(Closed) What do you think about ring upgrades?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Leu gardens, orlando

I would like to upgrade my ring at some point in the future, only because when we got it last May (after being with my o/h for 15 years) money was very tight so with that in mind I picked a ring that cost about $25. 

When we’re ok with money I would like a new one but then it would be around $200, I’m not into big flashy expensive jewelry

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Well my mum got engaged with a very cheap ring, she hasn’t worn that in years. She has a nice diamond now. 

It’s not for me though, it just wouldn’t feel right knowing that it wasn’t the ring I got engaged with. My sister must feel the same, because she was very young and poor when she got married, and now she’s quite well off. But she still wears her original set – engagement ring is barely a chip and proudly tells people her wedding ring cost £10. She has quite a few big diamond rings, but those two never change. 

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t have anything against upgrades, though I wouldn’t do one myself – I want the ring I have and can’t imagine wanting anything else, but I’m not a jewelry person either.  The thing I don’t get is wanting a new ring/upgrade before a person is even married.  I guess I do have sentimental attachment – my husband designed mine based on a similar ring that I liked but wasn’t quite right.  Upgrading for a special anniversary makes sense, upgrading just because doesn’t.  But that’s just me, of course!

Why not keep what you have, but get another on an anniversary – a 5-year ring or something?  Wear them to different occasions or every other week or something.  I think you’ll miss the one you’ve had all these years if you ditched it entirely, but changing things up can be nice, too.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

bzbride2277:  When my dad upgraded my mom’s ring, she just picked a new one out and they bought it together. True, it was a gift bought out of *their* money as opposed to *his* money, but I think any gift given by one spouse to the other after marriage would fall into that category regardless of who earns what within the marriage. I say go for it.

Post # 20
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Helper bee

I personally would not do a ring upgrade. I know my fiancé picked out my ring with love, and it is this ring and this ring only, that he got on his knee and proposed with. No larger carat could ever replace the sentimental value.

However, I can understand it in the case of proposing with a “stand in” ring. Like, if he had to use a Cubic Zirconia because he could not afford something else at the time, and he MENTIONED the ring was just a stand in from the get-go. 

I know that my opinion is an unpopular one. I don’t pass any judgement on women who do wish to upgrade, it’s just not something that I would personally do.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

bzbride2277:  I think changing it up is fine as long as your guy doesn’t have hurt feelings about it and your not overly sentimental.  

Fiance proposed with a classic diamond four prong setting and said he wanted us to design a new setting (he wanted an actual ring to propose with, he had spent his time searching for the right stone not setting).  

We have talked about possibly upgrading in the future but the only scenario we would both be comfortable with it is to celebrate our first child and then we would set the original aside for the child to eventually use.  I could never return or sell the stone he spent so much time researching and saving for and that he proposed with so we would turn into our own family heirloom. 

Would you want a new setting or a whole new stone? It’s so hard with so many beautiful options out there! 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

My fiancés grandmother had many upgraded rings throughout her 60+ year marriage and she was able to pass down all of her rings to her children and grandchildren! This is what I plan to do as well plus my style changes all the time and there are some many beautiful rings out there. I don’t plan to resell any of my rings and definitely not my original ering. In my opinion I get things having sentimental value but me wearing a different ring throughout the years will not change the way I feel about my SO.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I got a sliver ring that was upgraded to a white gold ering. The gold one collapsed 6 months after the wedding and so we got another e ring. Then my skin decided it hated white gold. Wich ment getting a whole new set. I was more upset about my wedding ring. I still have my first ering in silver and white sapphires. But all the other rings have all looked diffrent. So I’m on e ring number 4 wedding band number 2. The first upgrade was because the silver would no last against my diamond wedding ring and he did not like the idear of that. The rest is due to a series of bad events. But if u and Ur hubby agree on getting a knew ring it’s not just you getting a gift for you self. You want to get a ring u will love. But you will agree to get it together.  Some times that’s the only way  feel they  can spoil us. 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t mind swapping out but I don’t think I could ever part with either of my wedding rings. I will likely get a new wedding ring down the line because things didn’t go smoothly with my original, but I’ll keep the old one. Darling Husband has said that he’ll buy me a new one for an anniversary so I think it matters if you’re both up for it.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

skunktastic:  I have the same feelings myself. I always thought the point of an upgrade was to celebrate a milestone anniversary and the fact that you’re in a better place financially. When I see someone upgrading after a few months of being engaged, it rubs me the wrong way. I don’t know why, because I basically don’t care what people do as long as they’re not doing it to me. 

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

raccoona:  How did your white gold ring collapse? Tha’ts terrible!

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

I’m all for it!

If you find something you love and would wear, do it! A lot of women on these boards can be catty about this wierd kind of stuff (it doesn’t effect them????). But if you have the finances and you prefer it over your current set, do your thing! I have like 3 sets in the making. 

Post # 28
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474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

My moms first engagement ring was very simple and not exactly her style.  After 45 years together dad has upgraded her ring 4 times and each time it is a larger more elabrate ring.  She has loved every one of them.  Also she gave me her first ring for my 18th birthday and it’s still one of my favorite things they have ever given me.  I think it’s just fine to upgrade any time the two of you choose and getting a whole new ring makes sense.

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I don’t have a sentimental attachment to my rings.  I love what they represent and I am very sentimental about our commitment to each other, but I don’t put any sentimental value on the rings.  I don’t have a problem with upgrades, have done it several times myself.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think it just depends.  I love my ring to death.  It’s a a moissanite with a halo setting and a really thin band with moissanite stones all around. I’m unsure of size, but i think it’s a .5 ct center stone. However we have talked about upgrading since the beginning.  He has a 3 ct stone from his grandmother that we will have set when we have the funds to do it justice. I will probably have my current ring resized to be a middle finger ring for my other hand because I can’t imagine being without it.  He picked it and it will always be special. I think it’s a good thing as long as both parties agree, whatever the reason. 

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