(Closed) You're not a bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
47412 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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flowersa09:  You are not obligated to ask them.

If they are upset and mention it to you, you can simply say (especially to the older cousin who is already married) how difficult you found it to choose from the many deserving friends and relatives. If they are polite enough to not mention it to you, don’t do or say anything.

There is nothing you can do to control how they feel. If yoyu want, you could ask them to fill another role- do a reading perhaps?

Post # 3
1981 posts
Buzzing bee

You’re not obligated to ask anyone to be in your wedding. Ask who you want. 

Post # 4
9251 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

As pp’s have said you are not obligated to ask anyone to be in your bridal party. I would also not mention it unless she directly asks you if she is your bridesmaid.

Post # 5
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You are definitely not obligated. If they seem upset to not be included, maybe you can give them another job such as handing out programs at the ceremony.

Post # 7
587 posts
Busy bee

If you don’t ask them to do a reading, I’d just let them enjoy being a guest. If you think they are already miffed by not being a bridesmaid, I think asking them to do a job such as handing out programs would be insulting to them IMO.

Post # 8
85 posts
Worker bee

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flowersa09:  It is your wedding, and you are not obligated to ask them! Just be honest and Im sure they’ll understand. 

Post # 9
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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flowersa09:  like others have said, its your day! You dont have to ask them to be in your wedding. But if it is pulling at you, having them be apart of the wedding in another way is a very sweet gesture. But don’t be gulited into including them, do what YOU want 🙂

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