(Closed) "You're giving me naughty pictures on wedding day? WHY"

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Can you give it to him the night before the wedding?  I mean getting ready, having the guys/family over he may be worried about other people seeing it.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@HisIrishPrincess:  I agree.  I think giving it to him the night before at the end of the rehearsal dinner is a much better option.  Otherwise the other guys he might be getting ready with will probably want to see what he has and that might make him uncomfortable.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

@MissFireFlower:  I am in the same boat! I have booked a session with our wedding photog, she does both boudoir and weddings. The other day, I showed Fiance some examples of her boudoir, and he thought it was “weird” to have photos like that.

Now I don’t know what to do. I didn’t tell him I already booked yet. I think I may still do it. Partly because I have worked really hard to get in shape and tone my body and I am proud of the way I look and partly because I think he will enjoy them (hopefully).

But I have yet to decide what to do….

ETA: Maybe give it to him on your honeymoon or wedding night?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@MissFireFlower:  If I were doing a boudoir session, I would mostly be doing it for myself. Keep the pictures and appreciate them! It’ll be nice to look at those 50 years from now and remember that you are hot stuff!

Post # 9
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202 posts
Helper bee

I had never heard of boudoir photos until one of my bridesmaids suggested it to me.  I wasnt keen on the idea but I brought it up to Darling Husband (then FI) to see if he would like me to do it.  He also thinks theyre weird and didnt like the idea.  Some guys just arent into it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissFireFlower:  When I gave Darling Husband the boudoir album that I had made I pulled him aside during the rehearsal dinner while everyone else was eating.  We took like 5-10 minutes to exchange our gifts to one another, and he was able to put it back in the box I put it in and take it home with him discreetly.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband felt the same way when I explained to him that boudoir photography was getting popular as a gift to grooms on wedding day. He doesn’t get it at all and wouldn’t want me parading in lingerie in front of a photographer. Luckily, I wasn’t interested in it either.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with PP. Don’t give it to him on the actual day. It sounds like he might be kind of embarrassed about it with all the people around him. Why can’t you wrap it, and give it to him to open later when he’s alone? Yeah, he may suspect something, but at least he won’t have to get nervous with all the guys over and he will still be able to appreciate it.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Bees,

 

I can tell you from a past experience that your man may NOT like this idea AT ALL!!  I’ve known my FH since high school (1994 ouch!) and I thought while we were dating that he would like a “calendar” of myself for him to enjoy.  Boy was I wrong!  He didn’t tell me at the time but years later he told me that he didn’t really like that.  He said he doesn’t like the idea of some “photograper” getting to take pics of me dressed like I was.

Think about it bees… Would we like our men being gawked at by some woman behind a lens.  We think that because the media plays up women being “sex” objects that we need to become one for him to be pleased.  Yeah, men look but they don’t want one of these for his “wife”.

My advice, don’t do it!

Michelle

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m getting some done by my photographer but my Fiance is excited about it.  My photographer is a woman, so that helps.  I can tell you he would NOT be thrilled about it if it was a man!  I’m going to give them to him maybe the morning the day before (sometime while we’re still at home) so I don’t have to take them to the hotel or anything.  Maybe give them to him a day or two before?

Honestly, I’m doing them more for myself than for him! Smile

Post # 15
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Honey bee

@chelle1011:  Well, my photographer is a woman and I don’t think my Fiance is worried about me being gawked at. I think he just hadn’t really heard of the idea before and was unfamiliar with it.

Like I said in my previous post, I am thinking about doing it partially for myself. I see nothing wrong with being comfortable in your own body and being proud of it.

ETA: I also don’t see most boudoir representing woman solely as “sex objects.” Yes, they are intimate and sexy, but that doesn’t degrade our status as women.

 

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