(Closed) your views on asking for money as a gift

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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2039 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As others have said, there is no “nice” way to request cash. Your best bet is to not register and hope that people get the hint. 

Post # 18
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12326 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have not gotten back cash for a single thing at Bed Bath and am now sitting on over $200 in Bed bath credit… I would not chance registering for stuff just so you can return it.

Post # 19
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824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This is interisting to see how ppl feel because I was thinking of registering at http://www.depositagift.com/.

I am 42 and my Fiance is 38 We do not live together but between us we do have a lot of things that ppl would normaly register for.

We do not however have much furniture because we both rent at the time being. We especially need a king size bed because we are both plus sized. LOL :/ I realize that we can’t register for furniture so I thought about asking for money but really have no idea how to.

yikes sorry. Not trying to hijack this thread.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes I do agree it’s tacky to register for gifts and return them.

Honestly I’m most excited about my gifts, but to each their own. I purposely hadn’t bought new kitchen/house stuff for myself because I wanted to wait until I got married.

Post # 21
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2128 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@pinkshoes I had heard that it was discontinued, but not at my BB&B I guess? I would have been okay with store credit too to buy other gifts I didn’t get on my registry.

Post # 22
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5165 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Most of my guests gave us cash and checks instead of gifts. I got less than 10 gifts in total. I didnt have a registry so i think people kinda got the hint from that but also in my circles its very normal for most people to give cash or gift card but its never ok to ASK for cash

Post # 23
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

There is no polite way to ask for cash. Register for things you really want and let your guests figure out the rest.

Post # 24
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i would never ask.  i think it’s worse when it comes in the form of a “cute” little poem. 

i purchased many of the typical registry stuff a few years ago when i decided that i wasn’t going to wait until i was married to have nice stuff especially since i wasn’t sure if i was going to get married.  i don’t need much and most of my family and friends give cash at weddings.  it’s just the norm in our circle.  i always give cash.  but there are a few people outside of the circle that are used to giving gifts.  one of my bms suggested that i do a small registry because a few people have been asking her.

Post # 26
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I returned about $350 worth of gifts to BB&B this week.  We have received several duplicates and one of the items turned out to be poor quality and fell apart as we tried to put it together.  As long as you have the receipt they will give you cash back. They didn’t seem thrilled to do it but they did after we insisted.

I have also received gobs of giftcards as well.  I admit I’ve returned some items for cash with the intention of buying them back with the gift cards.  There’s only so much stuff I need from BB&B so not sure what i’d do with $700 in gift cards.

 

Post # 27
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3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t ask I’m implying that by not registering, we want cash.

Post # 28
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2153 posts
Buzzing bee

There is no polite way to ask for ANY gifts.  Not housewares, not honeymoon excursions, and especially not cash.

Like vmec said, if you don’t register people will get the picture.  WHEN people ask you (and this is the only time you discuss what you hope to receive) you can tell them that you don’t really need anything, but their company at the wedding, but if they insist you are hoping to save up for YYYYYYYYYY.

 

Post # 29
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i feel the same way…if im spending $100+ a head, by working 2 jobs then hell yea i want cash to pay down my credit cards for the cost. i always give cash when i go to a wedding and i make sure it covers the cost of my plate ALWAYS. i only give out registry cards for bridal shower or else theres no point in a shower. my wedding is $120 a head + music, favors, decor, etc.

 

its now at 250 people…how can anyone afford that without taking out another mortgage on your house? IF you even own lol

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ceyda2389: If you can’t afford it, then you shouldn’t be *spending* $120 a head! Or else invite less people! And you definitely shouldn’t be putting it on your credit cards. And you DEFINITELY shouldn’t be expecting your guests to pay for YOUR extravagent wedding!

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