(Closed) You’re curvy… Compliment or a polite way to say “Your fat”

posted 12 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

lol  thanks ejs. I know I’m overly sensitive when people say things like that but it is hurtful.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh my gosh ejs4y8, did we have the same mother???

My mom always used my weight to control me.  I wasn’t heavy, I just had a few extra pounds.  We didn’t have a lot of money, so she’d use losing weight to try to bribe me “if you lose 10 pounds, I’ll buy you a new swimsuit” or “if you lose 10 pounds, you will sing better”… she always used the “no one will love you if you are overweight” line ALOT.  When we’d go try on new clothes for the school year – instead of saying you each have a budget of 50 dollars, we’d walk in with an armful of stuff and she’d tell us we didn’t look good in stuff until we walked out with only one outfit…

It took me a LONG time to deal with that – I still have a negative body image because of it!!!

Sorry to hijack the thread – but I had to comisserate!

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

To me curvy is sexy, when I think about willowy models and actresses yes they’re pretty and there’s something almost fairy like about them, an innocence to them. But I like the sexiness of Marylin Monroe and Liz Taylor over the waify innocence of Mia farrow and Audrey Hepburn, don’t get me wrong, I think Audrey is one of the most iconic and stunning women of our time and she wore it extremely well but I think (and I think she’s been quoted on this) even audrey would have preferred to look a little more womanly.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JadeBlue- I agree with you. I think curvy is more of a “waist-to-bust ratio” or “waist-to-hip ratio”.

MrsJellyBean – I’ve always been larger on the bottom and was really insecure because of it. Most of the time, if you’re called curvy, it’s a compliment! However, the first few times I was called curvy I was really denfensive. I’m sorry that someone’s comment made you feel this way!! Something that may help, google “curvy actresses” and see who is brought up! When I did, it came up with Scarlett Johanson, Kate Winslet, Beyonce, Selma Hayek, Katy Perry, Kim Kardashian, Jessica Simpson, etc… and all of these woman are beautiful, IMO!

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We can’t really control what people call us, but we can control how we interpret it. Someone called you curvy? Run with it and assume she was referring to your amazing hips/butt/boobs!! Forget whatever else she might have meant and take it as a compliment. Case in point: I have really curly hair that gets huge when it is humid outside. My dad, who doesn’t really like my natural curl, often comments on how “big” it is and how poofy it is. Of course it’s big! It’s naturally curly hair. It’s a huge, awesome curly mess and I have to remind myself that I love it that way.

Post # 37
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Busy bee

Cricket, one of the beauties of humanity is how we all prefer and like and think different things are sexy.  You comment can be read to imply that it is an objective truth that one body type is sexier than another – I don’t think that’s true.  That Audrey Hepborn would have prefered to be more curvy tells us nothing more than if Merilyn Monroe wanted to be thinner – only that women are likely to be disatisfied with their bodies no matter what their bodies are like. 

Post # 38
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Blushing bee

I would love to be called curvy. I love the way womens body’s were in the roman time. Had meat on them. I don’t like dog bones. he he he.

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i really don’t think she meant it as an insult.  i think she reacted, or as some have said, sticking her foot as opposed to your reaction.  i was talking to both of my bff’s and they told me i have an hourglass figure (ooooh really) ’cause i am in a serious size 16.  but i am working on getting in a 12. 

 

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

ok seriously?!?!  people responding on here are size 4?!  what are you doing in full-figured?  I always call myself curvy, but now that I hear your responses about being size 4 and 6 I’m F~ing FAT!!!

Post # 42
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Blushing bee

Campbell – take a deep breath already.  *Curvy* is not limited to a sizes above x-size only. 

As an aside, it’s not okay to *skinny bash* just like it’s not okay to talk down about larger sizes.

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@MissCosmo: Amen, sister friend!!!

I don’t think she meant you were looking fat…. especially with all the back pedaling she did!! Seriously, had she said you’re “husky” or “big-boned” then you’d have every right to knock the girl out (and I’d help!), but I totally believe she was trying to compliment you. Curvy is sexy! Like a pp said: It’s the bust-waist-hip ratio that classifies someone as curvy, not their weight.  Work those curves! Nothing is sexier than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin & is confident.

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well….yea I had to jump in and put my 2 cents in…lol…I am a 14-16 and LOVE my curves and bootay!!!  I thank God every day for my body and love knowing I look like a woman and not a pre pubescent boy lol

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Babe, if she was comparing you to Marylyn Monroe, that my friend is soooo a complement :0)

Curvy = sexy, boobs and booty, however is someone were to call me ‘voluptuous’, I wouldn’t quite know how to take that.

Post # 45
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Wannabee

If you like old movies watch “Gentlemen Prefer Blondes” Now those gals know how to flaunt their stuff. Sure it’s a little cheesey but it’s also kind of fun. Then tell me you don’t feel better about your curves.

I’m just Marilyn’s height but my waste isn’t as small as hers was reported to have been.(22inches) She honestly had some very unusual proportions.

Still I look at footage of Marilyn and think how nice that media valued curvacious bodies like hers before they became obsessed with thinness, boy butts and giraff ladies. Basically everything I am not. Not tall, super thin or light boned.

Basically I’m the other kind of woman, average height, solid build, hourglass curvy, rock my skirt collection!

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