(Closed) your views on asking for money as a gift

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Personally, I would never ask for money, even if I thought people were “OK with it.” My husband and I had lived together for a couple of years before we got married, and we basically had everything we needed for the home, but we still set up a few registries and a honeymoon registry where people could give us special things on the honeymoon such as breakfast in bed, or a sunset cruise. Some people still gave us monetary gifts, but we did not ask for them, nor did we include any registry information in our invitations.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just register for things you would like at Bed Bath and Beyond, which has a very generous registry return system. If you’re living together, people will likely understand that you might not need everything new, but they’ll still be able to get you stuff that you want. If you absolutely need the money, you can always return the gifts for cash.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t ask, though I’d secretly hope! I don’t expect any gifts. If we do recieve gifts I would be happy with whatever we were given.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

There’s no polite way to ask for money IMO.

Post # 7
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No poem can take the rudeness out of asking your guests for money.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Register at bed bath and beyond. You can take gifts back and they give you cash! I had thought they discontinued this program, but it still works for me every time.

I feel like most people will give you money though, don’t worry.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny:  This.  If you don’t need anything, then let your guests pick out what (hopefully) thoughtful gift they would like to give you.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

@PinkMagnolia:  Oh god, no.  Please do not do this.  Asking for gifts so you can return them for cash is wretched.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@singasong Actually it’s not. Some people just like giving gifts and don’t care that the bride and groom want money but can’t ask for it. This is why all guests should give money only.

And btw I actually wanted my gifts, I was returning duplicates and got cash for them.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Asking for money is rude. I know a friend of mine purposely did not register or say anything about what she wanted for the wedding and was mostly gifted money. If you are wanting money I would recommend going this route. But there is no polite way to ask for money, sorry.

 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@PinkMagnolia: “This is why all guests should give money only.”

 

You’re kidding, right?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Nope I’m not kidding. Unless I attend a bridal shower (where gifts are opened and wanted) I gift money. The bride and groom get to choose what they want, whether it’s a gift or to pay off wedding vendors.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@stokieGal: Can you share the poem?

Where I’m from, asking for money it’s becoming more and more common, and I think’s the best option for us since registry here it’s insanely expensive and no one ever respects it. I’m still trying to figure a nice way to put it on the invites though.

Post # 16
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Worker bee

@PinkMagnolia:  If I found out that a friend registered for gifts for the sole purpose of returning them for cash before I purchased a gift for her, I would purchase a gift that was not on the registry if I purchased one at all.  If I found out after purchasing something off of a registry that this was the case, I would never extend that kind of generosity to that person again.  Greed is not a virtue.  If I want to give cash, I will, but to register for the sole purpose of returning gifts for cash, is (to use everyone’s favorite word around here) tacky.

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