(Closed) Your thoughts on men who look at porn.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do you think you are insecure or jealous if you don't like your SO to watch porn or check out women?

    No, it's perfectly normal to not be okay with that

    Yes, they should be able to look or watch as much as they want

    Occasional is fine

  • Post # 107
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    I know this thread has been going on for a while, but here’s just my two cents.

    My boyfriend and I are apart–a lot. It would be very unfair of me to ask him to become a completely non-sexual human being when not in my presence. I’m perfectly okay with him looking at that kind of stuff as long as he’s not getting involved with someone in ‘real life’.

    Would I be really upset if he was doing that while I’m around and i was willing? Yes.

    Would I be really upset if I was sick or unwilling to participate? No. 

    I mean, there are some times when he doesn’t want to have sex, and he’s not going to ask me not to just shut off a part of myself because he’s not up for it.

    I’m all for healthy sexual expression.

    Post # 108
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    895 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Fiance occasionally goes to his “sites” and I don’t really mind b/c he doesn’t do it often. I would have a problem if he preferred to watch porn all the time over comng to me for his “needs.” Most of the time we watch together and go from there so it works out.

    Post # 109
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t have any problem with it as long as it does not interfere with our sex life.  It hasn’t so far (knock on wood!)

    Post # 110
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Alex watches porn. I’d like to say it doesnt bother me, but honestly it does sometimes. Only because the girls he looks at look nothing like me. But then I have to smack myself and remind myself that if I looked at porn the guys would look nothing like him either.

    Post # 111
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t like the idea of it and I honestly have NO idea if he does or not – my guess is at times he does (as do pretty much every guy on earth).  Since I don’t know about it I don’t care – I’m not going to go fishing for answers about it from him that I Know I won’t like to hear!  As long as it isn’t affecting your sex life with him I don’t think it really matters too much.  The only thing I would ever potentially worry about is once we have kids old enough to use computers and them finding it in the history, but I am guessing this would ever be an issue with my Fiance.

    Post # 112
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    1360 posts
    Bumble bee

    Fiance says he doesn’t, and has no use for it, and since I’ve told him I honestly don’t mind, I believe him. We’re also together practically all the time, except for work, so I would know if he did.

    I’m not against it, I think it’s fine…however, it makes me happy that Fiance doesn’t watch it. I feel much more confident and beautiful than I would if he were having to watch other naked girls to please himself. If he suddenly started wanting to watch it, I’d be fine with it, but I won’t watch it with him, lol.

    Post # 113
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’m the assistant manager of a porn store- I’m probably as liberal minded about porn as the guy who posted the thread about being a porn producer. It doesn’t bother me in the least!

    Post # 114
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    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I SO don’t care. I’d prefer not to see what he’s looking at, but you know what? As long as I’m the only one he touches, he can look anywhere he wants. We frequently point out good looking men and women to each other. This is just one step further where he’s getting off to the idea of them. I’m not thrilled but I don’t mind, so long as it doesn’t get in the way of his attraction to me!

    Post # 115
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    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think it’s disgusting. A man should only look at the naked body of his wife, just as a woman should only look at her husband.

    Post # 116
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    For me, I would live with it even though I really want to be the only woman my man sees in that way.  My Fiance said he doesn’t look at it, so I trust that he doesn’t. 

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