(Closed) “Your wedding depresses me” – Really???

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s weird how she acted so interested then told you weddings make her sad…

Hope your vent was therapeutic Tongue out

Post # 4
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is she single? It sounds like it’s more about her issues about not getting married more so than anything with you. I wouldn’t take it personally. Weddings can bring out all sorts of weird feelings out for people who aren’t there yet.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

it sounds like your wedding really isn’t a priority for her – if she misses the date to RSVP by, then just make it clear she isn’t invited and that way you are doing her a favour as she’ll get depressed anyway!  

but seriously, i’m sure she didn’t mean you actually depress her, but she is being quite rude so i’d say you’re better off not bothering with her anyway!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

People say and act weird with weddings and babies. It’s just par for the course. I had someone flat out tell me that she hates weddings after I expressed an interest in having her as a bridesmaid. She had a flurry of other excuses as not to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. It was a real slap in the face after I saw her as a supportive friend through my waiting and her issues. After that and even inviting her to my shower, I was done with her and didn’t invite her to the wedding.

Post # 7
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Fricky: Wow, that’s a weird gamut of responses!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

She probably is feeling a bit depressed about her friends getting married when she is not, BUT it was incredibly rude of her to mention it to you in this context.

Sometimes we work way too hard to preserve friendships of questionable value.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

People do say a ton of crazy stuff when everyone around them is getting engaged or married… for example, I’ll quote from my HS best friend who I really don’t talk to anymore- she posted on FB:

Just found out another one of my old friends from high school is engaged / married. Best of luck but well see how it ends up 10 yrs from now.

Ha, id rather wait till I know the person for like 5-10 yrs. U don’t want to just jump into it and set urself up for failure

 

Some people just don’t really think about it before they say it.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 i think she is just being honest, someone said something similar to me when I told them I was getting married and I did feel hurt about it but my husband told me to be glad she had been honest about it rather than faking happiness which a lot of friends would do. I think she is happy for you but just sad that she isnt getting married. I think it took a lot for her to tell you so even though it was a bit selfish for her to bring you down I would just try to understand how she feels too.

Post # 11
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Seriously? Dude, she’s pretty much joking. I can’t believe you’re upset about that…

Post # 12
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2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

send her a text that say “maybe you’ll meet someone at my wedding! who knows!!”

she is prob just upset that its not here..but i dont think she meant it in a rude way. just try to be understanding and laugh it off!

Post # 13
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1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@galloway111: Whoa, that’s incredibly harsh! It’s one thing to think that, but to express it on FB is another story.

Post # 14
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3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@vmec: This. It doesn’t sound like she was trying to be a bitch, so just let it go. 

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