(Closed) Your wedding is not timeless

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@secretbee33:  I love that attitude!  I thought the same thing when I was starting.  I think for the most part mine will be kind of normal, but anything that is “dated” will be good for a laugh!  FI’s cousin wore her mom’s white cowboy hat veil from the 80s for her bachelorette party so you might get some use out of some of the stuff! Haha

They make me happy now so I am sure they will make me happy in the future!

Post # 18
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I LOVE it! In fact, I so look forward to the day when I hopefully have kids or grandkids looking at my wedding album, and giggling about the choices that I thought were so tasteful! That, and I can’t wait to see what they actually like! For example, my grandma got married in the 40s and wore some KICK ASS shoes! Go Grandma! 🙂

Post # 19
8374 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I wanted my wedding to be as elegant, and timeless as possible, so I made choices toward that end. I chose full dress tails and white tie for DH and the groomsmen.  I wore my hair in an updo, with my veil in “traditional” placement (rather than the more modern style of wearing it under the bottom of the updo.) My bridesmaids were in long, strapless gowns for my evening wedding. Our jewelry was elegant and understated, etc.

However, as prior posters noted, even what we currently consider to be “classic and timeless,” of necessity, reflects some original time period.

I am a huge fan of Downton Abbey, and some of the many things I have enjoyed is seeing on that show are fashions that were popular when my grandmothers were in their teens and twenties (and that I thought looked so “dated” and “old fashioned”) being considered to be new, exciting and modern. 🙂

I think as long as brides strive to follow guidelines for fashion (choose figure-flattering silhouettes, remember that “less is more,” i.e. strive to avoid having too many competing elements, etc.) they will look beautiful regardless of the era in which they were married.

Post # 21
2953 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@secretbee33:  Anyone who thinks their wedding will be timeless and that their kids will never secretly scoff at some part of their wedding (be it decor, bridal accessories, dresses, etc) IS IN DENIAL!

It is a snapshot in time. From there, the dating sets in. No biggie.

Post # 23
8066 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes, all weddings will be dated.  Whether it’s your dress, unique touches, other guests, photos, etc.  Something will be dating your wedding, nothing is completely timeless.  Nothing you can do about it!  So nothing to get upset over either.

Post # 24
5317 posts
Bee Keeper

Ours isn’t trendy at all, so it looks pretty much as “dated” now as it will later (not very, because it’s not a bunch of past trends either. Details are either classics or our own unique take on something, which has never particularly been the fashion). There won’t be any kiddie stuff or heavy makeup or anything overly “sexy” or blingy or cutesy or…. anything, that’s really, I guess the word is, distracting…. this is about us getting married, not a bunch of other stuff… our wedding pictures won’t serve as a good reminder of what Pinterest looked like in 2014.

That’s more or less timeless, if you ask me. And that matters to me, in that I want the focus to be clear. If others want trendy weddings (and it seems like many do), well, it’s their weddings, not mine.

Post # 25
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@secretbee33:  I don’t understand the desire to have everything be ‘timeless’.  Having photos that date your wedding only shows how long your marriage has been, why is that a bad thing?  It’s the same with engagement rings.  I think its like earning your stripes, the more dated the photos/ring the more obvious the longevity of your relationship becomes.  I’d rather have a wedding full of things I love now and have it represent ‘us’ than try to pick a bunch of things we assume will still be popular 20 years from now that aren’t truly authentic to us.  It just doesn’t make sense.  

And, really, I don’t give a shite about what other people think in general.  Why would I care what someone 20 years down the road thinks of my wedding?  

Post # 26
4027 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Honestly, I don’t necessarily mind if my wedding ever looks “dated.” Trends come and go and it’s hard to pinpoint what exactly will be “timeless” as even gorgeous dresses from the fifties now look “dated” against a sea of trumpet and mermaid styles. Whatever dress I choose will be perfectly dated in a few decades. It is going to capture a wonderfully happy moment between my Fiance and I at a specific point in our lives. I love looking at my grandparent’s and my parent’s wedding. Do they look dated? Definitely, but that’s what makes them so sentimental to me. I’m leaning towards a tea length dress, but even if I wanted to go wtih a mermaid (which I will admit I personally think will be what “dates” the wedding photos of our generation), it’ll still capture where I was when I got married. 

Post # 27
2766 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@secretbee33:  I’ll be wearing a flower crown too, and so did my mom in the 80s!

I do want a timeless and elegant wedding because that’s my style. I love simplicity, and so did my mom. She had a simple sheath lace dress with 3/4 sleeves, her natural long straight hair, a small flower crown, drop veil for the ceremony, and a small bouquet. She looked so insanely gorgeous, and the photos could be of any wedding today on style me pretty. If she had her old gown, I’d wear it in a heart beat!

I compare her wedding to my aunt’s wedding (2 years after my mom’s), and she had the heavily beaded satin dress with huge puffy sleeves, huge permed hair, heavy eyeliner, pink lipstick, huge bouquet, and multi tiered veil. We make fun of my aunt’s wedding because it’s so 80s, but hey, she was a super stylish trendy women in the 80s! Her wedding reflected her style.

My mom, like me, was reserved and conservative. She didn’t want a pink cake, or puffy sleeves, just like how I don’t want an ombré cake and fit & flare strapless gown. I’m absolutely making decisions that will mean my wedding photos will age well, but that’s just because I don’t follow trends and simplicity suits me. 

Post # 29
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I chose what I loved – one shouldered Vera Wang dress, side swept waves, diamond drop earrings, subtle makeup, sunset beach ceremony, tons of candles, pink and beige peonies, men in black tuxes, etc… everything was beautiful and sophisticated.

We didn’t have a wedding to be timeless.  We had a wedding to celebrate our marriage and had 200 of our closest friends and family there.  We live in the now and don’t really care if our wedding eventually is ‘dated.’  Everyone looked amazing and the photos really reflected the atmosphere, everyone was smiling and having a great time.  And really, that’s all that matters, that you look back and go, ‘wow best night of my life!’




Post # 30
1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t care that my wedding will be outdated. My only hope was that I would personally not look back and think, “what was I thinking!?” because, well, I knew the decisions I was making were ones I would appreciate for years to come. If other people don’t, that’s fine, but I wanted to know I’d love what I did regardless of how time changed things.

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