- 6 years ago
I’m a long time lurker (there were so many times I thought about registering to participate in a poll or put my two cents in on posts) but finally decided to register to see what you guys think of this situation.
I have a friend who I’ve been pretty tight with for the good part of 15 years. In the last year or two, we’ve seen less of each other, and when I have seen her conversation has been a little awkward at times (but at other times…just like the old days). I’d say maybe we’ve grown apart a little.
This friend, The Bride, got engaged and is planning a destination wedding for next year (continental US. We live in the midwest, so the wedding will be far-ish but not Mexico or the Carribbean far).
We have a mutual friend, who I see even less than The Bride, but at one time we were like the 3 musketeers. The Bride has asked the other musketeer to be a bridesmaid, and I’ll admit I was a bit hurt when I wasn’t asked as well. But, I can sympathize how hard it is to decide and that figuring it out can become quite the cluserf*ck, so I try to be chill about it…tell myself that I’m saving money this way (silver lining and all that) but every once in a while it still makes me sad.
Because I get very little time off of work and had already planned a trip the same month, I debated not going. I thought I had until the invite to really decide, but out of the blue The Bride slips “will you be a reader at our wedding?” randomly into an email that was about many other things. I had to give her an answer about the other things in short order and couldn’t just ignore the question, so I said I would be honored.
And, the truth is, I would be happy to do that for her. I just think it’s weird that she didn’t ask me in person, especially since it will be quite an undertaking to get to her wedding.
I’m feeling very bipolar about the whole situation. Could anyone share some perspective to help me feel more settled about this?