(Closed) Your thoughts on Seating Charts?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Seating Chart?
    Yes : (63 votes)
    82 %
    No : (14 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The only wedding I have been to with no seating chart/table assignments it was total chaos. Couples ended up getting separated, people were practically running and throwing their purses/jackets etc. on tables to save places. It was not a large wedding either. Definitely do it.

    Post # 4
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I didn’t have one because most of my guests were so wishy-washy about whether or not they’d show, even after they’d sent the RSVPs. I only wrote place cards for our families, host/hostesses, and my bridal party. We had about 150 show up and it worked fine.

    Post # 5
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. And yes again.

    The best example as to why you should have a seating chart?

    Family of 4 is one of the last to come into the reception, but can’t find a table with 4 empty seats and are forced to split up or ask people to move around. It’s like musical chairs!

    For 125 guests I would DEFF recommend a seating chart.

    Post # 6
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would definitely have a seating chart.  It just makes everything much more clear and easy for your guest if you at least have table assignments.

    My other thought for no seating plans is that you need wiggle room unless some seats go unfilled.  That might mean needing extra tables – which means extra linens, extra centrepieces, extra chairs or covers, possibly extra favours if they double as table decoration. 

    ETA: I plan a business event for about 225 people each year that we don’t do a seating plan for.  It works all right because most people come alone, and know at least 25 other people, but if you get groups that want to sit together it gets a little sketchy and “highschool cafeteria” like.  We also have 7 extra tables for the wiggle room.

    Post # 7
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I went to a wedding with 80 guests with no seating chart and it was insane! Might be ok though if you’re having a buffet dinner. Then everything is a lot more casual.

    Post # 8
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    LOL, I guess we were an exception. We also did have like one extra table, but that didn’t break the bank for us. We also had our food served to everyone. But if you think you need a seating chart, you should definitely do one. 🙂

    Post # 9
    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Meh. I’ve been to two weddings without assigned seating and it was fine. A lot of people don’t like it though. Seating charts are a PITA, but an expected courtesy too.

    Post # 10
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @farmgirl2106: Haha, I am glad it worked for you! Anytime I’ve seen this done, it was total chaos, as a PP described it. 🙂

    Post # 11
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We had assigned tables. Our guest list was small enough that we probably would have been okay without one, but I have some family members with really bad blood between them, and wanted to make sure they would be seated as far away from each other as possible. 

    For your number of guests, I think it will help everything run a lot smoother to have one. 

    Post # 12
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Seating charts are one of those things that if you spend a little time and thought on them can really improve your guests experience.  They aren’t NEEDED, but if they are done well they can certainly be helpful.

    Post # 13
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It seems like a lot of work and added stress so close to the wedding, but I decided I will be doing one (assigned tables).  I personally like seating arrangments at weddings and weddings with them seem much more organized.

    Post # 14
    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    As someone who battles with mild social anxiety, the thought of going to a wedding without a seating chart makes me freak out a little bit. Its like being the new kid at school in the cafeteria.

    Post # 15
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    Seating charts are a definite for large groups.  Would you want to be split from your family or significant other?  I sure wouldn’t, especially if I didn’t know the others I was seated with. 

    Post # 16
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t like them because whenever there is a seating chart I always end up sittin gwith people I either a] don’t know or b] would never talk to/have nothing to alk to them about

    which just creates awkward situations.-no one wants tobe forced to sit next to the deaf uncle who has a habit of repeating the same stories every 20minutes. I would rather be able to sit with the few people I know/can interact with than be randomly placed amongst a friend’s relatives for the entire duration of the reception. (which could be anywhere from 1hour to 12).


    if it were a family wedding (people I was related to) I would still want to choose where I sat because there is no gaurantee that my aunt/uncle/cousin would have had the forethought to seat me with the younger or normal family members.

    In fact, when it comes to family weddings (in my experience) the B&G try to ‘blend’ their families so that  everyone can meet eachother & connect etc.

    Doesn’t always work that way.

    I would still rather pick where I sat.


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