as an east to west emerald with diamonds. 


I have an east to west greem opal with diamonds. 


Post # 51
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Ukulele4You :  the colour on that green opal is amazing 😍😍

Post # 52
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Here are my family’s engagement rings! Starting from the bottom is mine, above that is my mum’s, then my grandmother’s (mum’s mum) followed by my mum’s aunt’s (my grandmother’s sister-in-law). I don’t know where my grandma’s ring ended up but it was almost identical to my mum’s aunt’s ring. It’s lovely seeing them all together πŸ™‚

Post # 53
3292 posts
Sugar bee

ukbea :  Thank you it is an N1 whith a play if color of 4.5. Sometimes it gives nice red and orange flashes. 

I love that you have a photo of all of them togeather!!!

Post # 54
2188 posts
Buzzing bee

My mom’s original engagement ring was a diamond solitare. She didn’t have an engaagement ring for round 2, but she traded in her first engagement ring for this diamond band in yellow gold. You can’t tell in this light, but my band is white gold. Not much in common, but they both look good on us!

Post # 55
3329 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

misslucy :  misslucy :  so I’ve always loved my grandmother’s sapphire and diamond engagement ring and I was lucky enough that she gifted it to me on my wedding day as my something old and something blue. After having it 11 years I finally got ot it cleaned, sized to fit my wedding finger and the shank fixed/straightened just last week. 

First pic is my grandmother wearing it on holiday. We wear sat in sea World America having lunch before the shamu whale show. 


Send one one is me wearing it now after getting it all sorted out 

Post # 56
1356 posts
Bumble bee

My mum had a gold ring with a bezel set emerald in it – she wore this every single day when I was growing up and it was a part of her and it was so beautiful.  She worked with her hands a lot so my dad gave her a ring that she could wear all the time and it wasn’t showy as my mom is very, very humble and she liked practical things.  Many years later, my dad gifted her with a gorgeous ruby ring for their anniversary.

My sister has a very simple round diamond solitaire around 0.70 ct on a plain band with a plain wedding band.  She usually just wears the plain wedding band now.  My sisters-in-law all have around 0.50 ct diamond solitaire rings and also with plain wedding bands. 

I have a 1 ct and 1.5 ct diamond solitaire rings, so I have the largest out of everyone in my family, but no one cares. LOL. The women in my family honestly don’t care about jewelry that much.  I usually wear my 1 ct ring the most paired with a diamond wedding band.

Post # 57
4532 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

misslucy :  my grandmother’s both wore yellow gold wedding bands. They had no engagement rings because they were Italian and engagement rings were not a thing amongst the masses. One got married during WW2 without her parents blessing and I’m sure she didn’t even have a ring until years later. The other got married after WW2 when everything was in short supply.  Her family had some money and she had a proper wedding with a white dress that my great grandmother went and purchased at a phenomenal cost from a city up north because that was the only fabric available at the time. They had wedding rings but I’m not sure if it was the original that she wire until her death. 

My mum was given a really ugly white gold ring that looks like a mans ring. My mum hated it…it probably didn’t help that my dads mum picked it out instead if my dad. My dads mum has narcissistic tendencies and I’m certain she picked the ugliest ring purposely to spite my mum. It was custom in Italian families for your mil to pick the ring for your FDIL back then.

My mum hated it and stopped wearing it after they got married. I didn’t even know about the original until I got engaged. I thought the white gold diamond halo  replacement she wore was the original. She bought that when she had her first child. My mum is a big ring wearer. She did stacks before stacks were cool and wears multiple diamond stacks at a time. I wonder if this a subconscious f*ck you to my  paternal grandmother after the ugly man glassette engagement ring fiasco!! 😁

My ring is a white gold diamond halo like my mothers. I have also developed a thing for rings after marriage but for completely different reasons to my mothers…. I just like shiny things!! Must have been a magpie in my previous life! πŸ˜‚ 

All my sisters rings are diamonds and white gold but very different to mine. I only had one sister that didn’t choose her ring. The rest of us picked out our own. The sister who didn’t pick the ring wears it but I have a funny feeling that she doesn’t love it and would’ve gone with something else entirely. Its princess and channel set.


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