Post # 46
I sometimes talk to my DH about his diet. He eats a lot of crap and I’m always at him to eat more solid meals and less snacks. Coming in to a competition, he will comment on things I eat, usually because he’s worried I won’t make weight or thinks I’m eating too little, but my S&C coach is always on my butt about my weight so DH is t too naggy. I always coment him if he looks nice, and he comments me if I look nice.
Post # 47
We don’t talk about each other’s weight, but my husband has no problem discussing my appearance and doing so bluntly. I’m trying to coach him to be more polite about it and I’m also trying to coach myself to take less offense. I don’t comment on his appearance because I consider it mean and even though he claims he wouldn’t mind, I’m not going to say things that make me uncomfortable. His eating and exercise habits don’t give any cause for alarm from a health perspective, but if they did, I’d speak up. Finally, I’ve tried twice to start eating better since we’ve been married (he does 85% of the cooking and he believes in butter, oil and salt. Big time) and when I’ve tried to gently talk to him about including more veggies or baking instead of frying he just kinda shut down and stopped cooking or cooked for himself only leaving me to fend for myself after a long day of work. Anyway, I wish he knew how to be supportive of my efforts to eat well.
Post # 48
we talk about our weight/ appearance a lot. I’ve been growing my hair out and he has been telling me how much he likes it long. If I’ve gained a few lbs or lost a few I’ll ask him if it shows. he also commented the other day that my upper body looks a lot different than it did las year when I tried on a bikini ( my arms are thinner) we don’t say negative things or anything hurtful, just observations. we both take good care of ourselves, he works out a lot and fitness is very important to him ( for himslef, he doesn’t care if I work out thank god!) and I have a weight range that I like to stay within. I’ll tell him if his arms and chest look bigger or smaller, or if he’s looking a little puffy. I know I can ask him if a pair of jeans is too tight an giving me a muffin top and he will answer truthfully, but not be mean about it. I also know that he loves my body and thinks I’m the sexiest woman ever so even if he is saying something I don’t love hearing it’s not hateful or cruel and it doesn’t make me feel like crap.
Post # 49
I would rather not and I have never fluctuated more than 15 pounds. I think it would inhibit me from enjoying sex if he mentioned it openly.
Post # 50
Do you and your partner openly and honestly discuss each others weight or appearance? Nope
Do you wish your partner would speak up more or would you prefer him/her to speak up less/not at all? Not at all
Do you speak up when you feel like your partner is gaining weight or ect.? Nope
Weight is a touchy subject to me! Unless it is detrimental to his/my health- my lips are sealed and so should be his.
Unless he/I gaining 10+lbs and it is going to affect his health
Post # 51
- Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.
And this goes with anybody I’ve been with…unless their health is being adversely affected I do not mention it. That can also account for being too thin. <br /><br />FI, since I’ve known him, has been anywhere between 210 lbs & a size 32 (when he was working out hXc in jail) and 270 & size 44 (when we first met). He is 230 now & a 34/36. He is also 6’3″-6’4″. I don’t think he looks better at a specific weight and honestly thought it was always ubber cute that he has love handles. The first time he took his clothes off in front of me I was like “YUM! Big,sexy man about to be on top of me!” 😉
Abs and super-flat stomachs honestly look weird to me. XP I never got the appeal.
As for me…he has never commented about my body in any form of that matter except unless I lost weight. I’ve also never been above a size 4,though. I’m turning 22.
Post # 52
we are really open. its usually me putting myself down and him bringin me up but over the last seven years there has been times where hes told me that i have cellulite or seomthing. i tell him all the time… you are gunna wear that? but he has said that to me about church before. lol. i go up and fix his hair all the time. oddly enough there will be a dress i really like that he wont..? idk why. my DH doesnt really gain wieght. when he does, he looses it fast because his work is physical and its due to my cooking. . for myself well ive been loosing wieght over the last years and obsese over it. so in a way i never really give him a chance to complain about it. he usually tells me im perfect…. but i could loose 5 pounds.. doesnt bother me cuz i agree.