(Closed) Your uptight…. Guilty as charged!!

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Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Me, me, me! When you figure it out let me know lol!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yep, that is me. Wedding planning made me 100000x worse though. Haha.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I have anxiety issues and I’m definitely a lone worker – if I have to do something, I just want everyone else to go away and leave me to do it because then my thought process isn’t constantly interrupted. So, yes, in some ways.

However, I’m also pretty quiet so I don’t think I’m too controlling or that I usurp things from others too often if only because I worry about coming off as a bitch. Sometimes I just have to tell myself to let it slide and move on to somethng else – I find a distraction to prevent me from stressing over details I can’t control

I work with a lady who is Type A, and I really don’t know how to feel about her. She’s been the most helpful one here since I was hired but in the same vein, she’s SOOOO annoying and bothersome…she interrupts me constantly to have me doublecheck her stuff and research things she feels suspicious about. I always remind myself that the same traits I dislike about her are the ones that have also made her the person I depend on most for advice and answers.

Post # 6
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11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

*Raises Hand* Also guilty of said behaviors. Thankfully during the wedding planning process I had a planner who was as bad, if not worse, than me at being detail oriented so I felt comfortable giving up some control.

I have anxiety issues (had an attack two nights ago at 3 am) and I am very Type A. I have lists, my lists have lists, and I remember everything.

I wonder if you uptight bees ever dated an uptight guy? I did and it was a DISASTER! My Darling Husband is oober laid back (almost to point where it drives me nuts) but I need that balance in my life. The uptight guy and I were so anal about everything it was beyond insane.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Treejewel19:   Oh god, I could never handle that. Fiance is the most relaxed person on the planet and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

*slowly raises hand* Yeah thats me too, though my Hubby is helping me overcome it somewhat. He is super laid back and I am well not that laid back, we balance each other out nicely I think.

Post # 10
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11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@MissBoPeep:  The English guy I dated was worse than me. I am super anxious before a flight and I remember him running around his flat in his underwear frantic trying to pack and get all his crap together. That is when I knew this wasn’t going to work.

/uncomfortable trip to Paris

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

YES!!!!!! And it drives my very laid-back, roll-with-the-flow, I-hate-to-plan-and-make-decisions-until-I-decide-that-I’m-ready-to, I’m-not-one-to-worry-about-anything DH AB-SO-LUTE-LY CRAZY!

I was a single, career woman until I was in my mid-to-late 40s, and I was able to obsess over details all I wanted, and it didn’t bother anyone, because I lived by myself. Not only that, but I had a very long, very successful career in a field where being a Type-A, driven, detail-oriented, overly cautious, risk-averse, obsessive-compulsive perfectionist are not only useful, but, frankly, essential!

When I eventually had to surrender my job, my house, my city, my state, my church, pretty much everything that I was and knew to relocate to a rural area in another state to be with my Darling Husband and his children full time, I was in for a real culture shock, because I no longer had control over almost anything in my life.  And, it drove me bonkers. πŸ™‚

I often remind my Darling Husband — and others — that the very same traits that resulted in my being hired, promoted, valued and trusted in the workplace (and valued by so many of my friends) are the very same traits that annoy my husband to no end.  And, sometimes, I find that, well, annoying! Hahaha.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Treejewel19:  I TOTALLY agree with you about needing the balance in my life. I am convinced that God put my Darling Husband and me together because we do balance each other so well.  Truth be told, I actually (sometimes) kind of like when my DH helps me to give myself permission to relax, something I still do not really know how to do.  As frustating as it can be to be married to someone who is laid back, I agree that I would not want to be married to a guy who is uptight, because, well, that would just make me exponentially MORE uptight! πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MeganTacky2247:  I’m with you. Fiance tells me all the time to chill. He knows that I like to have everything under control. Unfortunately I have yet to discover how to not be so neurotic!

 

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