Post # 1
I was curious…what is your wedding budget and what does it include? Are you excluding anything? Why?
The reason I ask is because I don’t get why people brag about having a $10,000 wedding only to say later that they didn’t include wedding bands, the honeymoon, the dress, etc. If you spent $10,000 on the wedding day, but also spent $1000 on the wedding bands, $1000 on your dress and $8,000 on your honeymoon, didn’t you really spend $20,000? A lot of times, people don’t even account for tax, tips, shipping and all those other expenses that really add up! I know some folks don’t even include the honeymoon even though they paid for it. Why not? You wouldn’t have gone on one if you didn’t get married. You could have used that money for something else.
Thanks to our families, as well as a little bit we’re contributing ourselves, we have a budget of $15,000. That includes everything we must pay for as far as the wedding is concerned. If we want to go on a honeymoon, we have to include that in the budget because that’s all the money we have.
I’m paying for my own dress, but just because I’m using my own checking account, I think that’s still money being spent. I’m $400 poorer regardless of which pot I pull from. I could have used that money for my college loans, bought a new iPod, a new camera, paid for a bunch of other bills, applied it toward a downpayment on a house. No, I bought it for the wedding, so why not apply it toward our wedding budget?
I understand if someone else is gifting you with a free cake or a free dress…that saves you money. But if you spend money on a wedding-related item, why not add it to your wedding expenses? Why not be honest with yourself with how much you really spent on your wedding?
Post # 3
We have included everything you mentioned….I think the reason that the things you mentioned are not counted are when the bride’s parents are paying, many of those are traditionally things the groom pays for (honeymoon, rings, hotels, transportation, etc)
These days, I think many couples pay for their own wedding, thus count it all in the same “budget” instead of “parents money” v. “grooms money”…
…if that made any sense! LOL
Post # 4
If we include everything, we’re knocking on the door of $30,000. YIKES. So cal weddings are so expensive! If we didn’t include the rings or honeymoon, more like $25,000…. I guess most people separate out the honeymoon since they consider it a separate event, but really, it’s just a huge chunk o’ change all at the same time. Which reminds me, I should go send a check to the caterer 🙂
Post # 5
OK, I get not counting the e-ring. My fiance had it all paid off before I said yes. But if we exclude what the parents pitch in and what the groom pays for, then whose money do we account for in the budget? For us, we’re including funds from parents, family, my money and my fiance’s money. I guess because we were given a lump sum of money for everything, now we must budget it according to the money we have available.
Post # 6
When I think of my budget, I exclude the rings and the honeymoon. I understand your point from a functional standpoint – you are going to spend the money you are going to spend, and you need to account for it!
My reasoning is that if someone asked me how much my car cost, I would give the price of the car – I wouldn’t include the price of car insurance too. Sure, I wouldn’t have bought car insurance without a car, but that’s not really an accurate description of the car price. Likewise, if I was discussing how much my wedding cost, I’d refer only to the wedding itself, and not the related expenses.
Post # 7
But yes, I agree, so cal weddings are expensive! We’re getting married in LA/OC and $15000 can go really quick!
Post # 8
@Circus Peanut, I get your point. So when most people talk “wedding budget,” they account for the wedding day-only expenses. In that case, I get why you would exclude the honeymoon or the rings. Personally, I think it shouldn’t matter whether your wedding purchases are used over a course of a day or several days. But that’s just me.
Post # 9
I totally agree. We’ve included rings, my dress, new suit for the hubby, taxes, service fees, every little thing I could think about because we are paying for the wedding ourselves, and we don’t want to be surprised! Our budget was about 10k but we’re already going a little bit over. It amazes me how many little things weddings are “supposed” to have, and how much each little thing can tack on to the final cost!
Post # 10
We’re not including the honeymoon because R’s parents are gifting it to us. They’re Disney Vacation Club members, and have points to any Disney resort. They’re also paying for airfare, etc as our wedding gift.
I think that’s all we didn’t include… wedding bands are in our budget, but fairly cheap because we get them at cost. My e ring is not in the budget because it was paid off a little while ago, so it just seems silly to put it in there.
I don’t really brag about my budget either way, because it’s not budget by most standards or high by most standards. It’s just an average city wedding budget, for which I still have to DIY and bargain hunt, but can afford a venue in Chicago, etc.
Honestly, a lot of what I buy for the wedding I don’t even remember to put into the budget. Things like Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, accessories, etc, that I’m buying out of pocket way in advance don’t get accounted for, because I don’t see the point. It’s my spending money that would otherwise be going towards clothes for myself, or a dinner out (ha!) or a Starbucks run (also ha! at this point.) I guess if I was saying “I had this wedding for only xxx” and judging other people, that’d be hypocritical, but I’m not so I don’t think it’s problematic.
Post # 11
I started off not counting that stuff because honestly… i just didn’t want to think about the total amount because it seemed obscene and scary to me. Just last week (more than 4 mo after getting engaged) we finally made a complete budget with EVERYTHING because it took me that long to be able to face it. So, our budget is 18,000 total.
2,500- wedding rings
500- rehearsal dinner
12,000- wedding day
Post # 12
I have just recently started adding all things together (wedding day, honeymoon, rings etc.) and it shoots our numbers way up from what our wedding day budget of 10K was. Now we are looking at 18K. We are in Nor Cal so everything is expensive.
Post # 13
We have been including everything in our budget. I started off with a $10000 goal in mind minus the honeymoon. However, we are going to be at $13K for day of including the rings, rehearsal dinner, and my parents housing (not included in original budget goal) with $3000 for our honeymoon. So the final budget is 16K. It seems like a lot of money even though we are getting great deals in other places.
Post # 14
Pulled this straight from my spreadsheet. This is what my parents are paying for… I’m buying his ring and we’re not taking our honeymoon til next year.
Post # 15
well, in my case i dont count anything that is less than $100 because im paying it with my checking account instead of the wedding account. so here is whats in my wedding budget:
food, centerpieces, rent of tables chairs tent and linens and thats it. that is suppose to equal 2000
we are doing ceremony and reception in my inlaws and they are buying the alcohol. the best man is paying for the entertainment. my mom is making the dessert and cakes.
and the rest is being pay with my checking account including the honeymoon. but if we add the all maybe the budget will be $6000
Post # 16
My wedding is very much in the “traditional” way of paying.
So my budget is basically the “mom and dad paying for..” which basically boils down to “Everything that happens on the wedding day” (plus the invitations).
Things that my Fiance and I pay for (rings/honeymoon) and the FI’s family (Rehearsal Dinner) aren’t included since they have budgets all their own.