(Closed) You're a girlfiriend, do you expect to be a bridesmaid?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
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  • Post # 62
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @inspiration86:  Serioulsy FMIL’s will try to force you into stuff.  Mine tried to force her daughter as my MC and said the girl would be offended if i didnt.  Oh hellll naw. 

    But your Fiance needs to be supporting you here!! Its your decision, you made it, he needs to tell his mother to drop it. 

    Post # 64
    3525 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    If they were engaged, it would be a good reason to seriously consider having her, but they’re not. 

    And she didn’t even accept your FB friend request? No. Definitely not. Clearly this girl has no interest whatsoever in being friends with YOU. If you two were friends, then that would be another story.

    Post # 66
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @inspiration86: Just a girlfriend??? Absolutely not. I would understand your MIL’s reaction, maybe, if they were engaged. But they are not even headed towards marriage yet. Stick to your guns and explain that you have asked people you are close to. Tell her that your bridesmaids are chosen and that’s that. 

    Post # 67
    2426 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @inspiration86:  Stick to your guns. This girl only wants to be a bm for selfish reasons and your fmil is being unreasonable and playing favorites. Do not give in. Tell your fi that he will get it worst from you if you’re forced to have her in your wedding. It’s not your fmil’s wedding day after all. 

    Post # 70
    1626 posts
    Bumble bee

    @inspiration86:  Hi inspiration!  So I am one of the few ‘yes’ votes here but here is why:  My BF has more than one brother, and they have significant others.  One of my BFs brother’s girlfriends and I get along very well, and we’ve joked that if we lived in the same city or even state we know we’d be great friends.  We have bonded a lot in our times hanging out with our BF’s family and the most recent one was for their older brother to get married.  We were not invited to be apart of their wedding party at all, or participate in wedding party functions, and honestly, we don’t click with her the same way because she doesn’t make the same effort that we do to get along.

    We both joked during the wedding that we would be in each other’s weddings-but our BF’s also come from a large family so we might need each other to fill in possibly gaps in the party lol!  I will say this though, I can see myself wanting the one future SIL in the wedding but not the other and we joked about that too but its unclear how rude this may be?  who knows.  This is stress I won’t have to worry about until AFTER the engagement hahaha.  

    I have read through some of your comments and it seems like my story is a little different than yours, the only way there would be pressure from the family is if they felt like we were leaving the other SIL, but, it’s not like we were invited into her party!  good luck! it’s your wedding woman!





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