(Closed) your view on strip clubs/gentleman clubs….

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: do you care if your SO goes to a strip club?
    no, don't mind it whether i'm there or not : (69 votes)
    44 %
    no, but i have to go with him : (13 votes)
    8 %
    yes, he's got me so he shouldn't want to go to one : (60 votes)
    38 %
    other....(please explain) : (14 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I hate them. Fiance claims to hate them. He was dragged there by co workers for a psudo bachelor party, but that’s the only time he’s been since we’ve been together. We both agreed – NO TOUCHING. I can swallow it if there’s no touching. But the idea of a real, live, basically naked woman shaking it for him? Hate it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I don’t really care.  My Fiance had his bachelor party a couple weeks ago and I knew they were planning to go to strip clubs.  I was like, “Good, go have fun, no drinking and driving!”  He knew the rules about where to draw the line and I specifically instructed him and friends not to tell me any details.  I’m sure he got a million lap dances, but I don’t need to know about it.

    I like to think of it in these terms, as my very smart sister once said about her husband: “I don’t care where he gets his appetite, as long as he eats at home!”

    Post # 5
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    In general I find them to be tacky. What comes to mind is one nearby that is called “VIP” and looks like… well, a ridiculous cliche. The thought of going to a gentleman’s club across from a freaking Whole Foods seems somehow ridiculous to me. I wouldn’t want my fiance to get a lap dance, but I don’t think the strip club itself would bother me. 

    Our philosophy on it is that we talk to each other before anything potentially hurtful comes up. So far, strip clubs/GCs never have. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My only rules are no back rooms and no strippers in hotel rooms.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    They don’t really bother me.  I doubt Fiance will be going on the bachelor party, mostly because my 14 year old brother will be there, and his married best man is a saint 🙂

    Fiance was out of town with some buddies over the summer, and he called to tell me the guys wanted to go, and he wanted to know my thoughts.  I knew if I said no, he wouldn’t go.  But I didn’t care, so he went, and called me as soon as they left.

    My rule is – no strippers at anyone’s house, and no lap dances in a back room, etc.

    As long as he follows that, I am cool.

    Post # 9
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    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    This is always an interesting convo!  For some reason this does bother me, although i completely trust my Fiance and am not worried about him pursuing anything with another woman something about strip clubs rub me the wrong way!  My skin kind of crawls when I think about him watching strippers…. but porn doesn’t bother me.  Who knows — It’s nothing I’d cry about but it sure makes me pissy. ha! 🙂

    Post # 10
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I voted for other… It bothers me, not because he has me; but because I don’t think it is ok to go to strip clubs in general. I strongly believe that no happy, balanced woman would choose this for a living; and men going there are getting “entertainment” out of women’s misery that led them where they are.

    Also, I am one who thinks sex should be something special between two people who love each other, and something special – not some hobby to occupy your lonely Saturday night..

    Post # 12
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It doesn’t really bother me. Fiance has never been to one (and is now 27). I’ve told him he can go if he wants but I’d like to know first. He could even have a lap dance as long as it doesn’t become a habit.

    Knowing him he’d go and make jokes with his friends rather than really be all that enthralled by the strippers.

    I don’t really have any desire to go (I’ve never been either) but if he wanted me to go with him I would.

    Basically, I don’t care if he goes every once in a while with buddies, I would care if it was a weekly thing.

    Post # 13
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    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I guess my issue with the strip clubs is the money. I dont like the thought of my Fiance spending so much money, which can be used for things that would benefit us and our life together. Rather than benefiting some stripper that is only after his money.

    My cousins husband was bragging about spending $2000 dollars at a strip club in one night, and this just disgusts me. They are by no means in the financial position to be spending that kind of money on something so frivilous and IMO disgusting and disrespectful.

    Post # 15
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    504 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’m buying a stripper pole for our bedroom before FH comes home from overseas. That’s going to alleviate any talk of strip clubs when the bachelor party talk comes around. Even though I know FH does not like strip clubs he’s not going to waste time going to one if he has entertainment at home!

    Post # 16
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    1883 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I find the whole thing annoying. I mean, I don’t care if my husband goes. I DO care when his friends beg me not to tell their wives (who I am friendly with) and then I have to listen to wives/girlsfriends talk about how “ooh my husband would NEVER go there, he thinks they are disgusting” when I know for a fact that they all went for each other’s bachleor parties. This just happend recently when is brother was in town-the brother’s friends were freaking out in the morning about their wives finding out. Grow some balls people. They all act like they have them when it comes to strippers, when it comes to wives and girlfriends-not so much.One guy even told his wife they went camping for somebody’s bachleor party (again-they were no where near camping), and I had to talk to her about their fake camping trip when I saw her at a work happy hour. annoying annoying annoying!

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