Post # 1
This is not something that I’m necessarily “upset” about, just find it bewildering. After I got engaged, I’m noticing that some family members /friends are rushing into serious relationships and even talking about marriage (1 month in, 2 months in, etc). It’s not just one couple, as I’ve seen it a few times. My feeling is “why???” I wouldn’t want anyone to rush it only to find out it’s wrong for them. I’m not worried about people stealing my thunder, just amazed that people would rush so much!
I don’t attribute it to my engagement necessarily, but it’s just a huge coincidence. Some of these people had previously said they weren’t ready for serious relationships/marriage. And I also think there’s added pressure, because in my culture, you can’t get married too late into your twenties.
Anyone else experience this?
Post # 3
I think it’s just the timing for everyone around me right now. Everyone is in their junior/senior year of college which is PRIME engagement time. Literally 90% of the people around me have gotten engaged at this time so there are tons of weddings this summer! I’m excited though I love weddings and at least ours is first! lol
Post # 4
I didn’t post this under emotional, but okay lol
Post # 5
Hmm, I can definitely see that with you. My circle is mostly out of college. I guess we’re all at the right age? Weird.
Post # 6
@MrsP0801: I experienced this too.
I had single friends start planning their wedding too, had my cousin’s now Ex-wife try to plan a vowel renewal (they divorced a year later), and I had a relative start talking about marrying her boyfriend too.
People want love, they want stability and when they see someone close getting it naturally they want it too.
Post # 7
I doubt very much that it has anything to do with your engagement. It’s just the time of year for this sort of thing.
Post # 8
@MrsP0801: I’d say it’s probably a combo of the age and the time of the year. Congrats on your engagement though! 🙂
Post # 10
@MrsP0801: My aunt got remarried before I was even engaged and every lady in my family (grandmother, mom, aunts, cousins) all started pushing me to try to figure out what I want so I could get everything set after the proposal. At that point I didnt even know there would be a proposal in the coming year, yes I knew we wanted to be together but I wasnt sitting on the edge of my chair waiting for it. I think once people know someone is getting married everyone just is curious to peek at wedding stuff.
Post # 11
Yeah a lot of people engaged right before and after me. But I don’t think it’s weird, because I know that it has nothing to do with them and it’s their own life.
So I’m just happy for everyone being in love, and I don’t find it weird.
Post # 12
I agree with prior posters who are commenting that age and time of year likely are the reasons.
Post # 13
Hmm I guess I never noticed it before, but I know other couples that got engaged right after we did. I think it’s just likely that you’ll have friends of similar ages that are in the same “phases” of their lives. When we got engaged we were definitely ready to settle down, so it’d be unlikely that we’d be hanging out with people who were still partying/exploring/etc.
Post # 14
Hey guys!! all valid responses…and you’re probably right..everyone’s probably ready to settle down, which makes complete sense!
Just a few examples of why I found it weird:
1) friend of mine met a guy and was planning to purchase a home and get married within one month of starting to date.
2) other friend recently started dating someone (last two months) and she is already “waiting”
Post # 15
I didn’t sort this, but posts often get moved to topics where they seem to fit a bit better. (For example, lot of non-wedding things are posted in “Beehive” but that’s for wedding related topics that don’t already have a topic board. People post wedding stuff in “The Lounge,” but it’s actually the Not Wedding Related equivalent of the Beehive.) Just an general FYI. Don’t worry about it though. ; )
Post # 16
I can comment on the other end of things. My SO and I have been together for almost 4 years, and for a long time we never talked about getting engaged/married becasue the topic never really came up – none of our friends or older siblings were anywhere near being engaged.
In the last year, there have been a handful of friends and family of ours who have gotten engaged/married, including people who we are both very close to. This naturally brought up the topic of engagement more and started us thinking honestly about if it will happen for us (and if so, when.) I just think friends and family getting engaged makes the idea less distant and daunting to people especially guys lol.