(Closed) Your worst etiquette blunder?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Whoopsies!!! A girl I was childhood friends with was in a really rough spot. She was really depressed and down. I don’t really talk to her other than via FB. At some point early on in the planning process I told her of course she was invited to the wedding to cheer her up. I tried to get together with her on numerous occassions but she always fell through on it. Then she totally disappeared from FB and I didn’t hear from her for months. I didn’t even up inviting her and I still feel a bit guilty and awkward about it.

Post # 4
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i forgot to send an invitation to FI’s sister! we used her guest list from her wedding a few months ago and of course she wasnt on her own guest list…so embarrassing.

Post # 6
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I sent an invite to my aunt in the states and figured i’d give her a few weeks before i called to see if she had made up her mind about making the trip for our wedding.  When i called it ended up being, she hadn’t received the invitation at all and had felt slighted that all her siblings had received an invite except for her.  anyways, it ended up being that i was one number off on her house address, so i quickly had to resend a whole new invitation. 

Post # 7
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20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had already asked my friends to be bridesmaids… then my Fiance and I found out we had to pay the wedding ourselves so we decided to just have an intimate ceremony of 50 guests followed by a brunch reception… immediate family only with a couple friends.

We also cut the bridal party down to save on gifts, bouquets, etc… well I thought my Bridesmaid or Best Man would be understanding enough if I explained our financial situation and asked if they would mind maybe having a smaller role in the wedding, like saying a reading or being in charge of the guest book. My future SIL was totally fine with it, but my one friend hasn’t talked to me since. All she said was, “So I’m not a bridesmaid anymore?” I feel awful about it. Etiquette doesn’t lie when they say you can’t “unask” a bridesmaid!! I wish everyday I would have just figured out a better solution 🙁 I hate that I made such a horrific blunder!!

Post # 8
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302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m about to send out our invitations. FI’s dad’s brother’s son has a fiancée, but no one seems to know what her last name is! Soooo I think I’m going to put L— and B— HisLastName and hope for the best… maybe they’ll be married before the wedding?? Hopefully??

Unless anyone has a better suggestion on that one…

Post # 9
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4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t know whether or not it counts as an etiquette blunder or just a blunder, but there are no pictures of me with my husband’s family from the wedding, nor he with mine. There is a picture of the two of us with his parents, but none with his siblings or grandmother or anything, even though a family picture was taken of all of them together. It just completely slipped my mind (and my Mother-In-Law is still kicking herself for it). My Brother-In-Law thinks he can photoshop me in though 😉

Post # 10
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Miss BBQ: We had this issue.  We just put “John Smith & Jane”.  I asked my husband’s family about 50 times to find out her name, and they were too lazy to do it.  In the end they couldn’t come, and they signed their regrets card “John Smith & Jane”.  So I still don’t know her last name!  🙂

Post # 11
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4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Miss BBQ:

Have your Fiance or your Future Father-In-Law ask him! Seems like a no-brainer

Post # 14
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302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Atalanta: FI doesn’t actually know his cousin at all. I thought maybe if they were facebook friends I could stalk the guy and find out his FI’s name, but no dice! Future Father-In-Law hasn’t been able to find out anything beyond her first name.

@Brianalaura: I was going to put her name first, so it just looks like I thought they were already married. Smile

@Melini: Haha, this is awesome! If I had ever met them, I would totally do that. Since no one in FI’s family is close to him though, I don’t want him to think his cousin’s wife is a total freak lol!

Post # 15
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I consistently misspelled my husband’s stepmom’s uncle’s name on our Save the Date and invitation envelopes.  Didn’t even realize it until I got their wedding gift in the mail with the correct spelling.  And I was way, way off.  Like it wasn’t even the same name.  But in my defense, I’ve never met this person and my Father-In-Law is the one who sent me his address with the wrong spelling.  So I just went off of that info.  But when I saw what his actual name was, I just about died.

Post # 16
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132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I kind of covered quickly my biggest blunder so far.  We had originally decided to do couple invites for those married, engaged or living together.  I did a Facebook creep on all my cousins and his to find out all the info.  Turned out the only cousins who seemed to have significant others were married or engaged and my FI’s one cousin who wasn’t did live with their girl.  They ended up announcing their engagement before we did the invitations.  Well we sent them out (yes extra early) and then I got a message from my mom asking why some of my cousins didn’t get plus ones.  I started to explain about the married engaged, living with rule and how none of the ones who didn’t get a plus one met that.  She then proceeded to tell me that one of my cousins had just moved in with a guy.  So I then was like oh I meant married or engaged (I didn’t know that cousin had a bf even).  

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