Post # 1
I’ve been considering bridesmaids for awhile now and I’m unsure what to do. My niece who I’m very close to is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but I’m not sure about my friend. We were best friends for about 10 years in middle and high school but haven’t been in touch most of college (3 years). Much of that is because we have such different interests we don’t really connect anymore and have pretty much nothing to talk about that we find mutually interesting. I mentioned the wedding to her and she seemed excited but hasn’t had the time to talk about much regarding the wedding. Should I invite her to be one of my bridesmaids? Three years ago I would have but we’re not as close anymore. I do not have any female friends from college who I’m close enough to invite as bridesmaids.
Please let me know in the comments what you think!
Post # 3
I’ve seen a lot of posts on Bridesmaid or Best Man drama. Most of the time, drama is due to asking someone who isn’t close to you. So for that reason, I’d leave her out. Just have an MoH.
Post # 4
I think 3 years is too long to be out of touch. You yourself said: “we have such different interests we don’t really connect anymore”. By all means invite her as a guest, but I don’t think you are close enough now for her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 5
I DID ask a friend with a similar situation (lost touch somewhat after high school but kept in touch occasionally). She backed out early on due to being busy with going back to school, which I was a little sad about, but I invited her as a guest. She snuck out before dinner was even over at the reception. Based on that situation, don’t ask her, and don’t get your hopes up about how she will act at the event.
Post # 6
My thought is that her reaction to your engagement is pretty indicative of how enthused/involved she would be able to be. I think when it comes to your wedding party, quality is much more important than quantity! 🙂
Post # 8
It’s cool that she sounds excited, but if she doesn’t have much time to talk about it now, what’s going to happen when you start to get really busy and need her to be available?
My best friend was unavailable for most of my planning and it really affected our friendship – I felt like I was not a priority and that hurt. She ended our friendship immediately after the wedding.
So my 2 cents is: stick with family or only people that you are sure will be there for you. Remember these people will forever be in your wedding pictures – so make sure you want them in them regardless.
Post # 9
I voted no. If she isn’t in your life for the most part, leave her out. Invite her as a regular guest. If she confronts you about it, tell her the truth. When in doubt, throw it out!
I, myself, don’t have a lot of close girlfriends either. My bridal party was very small.