(Closed) your view on porn in a relationship

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How do you feel about porn in your relationship?
    we both watch it sometimes and have no issues with it : (92 votes)
    47 %
    he watches, but I have no problem with it : (21 votes)
    11 %
    he watches, but I don't like that he does this : (6 votes)
    3 %
    we watch together : (21 votes)
    11 %
    we dont watch it or agree with it : (33 votes)
    17 %
    I watch, he doesn't : (10 votes)
    5 %
    I have a feeling he watches and doesn't tell me about it : (14 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 32
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    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    if truck forums online constitute as his porn then we both do it but separately.  i’ll watch it online sometimes when he’s not home and i’m feeling a little feisty. Wink  but i’m fairly certain he doesn’t watch any.  though sometimes i wish he would.  our sex life is very mundane and if he would occasionally service himself it would probably make it better when it’s the two of us together…..

    Post # 33
    Member
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We watch porn together. Neither one of us has a problem with the other watching porn by themselves, but it just doesn’t really happen. Neither of us can remember the last time we watched it alone. 

    Post # 34
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I said he watches and I dont have a problem. After 7 years, I know i’m enough for him, but he’s entitled to his fantasies. There are so many reasons why I love him and so many other things in life to think about, porn isn’t something I really feel like wasting our limited time together talking about. 

    Post # 35
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    2540 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Fiance used to get his monthly Playboy in the mail but stopped when he moved into my house. We don’t watch porn. I’m not really ok with it…it just makes me feel weird. We do however have a very heated sex life without it…don’t know if the lack of porn has anything to do with that, lol!

    Post # 36
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    106 posts
    Blushing bee

    @katydaisy:  none of these options speak to me.  I don’t watch porn, but I see absolutely nothing wrong with watching it (although I have issues with the industry itself).  Maybe my fiancé watches, I honestly don’t know, it plays no role in our relationship.  That being said, I would probably hate porn if my fiancé were obsessed with it.

    Post # 37
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    5005 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2018

    We had a discussion about it early in our relationship. Neither of us likes it, and so we mutually agreed not to watch it. It was a no-brainer.

    Post # 38
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    663 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We both agreed that neither of us are allowed to watch it. I don’t judge married couples who do, but because it has caused issues in both of our pasts, I believe it would be destructive for ourselves and our relationship, so it is not for us. It wasn’t always easy to abstain from it, but it has become easy over time.

    Pornography can be extremely powerful and addictive, so I think it is a scary thing to mess around with. It may not have much of a negative effect on your average person, but it has the potential to be extremely harmful to some people, especially a person with an addictive personality.

    There’s no doubt that it’s exciting. If I were single or felt that it wasn’t harmful, I would watch it.

    Post # 39
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    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We both watch it and neither of us have a problem with it.

    Post # 40
    Member
    2868 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’ve never watched porn.  I think Darling Husband does occasionally, which doesn’t bother me, but I also don’t necessarily want to hear about it lol

    Post # 41
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    232 posts
    Helper bee

    I can’t get “into” porn, but I know SO watches it sometimes and I’m okay with it. He doesn’t like to watch it around me because I’ll comment on the silliness (of what ever is happening in the porn to start the porn-porn, you know? – also, I hate when I type a word enough times so closely together that my brain starts to think I’m not spelling it correctly. like porn right now. p-o-r-n. looks strange :/ ).

    Post # 42
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    3370 posts
    Sugar bee

    @katydaisy:  We used to watch it together. Ironically I’m the only one in our relationship who owned any videos. But for about a year we really haven’t been into that. I don’t really care either way whether we watch it or don’t.

    Post # 43
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    3400 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @katydaisy:  I’m fine with it. It’s not real life & we both watch it occassionally, so I don’t see the big deal. I used to be more concerned about it until I started watching it myself & realized the appeal isn’t checking out other women, but rather watching others have sex (as in, the act verses the person).

    Strip clubs, on the other hand, I view entirely diffierently as those are real tangible women in real life. I pretty much view strip clubs as cheating & made sure he understood that in no uncertain terms.

     

     

    Post # 44
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    9781 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    @MrsSkeletonKey:  I agree, strip clubs are completely different, and I am not ok with them either.

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