(Closed) Your wedding pet peeve?

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 107
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think I’m the only one who likes slideshows! Lol

I really don’t like garter tosses, that’s super inappropriate and tacky to me. 

I also HATE cash bars, without advanced warning. 

I dislike vows that aren’t vows. Meaning “future husband, I knew you were the one when we met.. Blah blah blah” that’s not a vow. You’re not promising anything. What’s the point of this ceremony?!

i don’t like not being able to hear the bride and groom during the ceremony. If I can’t hear you, why am I hear? 

Super over the top grand entrances.. 

Long gaps between ceremony and reception. 

 

 

Post # 108
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3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hate the grand entrance into the reception, I’m not a fist pumper, don’t have any choreographed moves up my sleeve…YOU KNOW WHO I DAMN WELL AM.  I just wanna come in, eat dinner and drink some bubbly like everyone else!

Post # 109
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3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@missfroggy:  I agree.  Our speeches went on a little longer than I had anticipated, but I didn’t exactly pre-approve our Maid/Matron of Honor and BM’s speech.  My dad had to actually ask people to quiet down…I was pretty upset about that!

I’m anti-garter toss.  No, I do not want my husband rooting up my dress in front of my grandmother.

Post # 110
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My biggest pet peeve about weddings is that so many people think that their pet peeves trump the bride and groom’s wishes…haha.

But seriously…there isn’t much that makes me cringe…but I’d have to say that one thing that bugs me is when couples choose songs based on the title or one lyric, and don’t pay attention to what the actual song is about. 

For example: Choosing ‘The Dance’ by Garth Brooks as a 1st Dance Song…my friend’s Fiance wanted this song, and I was like ‘Um, that’s not a happy love song…idiot…’ (I didn’t call him an idiot out loud..haha)

Post # 111
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

When the officiant starts using official-style wording and it’s not neccessary.  Ie.  Under the province of Alberta, I now pronounce you… etc.

Post # 112
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I don’t think there’s anything I can think of that I HATE per se but some things I don’t like:

-That stupid picture of the bride & groom both under the bride’s veil. ugh that is not cute to me, I think it looks dumb & I don’t get it. The veil doesn’t block out the world…

-Crappy food with no alternatives. For example: my cousin had only asian food at his wedding and the food SUCKED. I mean no chicken, no veggies, no egg rolls, no beef, nothing. There were some crispy rice sticks & rice (though it had a bunch of gross crap in it so we all picked through it) that we all ate but I can’t even tell you what the other choices were because I didn’t try them & neither did anyone else at my table. my brother ended up leaving and going to mcdonalds to buy food for him, his wife, and 3 kids!

-Long gaps between the wedding & reception

-PEOPLE LETTING THEIR BABIES CRY & SCREAM DURING THE CEREMONY!!!!

 

Post # 114
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G M-A-T-C-H-I-N-G

People are not walls to be ‘decorated’ – they are people. Stahp shoving girls into dresses they hate and making the men pay one hundred dollars to dress in the EXACT SAME SUIT.

I can’t get over how weird this is – that this tradition is still going strong.

Post # 115
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Worker bee

-When people whisper behind the bride and grooms back, during the wedding, about what they would have done different. Tasteless, much?

-When people get vocal about being offended by something the bride/groom do (which leads to the whole bashing pet peeve) such as something religious or personal. A; the invitation should say something about any religious tones of the ceremony/reception (so don’t get offended at bowing your head in prayer or the groom smashing a glass bottle, you know?) And if it was a total surprise? Buck up and move on, it’s not the end of the world. & B; my best friend is going to have an arch constructed of books that are fixed together and her flower girl is going to throw little paper hearts cut out of old love story books (book snobs everywhere just had an aneurysm. We’ve already planned for the backlash she’s going to receive!) in honor of her late Grandmother, who was a book worm. Seriously, the bride and groom are not making you come, they’re inviting you to share in something beautiful that they could of easily (and cheaply) have left you out of completely and you would have probably found out via facebook. Just don’t RSVP if it’s going to be too hard for you to keep your opinions to yourself.

-People that complain. Again, not your wedding. Yes, you are a guest, but so are possibly hundreds of other people. It’s not about you.

This, however, is coming from a maid of honor in an alternative steampunk themed destination wedding. (Ladies and gentlemen; my best friend since forever.) That has woodsy outdoorsy slightly non-traditional plans of her own for her someday-maybe?- nuptials.

Edit: Another best friend of mine got married this summer. I was the veil fluffer/final look, aong with another girl I honestly don’t care for. I was seated in front of this girl and another friend of the birdes that again I don’t care much for (I wasn’t a bridesmaid for personal reasons, hence being the ‘fluffer’ & ‘final look’… anyway) and the ENTIRE ceremony, as my best friend from college and her husband were exchanging their beautiful vows, these two girls made snide, catty, rude comments about being single/not enegaged yet. I finally shot them a nasty look and they shut up. How rude of them! During the reception the first girl asked me point blank if I was bitter about not being a birdesmaid; no. Excecuitive decision on the bride and I’s part. She confessed she was bitter about it, as did the other girl.Well, gee, girls… wonder why. I was included in something very intimate and beautiful, as was the first girl; there should have been no bitterness. And guess what? The bride will be in my bridal part if I ever get married. No questions asked.So yea I guess I don’t know how to put ^that into any other words, but you get the idea.

Post # 116
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

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@Juliepants:  I LOVE the slideshows!!! Love!

and wow can’t believe you had to stand for an hour!! jeeeez

Post # 117
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4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

  • cake smashing. Just… no.
  • big bridesmaids in strapless dresses. Eeeech.
  • long time between ceremony and reception. 2:00 ceremony then a 6pm reception. Figure something else out, people! Aint nobody got TIME for that!
  • and of course last but not leasat… CHILDREN!!! (if the event is formal)

Post # 118
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1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

garter business x 10000. first you have to squirm while you watch the groom go under the bride’s skirt uhhh then two random people are put together and you have to watch, amongst children, elders, your own parents, etc, as the dude does some psuedo-sexy showmanship and creeps up this poor random girls dress? kill me!!!! i HATE this whole act.

Post # 119
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Cake smashing!!! I think it looks silly, but to each their own I guess. But I told my SO how I would feel about it if he smashed cake all over me! Not happening!

Post # 120
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@JFay:  “ My biggest pet peeve about weddings is that so many people think that their pet peeves trump the bride and groom’s wishes…haha.

I agree!

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@BackcountryBarbie:  “-When people whisper behind the bride and grooms back, during the wedding, about what they would have done different. Tasteless, much?” 

“-When people get vocal about being offended by something the bride/groom do (which leads to the whole bashing pet peeve) such as something religious or personal. “

Seriously, the bride and groom are not making you come, they’re inviting you to share in something beautiful that they could of easily (and cheaply) have left you out of completely

Totally agree with all of this!

Post # 121
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsNeutrino:  I’m so anal so I have a lot!

– The “ring of flowers” bridesmaids make around a brides face for photo opp

– The jumping up at the same time photo opp

– Mustache theme anything 

– Shoving cake in each other’s faces

– The Chicken dance

– Garter pulling from her leg… Don’t mind the actual toss though

– Red roses in a bridal bouquet (sorry, ladies!)

– Registry info. on an invite

– Ribbons or bows on an invite

 

I’m sure it sounds like I’m a total ninny but I’m just traditional. 

 

What I like:

– Fun first dances

 – Colored shoes

– Different colored Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses

– Photo booths

– Brides showing their tats

– Parasol parade march (done at New Orleans weddings)

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